Dealing with a broken heart..

The first time I lost someone (and it really does feel like a loss) I couldn't eat much for months. But that is really bad for you. It just adds to the depression. At least try to take a multivitamin and eat small amounts of nutrient rich foods.

If it didn't work out, he was never right for you in the first place. I have been married for decades now, and I remember that kind of heartache, as I was usually the dumpee in my younger prior relationships. All I can tell you is that something much better is in store for you, you just need to keep your head up and be patient.

When you least expect it, you will find the right person. Until then workout, stay with MFP and keep in good shape, and keep your spirits up.

Try protein shakes, maybe with peanut butter or chocolate syrup added to boost calories? Make a big one every day and carry it around with you, and take a drink every time you remember that you should eat something. It's not ideal, but it's a lot better than eating nothing for days at a time.

It is a terrible feeling.. Time will ,Essen the pain. Turn your grief and pain into energy if you can. Walking outdoors with music on can help burn some stress and pass time. Try to stay busy. Watch movies you love and try to eat small amounts.

I feel you, love can be so uplifting but devastating when it ends

Hey there, I went through a horrible break up after a two and a half year on and off relationship with a guy who repeatedly cheated, or attempted to cheat, with other women. I lost a lot of friends during the course of that relationship too so when I eventually got my poop together and left I felt quite alone.
I spent a lot of time in the company of family members which was incredibly helpful and, if they live nearby, I completely recommend doing so! As for the eating, I am exactly the same, when I am really upset or stressed out eating is the hardest thing for me.

Try eating small portions of fruit and vegetables, food that is mushy and easy to eat, so you don't really have to make an effort to eat. After my break-up I consumed, soups, smoothies and protein shakes, I found it easier to get stuff into my body that way. I'd also say take a good multivitamin in the mean time to make sure your body gets some of the key nutrients it needs.

Walking around some scenic nice areas can help with all the negative feelings. It sounds cheesy but going to the beach and standing in the ocean letting the waves wash over your feet and legs is also incredibly therapeutic, like the ocean is washing away my stress and problems.

I wish you all the best, it will get easier I promise.

A wise woman in a pub toilets once said to me
" If a man makes you cry, he isn't worth crying about.'
I've held to that. I'm currently getting painfully divorced from a cheating, lying manipulator and I've cried buckets and he really isn't worth it!
Try taking soft stuff, soup, yoghurt etc. and be easy on yourself. You deserve better! So be kind :-)
(((hug)))

Hi.

I live in Allen, Texas so I can appreciate the no a/c problem. Have been there and it blows. I hope that clears up for you soon.

A few practical things......

1) Regardless of what happened, it IS a loss. Youre going through the stages of grieving, which is natural. Allow yourself the time to grieve, but try not to wallow in it. If you're not familiar with the 5 stages of grieving, take 5 seconds to Google it. It'll give you a roadmap for what you are going through.

2) There ARE ways to cope:

My wife and I found out a month before my son was born that he had a congenital heart defect that meant he would have to have open heart surgery within two weeks of being born. He had another one at 8 years old & is due for at least one more. I tell you this because of the things we learned on this life changing journey:

a) Try not to go down "the rabbit hole" The farther down you get, the longer and harder it is to get out of it. You will eventually, but the digger you deep the hole, the bigger the shovel you need.

b) Remember regardless of your circumstances, there is VALUE in every single day. Its hard to see right now, but there is. And there are people in your life that will help you - if you let them. Don't let this define you, or get you off track. You're human and will get off track a little because its a natural reaction, but use the strength inside you to overcome it.

c) The most important thing we've learned in the darkest days?

Sometimes you have to take life a day at a time. Sometimes an hour at a time. Sometimes a minute at a time. Occasionally, even seconds at a time. Whatever manageable chunk works for you. You owe NO ONE an explanation or justification for how you choose to handle it.

You end up finding out whats really inside you when the chips are down and the rubber meets the road. Don't let someone's rejection of you shatter you, because it doesn't define WHO YOU ARE. Unless you let it. Just because some dumbass decided you weren't for him, it doesn't detract at all from all the things you offer to the world.

As to the food? Try to take the emotion out of it. Your body is a machine that needs proper fuel & you want to maintain the commitment to yourself you've already shown. Think of yourself as a car, would you overfill the tank or let it run out of gas? No. Youd treat it properly because you need it to get around. Your body is the same.

Please feel free to friend me if youd like. If not, take care of yourself.

Fsunami

Try to eat at least some peanut butter or any other nutrient dense food, and I second the multi-vitamin.

Your body will survive the deprivation just fine. I have gone through several cycles like that, and eventually your body and mind will recover and normalize. Don't try to force yourself to eat, because it doesn't work. Try to stay hydrated with things like full fat milk or at least 2%. Fats are important right now because they are critical for fat soluble vitamins and calorie dense.