Is my trainer starving me??

Hi all

So let me give background first:

I used to weigh about 190 lbs (size 12-14) and the past three years have been eating healthy & exercising. I had the help of a trainer and also trained myself afterwards. Since then I dropped 40 pounds and 8-10 pants sizes. Before going to my new trainer I was a size 2-4 at around 146 pounds. I am relatively petite at 5'2'' and I have noticed that I gain muscle quite easily.

My wedding is this October and I wanted to get a new trainer because I noticed myself getting a bit out of shape. I started with her in May and she has been good but her diet is VERY DIFFICULT. I did drop 5% body fat with her and 7 pounds.

But I find it extremely hard to stay on her plan. I have huge increases in appetite, especially on days that I strength train and when I do cardio. This often leads to a binge/overeating which is funny because I feel like it is just how a person would normally eat.

Everyone tells me her plan sounds crazy because she initially put me at only 1100 Calories, and she wanted me to "train cardio every day and burn 800-1000 calories." I told her I track on my fitness pal and I asked her if I should eat my calories back. She told me NO, that I absolutely must NOT eat my calories back, and that *in order to raise my metabolism* I have to eat 1100 calories and burn 800-1000 a day.

I thought she sounded crazy (which is probably my fault for sticking with her) but I decided to give it a try. This is when I initially lost the 5% body fat in a month and I believe it was most likely a shock to my system because I hadn't lifted weights in a few months. It took from April to June for me to lose 7 pounds and I know it is fat that I lost, which is good. But I believe if her diet wasn't so crazy strict and her cardio so demanding I would have lost a greater amount with higher calories!

She put me on 1200 for some time because "I was getting hungrier between meals". But every time she assessed me although I was gaining muscle "my metabolism keeps dropping" (which duh, doesn't it drop slightly the more weight you lose?). So the last assessment I had with her three weeks ago I weighed in at 139 and gained more muscle but "my metabolism is still low" so she "put me back at 1100 calories to try to raise it."

Um, something just seems really wrong about this. I want to check with everyone to make sure I am not delusional because I really am thinking about quitting with her and increasing my calories, doing more moderate cardio and sticking with strength training. I feel as if I could lose more weight in a healthy way without having ridiculous binges and spikes in my appetite because there are no calories for me to consume at all yet I burn a crazy amount.

Because of her regimen I honestly have felt burnt out all this week and last and haven't done any cardio or stuck to her diet. I have been eating out and gained water weight (~5 pounds) and feel very down about it. My old trainer used to put me on 1800 calories a day!

I am 5'2'', and now weigh at 139 pounds at 29% body fat. Is 1100 - 1200 calories without net even sensible for me or is she starving me? I am convinced that weight loss should NOT feel this hard, even if I weigh less than I did before.

Any help/advice would be appreciated I don't think I would like to continue with her anymore but I want to keep losing body fat. I just don't know what to do with calories anymore.