please help! need quick weight loso tips.

I really need to help my teen girls lose weight quickly. They are 5ft 6 and over 200lbs. I'm really worried about them. I'm not exactly small myself so I've been on a protein shake diet for a few weeks. I take a multi-vitamins that i got from Costco and I've been drinking 2 shakes a day and have lost 5lbs. The shake i drink has a little over 100 calories, no sugar, no fat and some vitamins in it. Would it be OK for my girls to do this for a few weeks. Ultimately I'm going to ask a doctor before i make any final decisions, but i want to know if anyone here has a similar circumstance and what they are doing about it? Please, any advice is welcome. Thank you in advance for your assistance.

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  • notworthstalking
    notworthstalking Posts: 531 Member
    Unfortunately it really isn't okay for you to lose weight with the method you have mentioned. For yourself you can use this site and the app to work out how many calories you can eat etc , and lose weight in a healthy manner. This site isn't for under 18s. There is a site others mention called spark teens. This is suitable for your daughters. Please do this in a healthy way.
  • November_Fire
    November_Fire Posts: 165 Member
    They need to tackle their relationship with food and their long-term eating habits. Choking down a few shakes and pills isn't going to sort out whatever got them fat in the first place.

    1. Identify what that was. For my parents, they eat every meal wrapped in white bread, they mainline biscuits and crisps throughout the day and drink copious amounts of alcohol. Someone else I know can't cook, so eats takeout food a lot. Others throw lots of oil and butter into their cooking and have daily, rich desserts. What is it that caused your daughters to take in more calories than they needed? Identify that root cause.

    2. Make changes to that root cause. If they're big snackers, get the biscuits and cakes out of the house, replace with strawberries, blueberries and melon (all very low cal. I challenge anyone to get fat on those.) Look up ideas for protein-rich snacks which will keep them fuller longer. If they don't exercise, get them each to take up an activity - it doesn't really matter what (not knitting, for example.) If you drive them to school, can they walk?

    3. Make small changes you can stick to, not huge ones that will be tough and feel like a challenge.

    4. Consider the above for yourself too. You won't be on shakes and vitamins forever, and once you stop them you're going to eat the same way you always have. Make the changes for you too.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    In before the lock.

    Also, please do no do this to your daughters. If they are willing, and if it is necessary for their health, then put them on a reasonable calorie deficit.
    Oh, yeah, and do some sort of exercise with them.

    What you are doing is unhealthy and unsustainable. Even if you (all) do manage to lose weight, then you'll gain it all back once you go back to nomal eating.

    Develop healthy eating and exercise habits WITH your daughters. Focus on their (and your) long-term health. Learn how to eat and take care of yourselves.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    1. Why do they need to lose weight quickly?
    2. Only 200 calories per day is an anorexic diet.
    3. No fat would cause their bodies to start shutting down.
  • lemonlionheart
    lemonlionheart Posts: 580 Member
    Hoo boy.

    Ok, have your daughters actually expressed to you that they'd like your help with losing weight? You need to be super careful here because it can be pretty easy for teenage girls to develop body issues and disordered relationships with food. I was devastated when my mother told me I needed to lose weight and I resented her for years because of it, and I wasn't able to successfully take that step until well after I'd left home.

    Please don't let your daughters see you go on unhealthy diets. The absolute best thing you can do for them is set a good example by having healthy food in the house, offer to go on walks or other exercise with them, tell them you are doing it for your own health. Please don't tell them they need to lose weight quickly. Quick weight loss is unhealthy and unsustainable for an adult, let alone a child. Learn about nutrition, exercise and calories, and if/when they are ready to take that step and adopt a healthy lifestyle you can be there to educate and support them.
  • Stopin_da_yoyo
    Stopin_da_yoyo Posts: 138 Member
    I can only speak for myself but I am sure that many here can probably agree but this isnt going to be a quick thing. I agree with the previous posts and then maybe think about talking to your family doctor.

    I know that as a kid I was always chubby...the nice friend type guy. Later I started lifting and liked it and did more. Soon at 16 yrs old I was benching over 300# and you might think I was in great shape? Happy? Nope to both. I was still around 220# and 5'8". I never really looked at the full picture of what I was doing and the impact down the road.

    I wish I had someone to talk to back then about nutrition and exercising!!! I never focused on aerobic activity, it was always...lets goto the weight room and lift. Later, I got on powerlifting team and still no balance....still overweight.

    I can figure most things out now but back then it would have saved me years of grief if I had someone to help.

    You may want to think about doing this as a family./ Good eating / healthy habits.
  • matthehat
    matthehat Posts: 38 Member
    If I were you I would get off this costco protein shake diet ASAP! It sounds extremely unhealthy and dangerous. Having your daughters start something like that at such a young age will prove very detrimental to their health. Start reading the Stickies and start exercising, your daughters will see how healthy your getting and probably want to join in!
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,230 Member
    Dear god, please do NOT even consider putting your kids on that shake diet, or anything like it. That will do nothing but set them up for a life of fad diets and a completely unhealthy relationship with food.

    Get the word 'quick' out of your vocabulary. Do NOT suddenly inflict a big restrictive diet on your girls. Make small, sustainable changes and keep the focus on 'healthy' and NOT on 'fast'. Trying to make them lose weight fast will backfire horribly.

    To be honest, your whole post horrified me. You sound like you have a very unhealthy relationship with food (200 calories a day is starvation) and you don't seem to have an issue passing that onto your teenagers.
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    So you are going to pass your unhealthy relationship on to your daughters?

    Stop trying to find a quick fix and actually start learning about proper nutrition and safe healthy ways to lose weight for yourself. Stop with the shakes and other quick fixes that don't work long term. If you work on your relationship with food, your daughter's will see this. Go out as a family for a walk, a bike ride something but get rid of the shakes.

    Log your food accurately and honestly. Go for 80% good choices the other 20% don't worry so much about. There is no reason to be miserable. I eat lots of delicious food and have consistently lost. Keep it simple find a REASONABLE deficit: Most people do not need to eat 1200 calories to lose.

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Log your food accurately and honestly this thread will help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    Find an activity you enjoy doing - I found I love to ride my bike and lift heavy stuff :)

    Here are 2 more threads that will help take the time to read them:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
  • MaggieLoo79
    MaggieLoo79 Posts: 288 Member
    Is it possible that the OP meant that she replaces two meals a day with shakes and then eats dinner (hopefully healthy)? That's not a healthy plan either, I know, but it's better than 200 calories a day!!!
  • _Zardoz_
    _Zardoz_ Posts: 3,987 Member
    Go talk to your doctor or a medical professional
  • gypsy_spirit
    gypsy_spirit Posts: 2,107 Member
    1. As a mother, you are the role model for your daughters. What exactly are you trying to teach them? You have an unhealthy relationship with food and what you DO is so much more powerful then what you SAY to them.

    2. Why do they need to lose weight fast? If your past experience has not taught you this yet - learn this now: You can not outsmart your body. Your brain is geared for your survival - regardless of what you do. Better to teach your daughters about health. When their habits become more healthy - weight loss almost always happens.

    3. Talk to your doctor (for your health) and talk to your daughter's doctor (for their health).

    4. Educate yourself by reading the links posted earlier in this thread.


    Edited for early morning spelling. :flowerforyou:
  • bonjovi27
    bonjovi27 Posts: 144 Member
    Don't look here for help for them. Go to your doctor. They will give the best advice for growing teenagers.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    Go talk to your doctor or a medical professional

    This. Definitely this.

    Don't pass along your unhealthy relationship with food to your kids.


    Also...
    So you are going to pass your unhealthy relationship on to your daughters?

    Stop trying to find a quick fix and actually start learning about proper nutrition and safe healthy ways to lose weight for yourself. Stop with the shakes and other quick fixes that don't work long term. If you work on your relationship with food, your daughter's will see this. Go out as a family for a walk, a bike ride something but get rid of the shakes.

    Log your food accurately and honestly. Go for 80% good choices the other 20% don't worry so much about. There is no reason to be miserable. I eat lots of delicious food and have consistently lost. Keep it simple find a REASONABLE deficit: Most people do not need to eat 1200 calories to lose.

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Log your food accurately and honestly this thread will help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    Find an activity you enjoy doing - I found I love to ride my bike and lift heavy stuff :)

    Here are 2 more threads that will help take the time to read them:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    It sounds like you do not know how to eat a balanced diet and so your kids too suffer because of this. Talk to their dr and ask a reference to a specialist, to get a proper nutritional plan for their age, which will allow them to get to a healthy weight withou risking their health or gaining everything back. Fast diets are not the way to go, not for an adult, and certainly not for kids.
  • kethry70
    kethry70 Posts: 404 Member
    I just want to ditto the previous posters - read all the threads posted above by jwhite and talk to your kids' doctors. Be healthy :flowerforyou:
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    So you are going to pass your unhealthy relationship on to your daughters?

    Stop trying to find a quick fix and actually start learning about proper nutrition and safe healthy ways to lose weight for yourself. Stop with the shakes and other quick fixes that don't work long term. If you work on your relationship with food, your daughter's will see this. Go out as a family for a walk, a bike ride something but get rid of the shakes.

    Log your food accurately and honestly. Go for 80% good choices the other 20% don't worry so much about. There is no reason to be miserable. I eat lots of delicious food and have consistently lost. Keep it simple find a REASONABLE deficit: Most people do not need to eat 1200 calories to lose.

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Log your food accurately and honestly this thread will help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    Find an activity you enjoy doing - I found I love to ride my bike and lift heavy stuff :)

    Here are 2 more threads that will help take the time to read them:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    and also...
    1. As a mother, you are the role model for your daughters. What exactly are you trying to teach them? You have an unhealthy relationship with food and what you DO is so much more powerful then what you SAY to them.

    2. Why do they need to lose weight fast? If your past experience has not taught you this yet - learn this now: You can not outsmart your body. Your brain is geared for your survival - regardless of what you do. Better to teach your daughters about health. When their habits become more healthy - weight loss almost always happens.

    3. Talk to your doctor (for your health) and talk to your daughter's doctor (for their health).

    4. Educate yourself by reading the links posted earlier in this thread.

    Seriously...your plan is a
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  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    Very. Bad. Ideal. :noway:
  • SugaryLynx
    SugaryLynx Posts: 2,640 Member
    So you are going to pass your unhealthy relationship on to your daughters?

    Stop trying to find a quick fix and actually start learning about proper nutrition and safe healthy ways to lose weight for yourself. Stop with the shakes and other quick fixes that don't work long term. If you work on your relationship with food, your daughter's will see this. Go out as a family for a walk, a bike ride something but get rid of the shakes.

    Log your food accurately and honestly. Go for 80% good choices the other 20% don't worry so much about. There is no reason to be miserable. I eat lots of delicious food and have consistently lost. Keep it simple find a REASONABLE deficit: Most people do not need to eat 1200 calories to lose.

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Log your food accurately and honestly this thread will help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    Find an activity you enjoy doing - I found I love to ride my bike and lift heavy stuff :)

    Here are 2 more threads that will help take the time to read them:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    and also...
    1. As a mother, you are the role model for your daughters. What exactly are you trying to teach them? You have an unhealthy relationship with food and what you DO is so much more powerful then what you SAY to them.

    2. Why do they need to lose weight fast? If your past experience has not taught you this yet - learn this now: You can not outsmart your body. Your brain is geared for your survival - regardless of what you do. Better to teach your daughters about health. When their habits become more healthy - weight loss almost always happens.

    3. Talk to your doctor (for your health) and talk to your daughter's doctor (for their health).

    4. Educate yourself by reading the links posted earlier in this thread.

    Seriously...your plan is a
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    ^All this
  • Debssssssssss
    Debssssssssss Posts: 84 Member
    Wow. You need to educate yourself on how weight loss works, nutrition and fitness. AND THEN educate your daughters.
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
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