Why am I my own worst enemy?

Well honestly a lot of people will try to tell you a lot of things but it boils down to this. You like food, A lot and you don't have anything else that you do that you can devote yourself too enough to distract you from it. Or you don't want to lose weight enough to counteract your love of food.

You can tell yourself you want to be fit and healthy but honestly if sitting down with lots of delicious food is one of your favorite things to do weight loss will always be impossible. You need to find other things to do that engage you to the extent that hunger becomes more of an annoyance to be dealt with rather than a constant siren song.

I know it's disappointing to hear but the problem is entirely internal. You have to want to be healthy and you have to want to lose weight enough to give up something you clearly truly enjoy. Till that happens nothing will work.

I'm not really any help here just want to chime in. I could have written this almost word for word! Even my youngest is exactly 3.5. Since 2011 I have constantly yo-yoed losing and gaining the same 10 pounds. I could go on but basically everything you said is what happens to me. I slowly lose my way and things go back to the way they were. It's like I just cannot remember why I am doing what I am doing.

My husband and I have joked that this time I made it through my "Week 5 failure" that I had the last two times I made an effort (5 weeks.... lame).

This time I don't know what is different for me and I don't know if I will make it, but I FEEL more positive than I ever have before (or at least remember feeling). I have not missed a single day logging my food, I don't go over (OR mentally beat myself up) if I miss a day of exercise, and I stay within my calories almost all the time and I'm not suffering for that. I make room in my foods for things that I want to eat and crave, or I would go crazy. I have extra calories at night for treats.

I don't have anything genuinely helpful because it's only been six weeks for me (this time...) so it's not like I am any success story here. I am just praying for myself that this time I stick with this new lifestyle change. I have to want it bad enough - and so do you. Only we can make it happen for ourselves.

You can do it!

I know exactly what you mean; a busy lifestyle with young children can be very demanding and leave you feeling tired and frustrated . I barely get 7 hours sleep and from the moment I get up till I go to bed I am constantly on the go, so naturally I feel the need to eat unheatlhy carbs just to cope.

I find taking it one day at a time helps, there are days when I am just constantly hungry and eat the wrong kinds of food and then feel really angry with myself but there are also days when I eat a balanced diet and substitute all unhealthy snacks for healthier options, the goal is to have a lot more of the healthy days with the occasional lapse. Another thing which I find helpful is never to have junk food in the house, no matter how tempting the bogof's at the supermarket I buy a lot more of the fruit and nuts instead of the chocolate and crisps.

Finally, don't be so hard on yourself you are mum to a 3.5 year old and I know how much hard work it is, you have to believe you can loose the weight and think positively and YOU WILL get there.

This is me all over. I am exactly the same. I complain that I am unhappy and that I have no clothes that fit me properly but I will not buy clothes until I lose the weight - I have about 7 great weeks and have lost 10 lbs, then I slack and once I start - there's no stopping me.

I don't have a hobby - I go to work all day, pick my daughter up from creche, come home and cook dinner and tidy the dinner away - maybe do some washing. Tidy up around the house - then I'm tired so I'll go to bed and am able to sleep at 8.30. The next day - the same cycle

I pine at people that look fantastic - but I can't help from continuing to eat what I'm not supposed to - and in vast quantities. In the day I have amazing motivation, it's just the evening I can't help myself. I have put back on 3lbs of the 15bs I have lost on my ticker. I have to learn to keep going to see good results. But my enjoyment comes from food.

Your title had me singing that Lit song to myself 'My own worst enemy' - good song.

Maybe write down your thoughts and feelings now and when you start to slip read through them?

This happened for me also. 2 years back i lost weight 17 lbs by dieting and working out. But once i lost that weight i felt very good and was going for shopping and totally forgot to maintain that weight. Then again i gained 6 lbs and for 1.5 years it was same, was maintaining the same weight.

Now from 6 months i am strictly following the healthy life style and again lost 8 lbs :happy: . Now i am so much motivated and will never give up still i reach my goal weight.

My advice is don't lose patience, it will take time but the result will come for sure. But you must have to give your 100%.Don't give up ...best of luck

Two things that helped me get to goal (and stay there)
1. Enjoy the food I sometimes overeat without guilt.
2. Go right back to my calorie goal the next day.

Seems simple, but oh what a difference this has made for me.

One other thing-hunger cannot be a part of a successful lifestyle change!
Make sure your deficit leaves you satisfied and happy!

Cityjane you look fantastic!

In my opinion, before attempting again to lose weight, you should try to understand why this happened to you, or better why do you do this to yourself.