how to get doctors to not call me anorexic?

This has already been said, but you definitely need to find another doctor. No doctor should ever label someone or make them feel badly about anything... EVER. I had a sports medicine doctor tell me once that my knees hurt because I was overweight and that I should stop eating. When I told him that the weight gain was due to medication, he actually had the nerve to say, "that's not possible." Oh ok dude. Go see a different doctor and if that 2nd doctor doesn't believe you, then keep trying until you find one that will. You know yourself. Your mother knows you. You both know how much you eat and that you want to gain weight. No one should ever make you feel bad about yourself ever... especially not someone in a profession where their job is to help people.

Look, I made a very adult decision this month and am VERY proud of myself.
I looked up some internal medicine doctors in my area, found one, left my pediatrician (I'm 20 now) and ventured over to her in the hopes of asking how to gain some weight and if she knew a nutritionist i could go work with. I told her i wanted to build some muscle and thought she would respect my decision to fix my underweightness. heres the thing, i'm underweight cause i have no clue what I'm doing, I've been using bro-science and google for three years to diet, so i lost a lot of weight very slowly. the past year i dropped to a weight that i saw no issue with, until i started looking in the mirror and being like '**** i look like I have pencil arms and my shoulders are creepy bony'.

so i went to the doc and the first thing i said was "help me gain weight? and i told her everything" she had the GALL to literally label me as anorexic. she used that term. i said, no, I'm not afraid of eating, i eat quite a lot, and i told her everything i eat. i also asked her how someone who seeks out a doctor to gain weight because they SEE a problem with being to skinny would be considered anorexic. she literally ignored me and made me cry. yeah, i cried in front of her, it was so embarrassing. because i took myself to my first adult docs appointment seeking to gain weight out of my own free will without any influence of friends or family. i just wanted to get healthy. and she insulted me and called me anorexic. even after i told her i wanted to gain weight and wasn't afraid of eating, she labeled me, just like that.

it was like one of those nightmares where nobody believes you, ya know? when you're screaming and nobody can hear you or they ignore you or you're paralyzed and can't move. it was so horrific and I'm mortified. how can i get her to stop treating me like a crazy person? i was able to get a nutritionist appointment for tomorrow so I'm gonna go talk to her. if nothing else, how can i get this nutritionist (and my doc of course) to treat me like a human being without a mental problem? an eating disorder is a mental state. and i don't have a mental state where i want to lose weight, or that i see a fat girl in the mirror. no, i see a skinny girl who needs muscly arms and some increased calories.

she mortified me by calling me anorexic. she is wrong. i want to gain, so how am i anorexic? that terminology was used incorrectly! there are fat anorexic people! there are also skinny underweight girls who want to gain weight! that does not make them anorexic since they are skinny! that is a state of mind!

proof:

Definitions of anorexia:

"Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder that makes people lose more weight than is considered healthy for their age and height. Persons with this disorder may have an intense fear of weight gain, even when they are underweight. They may diet or exercise too much or use other ways to lose weight."

I DONT FEAR WEIGHT GAIN I ACTIVELY LOOKED FOR WEIGHT GAIN WITH THE HELP OF MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS

I DONT DIET/OR EXERCISE. AT ALL. I SIT ON MY COMPUTER ALL DAY. IT"S MY JOB.

another definition:

a lack or loss of appetite for food (as a medical condition).
an emotional disorder characterized by an obsessive desire to lose weight by refusing to eat.

I EAT ALLLL THE TIME AND ALOT! I ate 1800 cals yesterday! I'm only 5'2 and female! WHAT THE HELL SHE THINKS I DONT EAT!

Help i feel like nobody believes me! My mom even said if the doctor doesn't believe me she will take pictures of me eating every meal and shove them in her face. its so unfair and she's making me out to be a crazy person who starves themselves! should i never see this quack doctor again?

This has already been said, but you definitely need to find another doctor. No doctor should ever label someone or make them feel badly about anything... EVER. I had a sports medicine doctor tell me once that my knees hurt because I was overweight and that I should stop eating. When I told him that the weight gain was due to medication, he actually had the nerve to say, "that's not possible." Oh ok dude. Go see a different doctor and if that 2nd doctor doesn't believe you, then keep trying until you find one that will. You know yourself. Your mother knows you. You both know how much you eat and that you want to gain weight. No one should ever make you feel bad about yourself ever... especially not someone in a profession where their job is to help people.

The doctor agreed with you. Don't get hung up on the label & do what you know you have to do. Good luck, I'm sure there are ED groups on here, that can help you better than the general boards.

The problem being that she is in denial that she has an ED, hence this thread.

ANOREXIA AND ANOREXIA NERVOSA ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS!!!

Everyone on this forum seems to be mixing it up! Regardless of how the weight was lost, Anorexia is used for an individual who is underweight. Anorexia nervosa is used for those who, along with being underweight, carry one or more of the mental issues that everyone here is throwing around (obsessive calorie counting, fear of fat, etc etc).

So yes, an anorexia diagnosis is entirely correct. Whether or not an Anorexia NERVOSA diagnosis is correct is something that needs to be determined by a mental health professional.