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Robinson1258
Robinson1258 Posts: 58
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Soooooo I am in a bit of a rut my husband is not interested in anything I do he is not engaging at all. Especially since I have been in to my dieting also working out. I thought that it would of been cool for him to be into just a little bit but nothing yet. Am I just going crazy or should I just leave it alone I mean I dont know ughhhh.

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  • verptwerp
    verptwerp Posts: 3,659 Member
    Just take care of yourself ....... as long as he's happy for you & doesn't get in your way :drinker:
  • Go_Mizzou99
    Go_Mizzou99 Posts: 2,628 Member
    I hear you...my wife wants to eat out 6 times a week (even though we both love to cook). I will go twice, no more.
  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,501 Member
    Leave it alone. Don't force it. Maybe once in a while you could suggest that you do something fun together, like a like ride or an evening walk. If you force it he's likely to resist and may start to resent it.
  • jackjb2
    jackjb2 Posts: 83 Member
    Gotta be yourself first. Maybe someday he will see how much you enjoy it and join in--if not enjoy yourself
  • Drama_Free_Zone
    Drama_Free_Zone Posts: 149
    Let sleeping dogs lie. You cannot force someone to make a change, they have to choose that path for themselves in order for any lasting results to take hold. Eventually he might see you enjoying yourself and choose to join you, but even if he doesn't then it shouldn't affect how you decide to treat yourself.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    Don't worry. As soon as he starts to see the changes it's going to make to your body, mood, skin, hair, s3x drive and booty...he'll show more interest. :wink:
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    Meh.

    My husband isn't interested in the science of how I choose colors & patterns that go together but don't match & I'm not interested in Ohm's law and how he employs it to keep from getting dead at work....or whatever the hell he uses it for :laugh:

    Meet in the middle & enjoy what you all have in common :drinker:
  • Robinson1258
    Robinson1258 Posts: 58
    Thanks guys I am choosing to just let it go and focus on my goal at hand. I don't want that to drive away from where my mind is at its true you can make someone who is not interested in something find it appealing.I just have one question what if when he comes around to it, I'm just in the solo mind frame because he took to long to come around.At first he was all for it but now it's like I guess not so much I will lay it to rest.
  • msbunnie68
    msbunnie68 Posts: 1,894 Member
    Once they do come around you find you are more than ready to pounce on him and guide...so just ease in.

    The solo frame will dissolve (usually) unless there are other issues going on.
  • Robinson1258
    Robinson1258 Posts: 58
    Once they do come around you find you are more than ready to pounce on him and guide...so just ease in.

    The solo frame will dissolve (usually) unless there are other issues going on.

    I hope it will lol thanks
  • patfriendly
    patfriendly Posts: 263 Member
    Just focus on getting in shape and give him space. After you loose some weight, you could be like honey can you rub some oil on me and things will get better.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    My wife doesn't care about my weight loss, or what i am doing to lose it. To me, this is a good thing.

    She has always loved me regardless of if I was 225 lbs, or 175 lbs - so it doesn't really matter to her (outside of my health). This is for me and she allows me to do it how i do it.
  • linztx
    linztx Posts: 101 Member
    Mine, doesn't care either. He jumped on the weightloss boat the day I decided too, but that's it. No work outs together, no questions asked, no gym together, only thing we do together - is focus on better eating. I was discouraged because he wouldn't even ask, how is it going, or how was the gym, but at the end of the day, I am doing it for myself, so I stopped letting that get to me.

    Don't let it discourage you, what matters to us, isn't important to them. As long as you are doing it for yourself, that's what matters.

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