Question for the younger folks
jhmomofmany
Posts: 571 Member
in Chit-Chat
I don't want to sound like a crabby old woman, but are Thank You Cards a thing of the past? If so, that's really a shame. A general "shout out" on FB doesn't quite cut it for things like wedding gifts, IMHO.
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Not at all a thing of the past. Who said FB was appropriate for that?0
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Not at all a thing of the past. Who said FB was appropriate for that?
^ I totally agree.
If someone thinks that saying thanks on FB cuts it, they're just lazy.0 -
Not at all a thing of the past. Who said FB was appropriate for that?
^ I totally agree.
If someone thinks that saying thanks on FB cuts it, they're just lazy.
I also agree.0 -
And you don't sound like a crabby old woman at all :laugh:0
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I always mail handwritten thank you cards (my wedding, wedding shower, baby shower, baptisms). People seem surprised to get them.0
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Thank you cards are NOT in the past. I'd rather get a handwritten note/card than a FB message!0
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Personalized thank you's are a must for more than just weddings. I hate that people think it is acceptable to send everything via internet/media. Not cool!0
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I'm pretty sure I don't qualify as younger folk...0
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I'm pretty sure I don't qualify as younger folk...
Yes you do....
..now have you seen the price on a box or individual thank you card!?!
Then the stamp!!
OMG I would go broke!
Can I just like your status?0 -
Weddings, showers, all that kinda stuff still require a thank you card. I believe etiquette allows up to one year (although I would be horrified to take so long.)
Less formal stuff like a birthday gift doesn't get a physical card from me anymore though, usually just an email note or similar.0 -
No Thank You cards are still required....... If you were raised to understand manners.0
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Weddings, showers, all that kinda stuff still require a thank you card. I believe etiquette allows up to one year (although I would be horrified to take so long.)
Less formal stuff like a birthday gift doesn't get a physical card from me anymore though, usually just an email note or similar.
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First of all, you are not a crabby old woman. You come from the generation of hard work. Social media is the worst way to thank someone if that is their sole way of doing it. Nothing wrong with doing it AFTER sending a thank you card, IMHO. But don't get caught up in the whole tehnology/social media aspect of things when it comes to properly thanking someone for something as important as a wedding or whatever it is you're thanking them for. Cards are a physical characteristic, and with a special message provides much more gratification and positive emotion than an electronic post for the world to see. I'm sure whoever you're thanking would appreciate a card more than a post and we can all agree.0
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NOT a thing of the past. I received a Thank You card for attending my friend's graduation party and even a Thank You card from my mother for throwing her a surprise birthday dinner.
FB is not an acceptable medium for sending thanks for wedding gifts and such. That person is rude!0 -
Weddings, showers, all that kinda stuff still require a thank you card. I believe etiquette allows up to one year (although I would be horrified to take so long.)
Less formal stuff like a birthday gift doesn't get a physical card from me anymore though, usually just an email note or similar.
To the bolded, it is a year to send the gift. For instance, you get married today, your family can technically send you a gift up through next June 18th and consider it a wedding gift. If you receive a gift, you should have your TY notes sent within 2 weeks, but no longer than 3 months.
To answer the OP's question: yes and no. Some people still do them, but others don't know to/just don't send them. I (personally) think weddings, baby/wedding showers, and other large gift giving events still require them. I know several people around my age who don't realize you're supposed to send TY notes. It kind of makes me sad.0 -
I am a grown, fully independent woman, and I still fear the butt whooping I'd receive from my mother if I didn't send thank-you notes. If someone is doing that via FB it's not because they're young or old, it's because they're lazy and ill-mannered. Period.0
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Not at All! I would much rather give and receive a thank you card. Sad but some of us don't know appropriate ettiquette when it comes to gift response.0
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They are a thing of the past if your parents never taught you that it was proper etiquette to send them. Really this should be a question for the parents of the younger folks.0
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Yeah, I'm with you there though only a year younger than you. And I don't have facebook so I get to avoid messages like that and only hear from people who really want to wish me a happy birthday on my birthday.
I'm also pretty sure my kids are the only ones who write and mail letters/cards to their grandparents and great-grandparents. The others will text or post on facebook.0 -
For things like wedding/shower gifts and interviews, thank you cards are still very much appropriate.0
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I still send them. I'm 25.
Your ticker is awesome. I could go for some pie and lattes!0 -
And you don't sound like a crabby old woman at all :laugh:
No she doesn't, she sounds like a polite and thoughtful lady (old or young).0 -
No one invites wedding guests via Facebook...so no bride/groom should thank on Facebook either.0
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Nope, I believe thank you cards are required, and are even more appreciated in this day and age. When was last last time you got something besides junk and bills in the mail?0
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Thank you cards for formal gifts (showers, weddings, large birthday parties, etc) are a must. For me, the line blurs when it's a close friend and I can call to say thank you, or say thank you in person. I also do thank you notes for dinner parties and other similar events.
When I was looking for a job after college I also sent handwritten thank-you notes after interviews. It definitely made a good impression, and several of the places I received offers from mentioned that it was a nice touch!0 -
These days everything is a lost art from thank you notes to writing letters. It's why schools are phasing out cursive. Everyone thinks online is the only way to do things. I was always taught to hand write stuff and i'm going to make sure that my kids do too.0
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Yeah I think so. Technology is the way forward, I'm afraid.0
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I'm relieved to know I'm not old fashioned or crabby, LOL (I'm 37)! I wanted to make sure that was still the norm. Obviously, gifts aren't sent for the purpose of receiving a thank you, but the only reason I even know they got the package is because they cashed the check. At first I thought "busy" and then I thought "rude". But, trying to give them the benefit of the doubt I thought maybe that's just how things are done now.0
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I'm 25. Still send them.0
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