I want to give up

You've mentioned some red flags:

Eliminating things you love

Eating one Popeyes meal is not a mortal sin , nor is it necessarily bad for weight loss. Can you make it fit within your calories?

Drinking pop isn't horrible either. Have you tried Diet soda? Similar taste to some, zero calories

You mention going over on points. Are you doing myfitnesspal or Weight watchers? MFP method has you logging everything you eat and so long as you stay under your allotted calories you should lose weight. There was a topic posted though about being able to see WW points on your MFP account if you like that sort of thing

What is your daily calorie goal set to? If it's low like 1200, please know that you could probably go quite a bit higher with the amount of weight you have to lose, and therefore eat more, which will give you more options to eat what you like

That said if you're exploring eating more whole foods, fruit and veg, keep it up! That can only be wonderful for you. You just have to make all the calories from all sources fit and as a whole, eat less calories than you burn, and you'll lose weight

Read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

if you want to give up then give up, if you want to lose weight then keep going. Sounds blunt but it's the best advice you can hear. Do what you want, when you want to lose weight and get in shape then DO IT!!!

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Don't give up! I know it's discouraging sometimes. One slip-up won't ruin everything. Take baby steps, try eating well for just one day and celebrate it as a victory. Try cutting back on pop a little at a time. If you starve yourself it will slow your metabolism but if you eat right it will get back to normal eventually. Keep coming back to this site, you'll get lots of support here! God bless.

Hi, I know this may sound a bit cliche, but would it help at all if you only focus on one day, one hour, one choice at a time? Looking at the big picture can be overwhelming. Maybe try to take it one decision at a time. When you make a less than ideal choice, acknowledge it and then move past it. Beating yourself up will push you further down. I give myself permission to not be perfect and it really helps me psychologically. I also give myself credit for all the good in me instead of just seeing my mistakes. I hope you continue to move forward because you are worth it. You can make it! I am preaching to myself too. Please take everything I've said with a grain of salt because I do not walk in your shoes nor judge you. All the best to you

It's up to you. We can't make you want to keep going or make you decide to give up. If I were you I would not worry about "dieting" or exercising more than usual for a month. Just honestly log what you eat on here for one month. Get into the habit of it. Then you can set an overall calorie target for your day that gives slow weight loss. Once you've done that for a few weeks to a month you can decrease it again to lose weight faster if you want to.

Don't give up *hug*. As others have mentioned, you don't have to completely cut out foods. Like you, I've tried several times. But for some reason this time seems a little easier. Before I ate at 1200 calories, and was losing at a rate of 10 pounds/month cutting out so much food and damn near starving myself. But you know what happened? I broke, and ate back all that I had lost. This time I'm losing weight pretty steadily, alot slower but I haven't cut out anything. I still eat the same more or less, just smaller portions with a mindful eye of just how many calories I have to spare for the day. Yesterday I really really wanted that dang lemon poppy muffin. And you know what? I had it. I logged it, just like I log everything. It was 400 calories less that I had to 'spend' but I still managed to have it and be under my daily calorie goal. You can do it, sweety. I've had to teach myself that I won't always get it right. And I know I may fall off the wagon a few times before I reach my goal. What's important is that you brush yourself off and jump right back on. Take note of how you feel when you do mess up and keep it in mind when you continue on on the future. Best of luck, and one more hug for the road *huggggs*

if you want to give up then give up, if you want to lose weight then keep going. Sounds blunt but it's the best advice you can hear. Do what you want, when you want to lose weight and get in shape then DO IT!!!

This!

I tried & gave up so many times but I finally got to the point where I just thought "you know what, enough of this bull****. I want to healthier and fitter more than I want to sit on my *kitten* & mindlessly eat junk"

It really is just mind over matter, you CAN do ANYTHING as long as your head is in the game.

Your post gave me motivation. I have felt some of the same things you are feeling and sometimes just want to give up.but reading your post and the beautiful, generous advice of our fellow members is so inspiring. Good for you for reaching out, which tells me you don't really want to give up.

In addition to the good advice already shared, Read through success stories and other posts for inspiration. Track your measurements instead of weight. Get out of the house -- volunteer, walk a dog, make activity (not just exercise) part of your daily routine. Give yourself challenge days -- yesterday, I went all day without added sugar just to see if I could do it. It caused me to look at new options for satisfying my palate. Whatever your roadblock is, set a challenge to overcome it. Not for forever - just for a day to prove something to yourself.

You CAN do this --- your health depends on it (and sometimes your sanity!).

I have a friend of mine that desperately wants to lose weight. She has over 100 pounds to lose, and we are fitness pals. She can come up with more excuses not to exercise in one conversation than one could sit down and think of in a years time. Finally, I told her that her excuses, her reasons, her problems in life......WHERE HER PROBLEMS! I read your post, then re-read it again. I see a lot of the same whining and complaining and excuses in your post as my friend gives me.

Get off your whining post and figure out if you want to be 200 pounds or not. If you don't then do something about it. You got yourself that way and only you can get yourself out of this. Yes, gee, you are going to have to say "no" to Popeyes. Well, guess what....the rest of us out here losing weight successfully are having to say "no" to a lot of things. That is the price you pay, now, for the free for all eating that got you in this place in the past. Gee, you can't eat cake. Wow, what I would give for a mouthful of sugar....which I don't let myself have because I know I simply can't (T2 Diabetic, 32 pounds lost in 59 days).

I am not going to be "nice" to you while you whine. Get up, get moving, stop eating Popeyes and cake, and make a decision. We, who are having to give up things we like every day on our journey, have no sympathy for you. Blunt, painful to read, but I believe probably the truth.

Sorry if I offended any other posters.....but gee whiz!! Let's no coddle this young lady and be permissive of her failures. It does not sound like she is really giving this much effort. No wonder nothing is working for her. Let's tell her the truth. We are here to support, but also to make people look in the mirror and face themselves.

Think about it this way: Soda is cancer. Trans fats found in chips and fast food are cancer. Artificial dyes screw up the way your brain works, making several signals miss their mark. Your depression is partly due to your life's stresses, and partly due to your diet. You need to find healthy ways to deal with your life's stresses, like running or riding a bicycle instead of eating fried chicken. It's not about who's fat or who's hot, it's about who's eating cancer and who's preparing to live long enough to support their children and grandchildren.

it can be tough. get back on the horse. you are worth it! she is right, don't deprive yourself. you don't need to do this perfectly. think of this as a way to lose weight, get to your goal weight and then maintain. doing a little more exercise changes everything. yoga is amazing.

Tell yourself you're worth it. You are so worth it. Talk to yourself like you would your best friend. Be honest and firm, but not mean.

You don't want to give up, but you don't really believe you can do it. Everything seems to be against you, so be your own ally. Always have your water and a healthy snack close by to help you make a better choice.

Realize that Popeye's will always be here - and you will eat it again. So what? Were you really planning to give that up forever? If you have that for lunch, have a light dinner.

Love yourself, even if the people around you are buttheads and don't support you. Don't give up on you.

I hope you can pick up and keep going. Sorry if I sound preachy. I need to remember all these things myself. Your post encouraged me too. It's hard. I've been this way my whole life, and I'm so stubborn. Change is very difficult for me. I'm great at making excuses, and when I mess up I feel like it's Armageddon. That doesn't help at all!

Then give up it is much easier then continuing.

You can't keep going off of your plan every time life gets a little difficult or full of drama. Find another way to deal with it. Go for a walk, pick up a new hobby, find new friends, figure out how to get rid of the drama if you can. You can't change everything that goes on in your life but you can change how you react to it. Having a defeatist attitude is what is holding you back from reaching your weight loss goal, not the Popeyes.