How much weight did you lose before family/friends noticed?

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  • ximenia
    ximenia Posts: 62 Member
    I'm down 5 pounds so far and a few inches, I haven't noticed anything but my boyfriend said my waist is noticeably smaller, not sure if he means it or just being nice though.
  • eeriesilence
    eeriesilence Posts: 73 Member
    13 lbs down, and my girlfriend has repeatedly told me she can feel it when she hugs me. Her mother has also made a "when you wear clothes like ______, you look a lot thinner!" last week. Little did she know it's because I am thinner.

    My family remain unaware, though my sister (who just recently lost a lot of weight) has been giving me weird looks. She just has to resign herself to the fact that she isn't going to be the only fit one in the family for much longer. :)
  • H0llyG0lightly
    H0llyG0lightly Posts: 214 Member
    Around 15 lbs, from 175 to 160. (I'm 5'7".)
  • Pasharain
    Pasharain Posts: 3
    I lost about 30 lbs. before I started getting comments. One person said you "look younger," I pointed out the weight loss and they said "yeah that's what it is, your face is definitely smaller.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Not one person I work with or am friends with has said they noticed!

    1 - have you read any of the numerous threads here with people complaining about others commenting on their weight loss? Talking about someone's weight tends to be rather taboo...right up there with religion and politics...a lot of people probably notice but aren't going to say anything.

    Give those threads a read and you will find that a great many people take offense at what is meant to be a compliment when somebody says, "wow...you've lost weight...you look great." Many people interpret that as, "wow...you used to look like a big fat piece of ****." Just give those threads a read and you'll see what I mean. Intuitively, others realize that many people can't take a compliment and turn it into something negative...people just don't tend to comment on other people's weight whether good or bad.

    2 - You are correct in your assessment that the early Lbs aren't that noticeable when you have a lot to lose...even if you don't have a ton to lose, it can take awhile before physical changes occur. You have to remember that in addition to the visible fat that we see, there is fat around your organs and muscles that isn't really visible and you lose that too.

    My first 40 Lbs didn't make for any drastic changes in appearance...my neck and extremities were a little thinner and so was my face...but my gut was pretty much unchanged and I still had quite a bit of fat on my face. People don't notice when you lose fat around your fingers and such...it's just not that apparent. My last 20 Lbs was another story...night and day. The last 20 Lbs dramatically changed in my face and that's when I lost the gut and started dropping pant sizes at a pretty good clip. At that point it was hard for people not to comment regardless of whether it was taboo or not.
  • Plornt
    Plornt Posts: 3 Member
    I was 15 Stone, when people started noticing it was around the 14 stone mark but I think that was just because they knew I was dieting. People at my work (who had no idea) only really noticed when I got down to 12 stone.
  • Caper88
    Caper88 Posts: 418 Member
    Maybe it isn't a case of no one noticing but no one wanting to say anything. I found out some of my girls at work were noticing before anything was said to me. Margaret who I traveled with told me one evening that they were talking about me. She mentioned that she was on her way to start walking (she did give up ). The girls mentioned that they noticed I was loosing not know that I was the one who talked her into trying to walk. Turns out they didn't want to say anything to me because they didn't know if I was trying and they we worried I might get embarrassed if something was said. It wasn't until she spoke up and told them no that I was walking that they finally said something to me.

    I can't remember how much I weight when the first person from work mentioned something but I was about a month and a half in. By the end of two months, around 20lbs, just about everyone I worked with noticed.

    There is a quote that says : It takes 4 weeks for you to notice your body changing, 8 weeks for your friends to notice and 12 weeks for the rest of the world. Give it 12 weeks. Don't quit.
  • RobPA1
    RobPA1 Posts: 48 Member
    Thanks for the great discussion - I'm not really discouraged, nor am I expected random people at work to stop me in the hall and exclaim "damn, look at you with all that weight loss!" I'm not giving up by a long shot !! Just curious! What some people said about wearing the same clothes makes a big difference.

    Keep on everyone!
  • MeowSkull
    MeowSkull Posts: 101 Member
    Thank you for posting this question, great input here!
  • Wookinpanub
    Wookinpanub Posts: 635 Member
    OP - you seem similar to me except I started at 255. A couple friends I see regularly noticed after about 20 lbs - said they noticed in my face. Another friend mentioned something at the pool last weekend (down 32 lbs). Nobody at work has said anything but as you mentioned I am still wearing the same clothes for the most part and maybe they just look big and baggy on me. I have worn a couple shirts that I haven't been able to fit in for a few years. I am not going shopping for clothes until I hit my goal weight.
  • atkinsshake
    atkinsshake Posts: 21 Member
    I think its the same reason people dont say "wow, I see your putting on the lbs.". Some people find it impolite to mention someones weight. Especially amongst females. It just seems so personal. I personally would beam from ear to ear to hear that someone, anyone actually, lol, noticed my weight loss!
  • mcpostelle
    mcpostelle Posts: 418 Member
    I've lost 10 lbs so far and I can definitely see the difference, but when wearing my clothing ( they're looser now and my underwear kept slipping off so I'm back to my smaller sized undies! Yea to the little victories!) it's hard to tell. I'm not relying on others to make me feel good, but I am curious how long it will take for others to notice. I've also been working out heavy (weights) so my scale is not really reliable now since I work out 6x a week. :)
  • funchords
    funchords Posts: 413 Member
    Neither men nor women acquaintances, for different reasons, will mention your weight loss until it is inescapable to make mention of it. Your closer friends probably will mention it sooner. (Assuming USA. Men aren't secure enough to talk about another man's *kitten* without thinking it brings their own sexuality into question and women are trained to avoid the subject of weight.)

    I went from 298 to 271 and started to move away from the XXXL into the XXL clothes. That's when I got first mentions. It was strange because, by then, even I was seeing it and I look at this face and body every day in the mirror.

    Can't wait to go to the XL clothes.
  • 89Madeline
    89Madeline Posts: 205 Member
    I weighed 185 lbs, and when I had lost about 20, people started to notice. So then I weighed 165 lbs. They, interestingly enough, noticed again when I weighed around 143-145 lbs. Now, I'm back at 150 and trying to get back to 145 because it's some sort of tipping point for me where I look much better :)
  • deborahgillion55
    deborahgillion55 Posts: 21 Member
    congratulation on your weight loss
  • AllisonMorrris3
    AllisonMorrris3 Posts: 5 Member
    It took 30 lbs for my coworkers to notice I lost a "little" weight. It took 60 before they could tell significant loss. I'm now down 90 and they all say" I don't even remember you being that big." I'm starting to think my coworkers aren't very observant. haha

    My hubby could tell after the first 20 lbs though. :)

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