Colleague's taunt

I don't think she was making fun of you either. The only thing in this that puts me off is that your weight was up for discussion at all. Unless you brought it up before, (i.e., Oh yeah now I just need to lose the baby weight!) your weight is none of her business. If she brings it up again, say that you're not comfortable talking about that.

Actually I found her comment quite rude. Basically she is saying that the weight that was lost was through giving birth (literally baby weight). I would never ask someone if they are losing weight, particular a new mother. "You look lovely and how is your baby doing these days" would be more appropriate. Only your doctor should ask how much you have lost since giving birth. She is lucky you don't have post-mortem depression - other moms would have been hysterical.

I understand how you would take that as her making fun of you, but maybe I am sensitive too lol

Some people are just A-Holes.

Oh she was discussing one of our colleague who delivered 6 months back..
She saw her pic on fb.. said to me aint she looking soo fat.. then she called her to tell her the same.

Lady on the other side of call said - Nope, I lost all my preg weight maybe photo dint turn up good.

After listening to their conversation I was like - "every one loosing their pregnancy weight, mine is not budging after loosing some."

then she asked me WITH TONE - Did you loose any??? I said yup 10 kg of 20kg I gained.. She laughed - your baby weight 7.7 lbd, and some water weight.. Maybe is all.


huh.. dont know.. Maybe I am sensitive.

Since you volunteered information about your weight going up and down as part of someone else's conversation, you really can't get all hot and bothered. If it's a sore subject for you, then don't volunteer information.

Actually I found her comment quite rude. Basically she is saying that the weight that was lost was through giving birth (literally baby weight). I would never ask someone if they are losing weight, particular a new mother. "You look lovely and how is your baby doing these days" would be more appropriate. Only your doctor should ask how much you have lost since giving birth. She is lucky you don't have post-mortem depression - other moms would have been hysterical.

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OMG people can be so hurtful and inconsiderate I had this 3 months after giving birth my daughter is now 15 months and I did it and now look so you will do it you can change your weight they will always be nasty x

Wow, how rude.

I can understand why you volunteered this information - in an office environment you can quickly become sidelined if you don't "join in" as it were and you seem like an open person.

It is none of her business how much you weigh or whether you have lost weight or not, it sounds like she's just trying to bring others down to wherever it is she happens to be mentally..

If this continues to be an issue, speak with your HR department and register this interaction in the office. This can be done informally to begin with but if her behaviour worsens, you can choose whether or not to make this a formal complaint and maybe explore mediation or something a little more in-depth.

You do not deserve to be harassed in the workplace, whatever the reason.

I have suffered some pretty disgusting treatment in the workplace by other women and I am a very docile person. I don't go looking for trouble and I never fought back.

The week I was getting married, my colleague asked me how many days it was to the wedding - I told her and she and her workmate burst out laughing. When I asked what was funny. they told me that I should be sure to file for divorce as soon as possible as it will come in handy shortly down the line.

I could not BELIEVE that they had said this and to a young bride-to-be. I said "I beg your pardon?" and when they repeated, I said "What an ugly thing to say. Did you seriously just say that to me?". They looked very nervous and scuttled off. Later on in the day, one colleague came to apologise to me after I had stopped interacting with them and when she told me that it was a joke, I replied "Well, I accept your apology, thank you for seeking me out. However, I find it a strange thing to say to a Bride-to-be who was looking to her elders for advice".

They never jive-talked me again!

Good luck hun, stand your ground

Kaela x

Just my 2 cents, but regardless if YOU were discussing YOUR weightloss or lack thereof, her comment was snarky and tactless.

I deal with similar situations at work a lot. You need to keep in mind, she is not your friend, you do not have to be friends, and she is only someone you have to be civil and respectful towards.

Avoid having the conversations, don't even entertain it, don't bother making side comments where you are subconsciously fishing for compliments from people who don't care about you.

Come HERE for compliments, we have LOTS of them. And when you are at work, remind yourself - those people don't care about you, they are probably miserable and only seek to hurt you to make themselves feel better.

YOU ARE DOING GREAT!! And it's not just BABY weight. What an ignorant thing for her to say!

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That was a rude comment and totally uncalled for. It's tough to lose the weight you put on during pregnancy. Life has changed and you've added a baby to the mix of working, tending house etc.

People gage losing baby weight with how celebrities look weeks later. Big difference. They have the time and the means to hire the personal trainers and the hours on end of working out. Most of us can't do that, so we lose slowly and steadily.

Don't let her get you down.

Next time she brings up the topic of your weight, just tell her "I'm sorry but that's not a topic I wish to discuss at work."

I have never had anyone bring up my baby weight in conversation who wasn't:

1) An ex
2) Unable to conceive children
3) Has body issues of their own

In other words, ignore it. Don't even entertain it with a response.