This is what makes me just want to quit...
redhatorade
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So we upgraded from a crappy elliptical to a nice Nordic Track E9.0. Well I am on it today and the metal that keeps the foot pedal hooked to the arm literally breaks in half, almost sending me face first into the display console. Immediately, my husband starts going off on how I am too big for it and broke it, which really made me feel terrible. I double checked with Nordic Track and the weight limit is 350lbs, I am 250lbs and 5'6". I feel so embarrassed and ashamed, it's like no matter what I do my weight is always making a fool of me and making me feel sub-human.
I told my husband once it was fixed (extended warranty, yaaay) I wouldn't get back on it. I don't know how I will exercise, but I guess I have no choice but to find another way.
I told my husband once it was fixed (extended warranty, yaaay) I wouldn't get back on it. I don't know how I will exercise, but I guess I have no choice but to find another way.
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It's quite possible it was just a manufacturer's defect. It happens. I have Livestrong elliptical and I didn't break mine at 250lbs. Don't let it discourage you, try it again when it's fixed and next time your husband tells you you're to big for it, tell him to find your backside and kiss it. :flowerforyou:0
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You need to loose the husband not the exercise machine!!! He has no right to speak to you that way. I weighed 330 when I started. My husband would never speak to me that way. I now way 128 and I swear to you he has never noticed if I gain or loose any weight until he sees pictures to compare. I married him 15 years ago at 330. I lost the 200 lbs 12 years ago. Do not let this make you quit. DO this for yourself!!! Do not let him win and I would have a serious chat with him!!!! You are worth it no matter what you weigh.0
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In my spinning class, my instructor who is maybe 200 pounds (the dude's a beast), broke the machine. The pedal went flying right off. It happens.
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So we upgraded from a crappy elliptical to a nice Nordic Track E9.0. Well I am on it today and the metal that keeps the foot pedal hooked to the arm literally breaks in half, almost sending me face first into the display console. Immediately, my husband starts going off on how I am too big for it and broke it, which really made me feel terrible. I double checked with Nordic Track and the weight limit is 350lbs, I am 250lbs and 5'6". I feel so embarrassed and ashamed, it's like no matter what I do my weight is always making a fool of me and making me feel sub-human.
I told my husband once it was fixed (extended warranty, yaaay) I wouldn't get back on it. I don't know how I will exercise, but I guess I have no choice but to find another way.
You're husband is an idiot. He needs to stop emotionally abusing you.
Sorry - it's true.
You get on that Nordic Track and ROCK IT, baby! Do what you need to do to get strong for you. He has his own problems to work out and they have nothing to do with you.0 -
Wow. His first question should have been are you okay?
Don't feel bad about your weight instead try to feel good about the positive change you are making in your life. The world is an imperfect place and things break even though they shouldn't.
Personally I would think long and hard about whether your husband has your best interests at heart. You Can make this positive change. You got this, don't give up!0 -
I know how you could lose 150-200+ lbs real fast... get rid of that guy.
In all seriousness, what a douche. Don't quit. Keep at it, FOR YOURSELF. If he can't be supportive, loving, and encouraging tell him to zip it or send him packing.0 -
This^ Even the "find your backside and kiss it" part.It's quite possible it was just a manufacturer's defect. It happens. I have Livestrong elliptical and I didn't break mine at 250lbs. Don't let it discourage you, try it again when it's fixed and next time your husband tells you you're to big for it, tell him to find your backside and kiss it. :flowerforyou:
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dont sabotage your weight loss for an unkind comment.0
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You need to loose the husband not the exercise machine!!! He has no right to speak to you that way. I weighed 330 when I started. My husband would never speak to me that way. I now way 128 and I swear to you he has never noticed if I gain or loose any weight until he sees pictures to compare. I married him 15 years ago at 330. I lost the 200 lbs 12 years ago. Do not let this make you quit. DO this for yourself!!! Do not let him win and I would have a serious chat with him!!!! You are worth it no matter what you weigh.
Yes , sounds like you would lose a ton of dead weight without him. Of course maybe he is trying to sabatoge you ...maybe it will make him feel bad about himself if you get fit and he is not.
Now about this quitting...i think that is an awful word and dont tell yourself that. How will you exercise now?? Well, your legs do seem to work so walk.....alot. Fast, slow, jog , in place...doesent matter just move. there are a ton of things you can do to lose weight so please dont make any excuses about your weight or not having something to use.
If you want this then please dont let anything or anyones small minded comments stop you from achieving it.0 -
Thanks for all the positive comments. I took my 3 yr old, took the dog and went for a good old fashioned walk. I didn't burn a ton of calories but I did SOMETHING. I was active and I feel better. That along with the 10 minutes I did get on the elliptical is sufficient for me. I tried. Thanks again guys, you are all so supportive. 0
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I second TuToMom's reply....he should never have been that insensitive. Continue on your journey and ignore his comments...your life will change with the self-confidence that will come from shedding the weight and getting in shape...then put your foot down....or better yet where the sun doesn't shine. You're better than that....we all are.0
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My father spoke that way to all of us and we kids took it to heart. My mother, sister and I are still trying to get over it. So consider what his bone-headed accusatory abuse is teaching your daughter about what is proper adult behavior.
I have finally gotten so when my husband blurts out something along these lines that I take him to task for it. We just had this discussion this afternoon. When I started to return the shopping cart before he took the kitty litter off the bottom, he snapped, "Don't you ever look before you take the cart!" It's hard to fight the urge to shrink and apologize and take what he said as gospel truth and proof of my insufficiencies.
Instead, I have learned to correct him: "No, don't say that. You are supposed to say, 'Excuse me, Darling, but I think we have forgotten the kitty litter.'" If this doesn't result in sheepishness on his part and a bit of laughter for the two of you but instead results in an argument, then you have a bigger problem -- as does your daughter. This man needs to grow up and if he can't -- run like the wind!!!0 -
1. That is awful for him to react like that. My husband would NEVER do that to me. you may want to consider getting a new husband that respects you.
2. You can always go out for a walk, there is such thing as outside! 0 -
My father spoke that way to all of us and we kids took it to heart. My mother, sister and I are still trying to get over it. So consider what his bone-headed accusatory abuse is teaching your daughter about what is proper adult behavior.
I have finally gotten so when my husband blurts out something along these lines that I take him to task for it. We just had this discussion this afternoon. When I started to return the shopping cart before he took the kitty litter off the bottom, he snapped, "Don't you ever look before you take the cart!" It's hard to fight the urge to shrink and apologize and take what he said as gospel truth and proof of my insufficiencies.
Instead, I have learned to correct him: "No, don't say that. You are supposed to say, 'Excuse me, Darling, but I think we have forgotten the kitty litter.'" If this doesn't result in sheepishness on his part and a bit of laughter for the two of you but instead results in an argument, then you have a bigger problem -- as does your daughter. This man needs to grow up and if he can't -- run like the wind!!!
SO agree with all of this!0 -
So we upgraded from a crappy elliptical to a nice Nordic Track E9.0. Well I am on it today and the metal that keeps the foot pedal hooked to the arm literally breaks in half, almost sending me face first into the display console. Immediately, my husband starts going off on how I am too big for it and broke it, which really made me feel terrible. I double checked with Nordic Track and the weight limit is 350lbs, I am 250lbs and 5'6". I feel so embarrassed and ashamed, it's like no matter what I do my weight is always making a fool of me and making me feel sub-human.
I told my husband once it was fixed (extended warranty, yaaay) I wouldn't get back on it. I don't know how I will exercise, but I guess I have no choice but to find another way.
Your weight isn't making you do anything. And regardless of your husband's attitude, it's up to you to let it make you feel terrible. You are the one that is letting things get to you. You know the weight limit on the nordic and it's a machine. Sometimes things happen. You can either use this as an excuse to keep yourself from succeeding or just give it another go once it is fixed.
Even if you decide to do other exercises, that's fine. But at least get on it once so you can overcome this negative hurdle you just placed in front of yourself.0 -
Absolutely this ^^^^ get back on it!dont sabotage your weight loss for an unkind comment.0 -
Immediately, my husband starts going off on how I am too big for it and broke it, which really made me feel terrible.
If my husband spoke to me that way he'd have that pedal up his backside sideways. Wow. How encouraging. Here you are trying to do something about your weight and he belittles you for it. I'm not generally an advocate for divorce but you may need to lose more than just weight. There seems to be a lot of people on here with douchey significant others who do more to contribute to the weight gain than not.
It was not your weight, the thing was poorly made or not attached right. You shouldn't feel bad. Tell your husband to stuff it.0 -
Don't put all of your eggs in one basket and let the broken piece of equipment deter you from working out. it's just an excuse.....I have been there. Go walk or jog around the block.0
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And regardless of your husband's attitude, it's up to you to let it make you feel terrible. You are the one that is letting things get to you.
I disagree. He clearly meant to make her feel badly. Some people are just *kitten* and when they say something hurtful, it's not the victim's fault for being hurt by it. What kind of backward logic is that? Your overall message was good, I just find this to be totally wrong.0 -
OK word to the wise. NorcicTrack is JUNK!!! I have a NT treadmill that has held up, what I would call OK, but has had numerous issues. I also have the Elliptical E15 and it has been a disaster!!! Not only the machine, which has had serious issues but the customer service from NT is the most horrible I've ever seen. There is NO reason for bad service when I spent 3800$ on a treadmill and 2400$ on a elliptical!!! Where do I even start...
When I got the elliptical it was missing a bag of bolts right from the box. Contacted the company and got them THREE MONTHS later!!! The heartbeat monitor conked out. The main bearings in the pedal broke and a bunch of steel parts fell out. When it let go the arm popped out and just about tore my leg off! Their repair rep (took 3 weeks to show up) is a guy in town that installs Geo-thermal heat systems??? WTF??? Ordered the new parts, took TWO MONTHS to arrive AND they were the wrong ones, they sent the bearings from the main wheel!!! Called them up and screamed bloody hell and they rushed the right ones but still took two weeks. Then when I phoned up the repair dude and he wasn't available to fix it for 3 weeks, so **** it I did it myself! It's been holding on so far.
Long story short, it's not you my dear, these things are garbage and I will NEVER buy another one. Too bad because as far as comfort and features go these things are the cat's meow!
Now I'm just waiting for it to break again so I can justify buying a real commercial one. Elliptical rock for cardio and now that I know I will always use one, I'll get a better one. Sorry for venting, just pissed at this thing since day one!!! LOL 0 -
And regardless of your husband's attitude, it's up to you to let it make you feel terrible. You are the one that is letting things get to you.
I disagree. He clearly meant to make her feel badly. Some people are just *kitten* and when they say something hurtful, it's not the victim's fault for being hurt by it. What kind of backward logic is that? Your overall message was good, I just find this to be totally wrong.
So it's not up to you to be hurt by what someone said or to let it negatively effect you to the point you want to give up? You are saying that you have no control?
It's not backward logic. Yes, people can be *kitten* and will say things to hurt you. Facts of life. But it's up to you on how you take it and let it affect you.0 -
And regardless of your husband's attitude, it's up to you to let it make you feel terrible. You are the one that is letting things get to you.
I disagree. He clearly meant to make her feel badly. Some people are just *kitten* and when they say something hurtful, it's not the victim's fault for being hurt by it. What kind of backward logic is that? Your overall message was good, I just find this to be totally wrong.
So it's not up to you to be hurt by what someone said or to let it negatively effect you to the point you want to give up? You are saying that you have no control?
It's not backward logic. Yes, people can be *kitten* and will say things to hurt you. Facts of life. But it's up to you on how you take it and let it affect you.
I don't have control over what someone will say or how much it will hurt. You didn't address the effect, you were referring to the fact she got hurt to begin with. I don't know specifics but speaking to your spouse that way is abusive and can be totally counterproductive.
I said I liked your overall message. She should definitely get on it again and not let it hinder her to the point she continues to not exercise. However, I fall short of pinning the blame on her for how she feels about it.0 -
Thanks for all the positive comments. I took my 3 yr old, took the dog and went for a good old fashioned walk. I didn't burn a ton of calories but I did SOMETHING. I was active and I feel better. That along with the 10 minutes I did get on the elliptical is sufficient for me. I tried. Thanks again guys, you are all so supportive.
I agree with the comments about your husband needing to be supportive. Honestly I can't stand the elliptical myself..lol. Walking is the easiest and one of the best exercises out there. I also have EA Sports active trainer on Wii..it is absolutely fantastic. Full body exercises at your own pace, schedule and intensity. It works wonders. Both my husband and I use it...can't say enough about it. Stay motivated, never doubt yourself and remember you're doing this for YOU. Good luck.0 -
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@taiser... YES!!!
The repair guy was here once for a rubbing issue and a creaking issue. It took them a week to send the part, another week for him to come out. The rubbing and creaking started back up the next day. Called them again, he swore it was just the control arm, and that it was no biggie, we could use it until he came back. Another part ordered, another week to two week wait. Now, I about bust my mouth when this thing just takes a crap right under me. I swear I could have really bit it. I can really relate to your story. Same thing.0 -
@taiser... YES!!!
The repair guy was here once for a rubbing issue and a creaking issue. It took them a week to send the part, another week for him to come out. The rubbing and creaking started back up the next day. Called them again, he swore it was just the control arm, and that it was no biggie, we could use it until he came back. Another part ordered, another week to two week wait. Now, I about bust my mouth when this thing just takes a crap right under me. I swear I could have really bit it. I can really relate to your story. Same thing.0 -
I highly doubt you were the reason it broke. Sometimes things are made crappy and break. When I started working out on my treadmill I was 290+ pounds and the weight limit was 250. I didn't have any problems.
I'm sorry that your husband sounds like an *kitten* though.0 -
Given it was under warrantee and has had other issues, perhaps push for a replacement rather than a fix. Some units are just not right.0
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And regardless of your husband's attitude, it's up to you to let it make you feel terrible. You are the one that is letting things get to you.
I disagree. He clearly meant to make her feel badly. Some people are just *kitten* and when they say something hurtful, it's not the victim's fault for being hurt by it. What kind of backward logic is that? Your overall message was good, I just find this to be totally wrong.
So it's not up to you to be hurt by what someone said or to let it negatively effect you to the point you want to give up? You are saying that you have no control?
It's not backward logic. Yes, people can be *kitten* and will say things to hurt you. Facts of life. But it's up to you on how you take it and let it affect you.
I don't have control over what someone will say or how much it will hurt. You didn't address the effect, you were referring to the fact she got hurt to begin with. I don't know specifics but speaking to your spouse that way is abusive and can be totally counterproductive.
I said I liked your overall message. She should definitely get on it again and not let it hinder her to the point she continues to not exercise. However, I fall short of pinning the blame on her for how she feels about it.
I agree that you can't control how much something someone says is going to hurt you. If it's just some random stranger saying it, it's much easier to just ignore it and let it slide. If the person saying it is someone you love and trust, those words are going to hurt.
What you can control is how you deal with it. You can take all that hurt, bury yourself in a pile of blankets and never want to come out again or you can use them as motivation to show that person they are wrong. Fight back, if you will. Get back on the NordicTrack and show your husband that you can and will get healthier, with or without his support.0 -
@taiser... YES!!!
The repair guy was here once for a rubbing issue and a creaking issue. It took them a week to send the part, another week for him to come out. The rubbing and creaking started back up the next day. Called them again, he swore it was just the control arm, and that it was no biggie, we could use it until he came back. Another part ordered, another week to two week wait. Now, I about bust my mouth when this thing just takes a crap right under me. I swear I could have really bit it. I can really relate to your story. Same thing.
First, I am glad you are OK, what a crappy accident.
Second, I am not going to comment on your husband except to say I agree with all the others.
On the elliptical itself, almost all of the sporting goods store brands are made by ICON and have the same quality. I used my elliptical at over 300 lbs and believe me, if I didn't break it, you certainly didn't. What probably happened (and a warning to all owners) is the bolt holding the arms together was probably just a bit loose and sheared off. Mine came loose very quickly and made some wild popping sounds before I tightened it back up (and used some Locktite thread sealant). If you are concerned then go to a hardware store with the bolt from the other side and see if they can match it. It doesn't have to have the exact same head, just make sure it wont interfere with the bearing seals. A high quality bolt will give you confidence and will stay tight.0
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