Colleague's taunt

Actually I found her comment quite rude. Basically she is saying that the weight that was lost was through giving birth (literally baby weight). I would never ask someone if they are losing weight, particular a new mother. "You look lovely and how is your baby doing these days" would be more appropriate. Only your doctor should ask how much you have lost since giving birth. She is lucky you don't have post-mortem depression - other moms would have been hysterical.

Sorry but I had to LOL at postmortem depression!! Postmortem means after death... I think the word you were searching for was "postpartum" which means after childbirth. :laugh:

OP, I have a coworker who's constantly saying snarky crap because she feels superior to everyone else. I just laugh at her. Keep working. You can lose the weight, she probably can't stop being b!tchy.

Has she got kids? if so maybe it took her ages to lose the baby weight and shes jealous.. if shes not got kids.. maybe she can't have them and is lashing out.. maybe she is an ugly person inside and has no one to love her.. or maybe shes just being a total cow.. who cares.. its her problem.. you have a healthy happy baby who has lived in your body for 9 months does it really matter what this twit says.. feel confident knowing that for 9months your body had 2 heads, 4 arms , 4 legs and 2 completely different sets of dna.. if that doesn't change a persons body shape for a while after what the hell will.. lmao.. chin up chick.. xxxx

Having been someone who literally gained all water and baby weight when I was pregnant, i can understand why this would upset you. First when I was pregnant I gained 26 lbs. I had her on a Thursday and the following Thursday (7 days later) I had lost all 26 lbs. I literally was water and baby! Now the reason I can understand why you are upset is because if it was all Water and Baby you would have lost that quicker than 18 months. I don't mean that to be mean, I mean that to say that you have in 18 months lost what you have and her saying that discredits the work you have done. Now maybe some is water and some isn't. First, she doesn't matter! Second, she is probably jealous. Third, there is not a race to get baby weight off. It isn't a contest because its harder and easier for some people. I lost 26 lbs and didn't even try, but It wasn't because I'm some super awesome person like they try to make the celebrities seem like, its because I was sick as hell the entire 9 months and on bed rest the last two months because I had so many complications and was swollen so bad. Keep doing what you are doing and don't worry about what others say. Another thing... It isn't what people say, its how its said so US reading your post can't fully understand how she meant it because we didn't hear the tone in which it was said. If you felt it was an insult use that and move on. It isn't a contest to be better than someone else. The only thing that matters is that YOU are better than who you were yesterday! Good luck...

I'm sorry but I don't get it...how is that making fun of you? Unless there was some snarky tone attached to her response, I think you're just being sensitive and she was trying to be nice by making excuses for you not having lost all the weight.

I have read and re-read her statement, and I don't understand how it could NOT be taken as an insult. She's essentially saying "Oh, so you haven't actually lost any weight then, just what comes off when you give birth".

I would honestly ignore her, OP. She's being a snarky C-U-Next-Tuesday and is obviously not worth your time, regardless of how the topic came up. 10kg is a great start, especially for a new mom.

It really stinks to have to work with someone like that. Next time call her out on her rudeness (using work appropriate language, of course). If she does it again after that, go to HR or your boss, whichever is appropriate for you company. No one should work in a hostile environment. If there are no consequences for her actions, she will keep doing it.

Maybe I took her serioulsy this time... yeah me super sensitive.

When I joined this office ( first time ), she actually thought I am "intern" though I joined as "lead".
after child birth.. I do look my age and bulky. :sad:

Sounds like she has a case of the baaaad attitude, then. Sorry you have to work with her. :frown: I would take that type of comment as being very rude and hurtful, too. Ugh!