How much does what others think/opine about you...........

ninerbuff
ninerbuff Posts: 48,982 Member
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really stick with or bother you? On a scale from 1-10 (1 being the lowest) do you rate outside opinion about you? Personally I think that way too many people take others opinions on them much more seriously than they need to. I'm not speaking of opinions that IF someone needs to change a bad habit (drugs, addiction, etc.), but more so in the lines of how they should look, clothing they wear, their height, etc.

I really don't bother with how I'm viewed by many at all. So I would say a 2.5.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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  • chrisdavey
    chrisdavey Posts: 9,834 Member
    3.

    IDGAF :smile:

    I train for me. (And because I like training)

    I don't like it if people think I am big headed just because of how I look now. Self esteem isn't about how you look IMO. Much more to it than that.
  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
    Probably a solid 9.
  • gmallan
    gmallan Posts: 2,099 Member
    Probably about a 6, more than I'd like really

    “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
    ― Eleanor Roosevelt
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    Way more than I should. Probably an 8.
  • YearsWorthOfFAT
    YearsWorthOfFAT Posts: 210
    I guess a seven. I should stop caring so much. I used to be worse, though.
  • RiniSixxx
    RiniSixxx Posts: 54 Member
    I'd say 10. People i grew up with were a little rough.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,982 Member
    Does anyone here feel that the opinions of others have also dictated your weight loss journey?

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • TheLadyBane
    TheLadyBane Posts: 299 Member
    I tend to brush of negative opinions but value compliments. Negative comments get about a 1 or 2 from me. I'm able to shake those off pretty well. I value compliments and hold on to those. In the past I've brushed off compliments but that is just silly. If I compliment someone I mean it and I wouldn't want them to brush it off as an empty comment. So I've made an effort to genuinely embrace and appreciate compliments when they are given to me. I'd give those about an 8-9.

    As for how other people's opinions have affected my journey, not much. I am doing it for me. But it is always nice to get positive feedback.
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    about an 8 when it comes to PEOPLE that know me in real life . On here 0.5

    unfortunately I gave myself an 8 because what people say about me/think about me does impact me lot but this necessarily isn't the worst thing as we can always improve on ourselves :)
  • eyley
    eyley Posts: 95 Member
    3ish - being generous.

    Couldn't give a shiny *kitten* what people think of me.

    If you like me then cool, let's be friends. If you don't then you can foxtrot oscar

    :)
  • felonebeats
    felonebeats Posts: 433
    dgaf
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Does anyone here feel that the opinions of others have also dictated your weight loss journey?

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    No, how my body feels dictates my weight loss efforts. If I felt comfortable at this weight and thought I were healthy nobody would mind or if they did they would not be able to influence me much, they don't really speak up though.
  • mybeesknees
    mybeesknees Posts: 633
    Does anyone here feel that the opinions of others have also dictated your weight loss journey?

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    Yes. While serving in the Navy, I would have a certain Chief go out of his way to call me 'fat', or stand over me to watch whatever food I ate. He also didn't mind pointing at each food item on my plate and 'kindly' telling me how many calories they were in front of my co-workers and I'll get fatter than what I already am. When other Chiefs would call him out on it, his excuse was that he was trying to motivate me to lose weight. So I decided that I shouldn't hide to eat or let him run me down in front of others any longer. Ran my *kitten* off twice, sometimes three times per day, ate better and scored the highest on my PRT (physical readiness test) in the department. Needless to say, Satterfield ate his own words and left me alone about my weight. Unfortunately, I still feel like that Sailor years ago from time to time and I have become my own worst enemy when it comes to dieting/exercising.
  • ROBOTFOOD
    ROBOTFOOD Posts: 5,527 Member
    0-1.
    dgaf. I'm usually too busy running up 14,000ft mtns or snowboarding.
  • awomaninsane
    awomaninsane Posts: 75 Member
    The opinion of those that mean sonething to me matters a lot. Having said that my husband did not tell me i had put on too much weight until recently after i lost it all. Then he told me he was worried about me before because i looked 8 months pregnant!

    The opinion of people on here, i'm not sure about that yet, no-body has given me their opinion!
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    It varies. A complete stranger would be a 1-2 to someone I know, 6-7. It also depends on the context and who it's coming from. For an example, I hate formal business like wear. A dress shirt and tie kind of a look isn't for me. I find it annoying and uncomfortable. I am more of a laid back, simple jeans and t-shirt kind of guy. I've been told I should dress nicer, I would attract more girls, especially now that I've lost a ton a weight. Ehhh, no. I'd rather be comfortable. If people I've never met, want to judge me for not wearing the latest and greatest in designer fashion wear, so be it. It's people I'd rather not associate with anyways.

    This changes of course if I AM trying to dress nice. I do dress up and wear a tie once a year for a Xmas work party so of course I would listen to, and take into consideration the opinions of those that are more knowledgable than I.

    Does anyone here feel that the opinions of others have also dictated your weight loss journey?

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    Never cared what others thought of me before MFP when I was at my heaviest nor now. A coworker of mine occasionally likes to point out some of my unhealthy habits. I'm not a 100% clean eater. I eat both healthy and what others would feel is unhealthy, like fast food, just not all the time like I did in the past. My coworker thinks I am going to die sooner from eating toxins, GMO, peanut butter, fast food, etc etc until I point out my weight loss. I no longer take meds, check in with my doctor every 3 months and my numbers and bloodwork is all good and has been this way for nearly 3 years. I then ask her how her numbers are and when was her last check up. That shuts her up. :laugh:
  • rollng_thundr
    rollng_thundr Posts: 634 Member
    Pretty much what others said already....

    If they are an integral part of my life.. 6
    Someone I don't know... 0
  • JasonKnight85
    JasonKnight85 Posts: 67 Member
    Absolutely 0.

    I started this journey for me, I've stuck to it for me, and will continue to do so. I have my goals, and no thing or no person can influence how I feel or how dedicated I am to my change.

    I've had people say I'm wasting away, I've had people say I look great, I've had people say I was really bulking up, even had people say I should stop now after they hear my goal weight because they think I'd be too skinny. It's all moot. When I'm happy with the way I look in the mirror, with the clothes I'm wearing, and with the things I am physically capable of doing, then I'll be happy and to heck with anyone else's thoughts or judgements.

    Well, I can honestly say hitting that magic number doesn't really mean that much to me. Not like it did at first. I'm more concerned now about reaching a healthy body fat percentage, than losing weight. I think my Dr. will probably agree, and I think that is what I'm going to shift my focus towards.

    All this is not to say I'm not open to sage advice and help towards achieving my goals. I am. I appreciate any and all the help or encouragement I get. I'm just more into doing me right now, than worrying about what anyone else thinks.
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    I would say 3, however I wish someone would just tell me I am hot for my age! :laugh:
  • RebeccaP1972
    RebeccaP1972 Posts: 101 Member
    I'd say an 8, although I wish it was closer to a 1

    @mikeyboy... you are hot for your age lol
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    Maybe a 2. I care about what my parents, children and husband think but thats it. I am more critical on myself than anyone eles.
  • Veil5577
    Veil5577 Posts: 868 Member
    -103.

    That doesn't stop them from giving me their opinions that I didn't and never will ask for.... :mad:
  • lewoldt
    lewoldt Posts: 630 Member
    I'd say 8.5
    I know I shouldn't care at all, but I do. I have been heavy to obese most of my life with a few stints when I was about average. I get treated better when I am average sized and my self esteem is much higher
  • DymonNdaRgh40
    DymonNdaRgh40 Posts: 661 Member
    About a 4...

    It used to bother me a great deal when I younger. I remember coming home from school crying one day and my Mom asked me what was wrong. When I told her she said "Opinions are just like your ***hole, everyone has one. Those people don't provide for you, take care of you, do anything for you, so don't let their opinions bother you because it changes nothing. Don't give them that power." That has always stuck with me.

    Now today, I will say once I hear the opinion I might pause and take it in, but I still continue on just as I was before.
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    Does anyone here feel that the opinions of others have also dictated your weight loss journey?

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    I hate to admit it, but I allowed comments from my parents to completely derail me from my journey.

    Last year I was working hard to lose weight. Every time I would go visit family I would hear about how great my mom looked after losing 10 pounds. Hearing them once wasn't the problem, but it was hearing them constantly while they never said anything about me. By Thanksgiving I was down 23 pounds and 2 pants sizes, but the focus was on my sister's five pound loss. Even though I had told them how well I had been doing they still didn't say anything. When I finally asked my mom about it she said that I still looked the same. After that I felt like I was wasting my time. If it wasn't showing, what difference did it make? By the time I started back at the end of April I had put back on 16 pounds.

    I don't blame them for it at all. I should have not reacted the way that I did.
  • Bernadette60614
    Bernadette60614 Posts: 707 Member
    I'm a Catholic Virgo..no one can be harder one me than me!

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