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xxharleyquinnxx
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So my boyfriends mum just said I am looking very slim and that I look good. I mean obviously it is a compliment because of my recent weight loss but I kinda am thinking that before she thought I was a bit chubby and now I am fretting that I will be heavier after holiday and she wont think I look good any more. Has this happened to any one else?
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The fretting part, looking good part or gaining the weight back part?0
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Why would you be heavier after holiday?0
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One of the many, many reasons not to bring up someone's weight. Remember that as you go through life, lol. There are other good reasons, too. People who are losing weight could have cancer or who knows what. Don't bring up people's weight - ever.
Do not obsess about it. If she think bad things (which is unlikely), who cares? You should be happy with yourself. If you allowed other people's opinion to dictate what you think about you, you'll never have a clear grip on yourself, because other people's opinions will be all over the board.
If you're happy and your doctor is happy, to hell with everyone else. They really do not matter at all.0 -
This is just me. I gave up thinking what people think of me awhile ago. I used to be self conscience to the point it was stopping me from doing some things I wanted to. I am eating healthy and moderate for me and my family. Looking good is nice as well. But it has to mean more than that, I think.
Take the compliment Don't think to much into it...
Just my 2 cents...0 -
Don't worry so much about what other people think of you.0
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I think your over-thinking this way too much.0
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Take it as a compliment and try not to read so much into it.0
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Why are you worried about what someone else thinks?
You have lost 7lbs. If losing 7lbs made you look slim, then you obviously weren't chubby before.0 -
Why do you care?0
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I think your over-thinking this way too much.
This. Say thank you and accept the compliment.0 -
Don't get sucked into otheration. Feel good because you are meeting your goals and feeling more fit, not because of one person's opinion. On this journey, there will be some up and down on the scale. You can't let it derail the end goal - or your happiness.0
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Take it as a compliment and try not to read so much into it.
Yes, please.0 -
I agree with what everyone else has said. Don't put too much thought, or concern into it. Just take the compliment as it was intended, that she thinks you are looking good!!0
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So my boyfriends mum
Stop wasting your energy. If you eventually get married to this young man, this woman will become your Mother In Law. Once that happens she will make your life miserable in ways you could have never imagined. You'll look back fondly on the day that she complimented you.0 -
So my boyfriends mum
Stop wasting your energy. If you eventually get married to this young man, this woman will become your Mother In Law. Once that happens she will make your life miserable in ways you could have never imagined. You'll look back fondly on the day that she complimented you.
Aw! That's not necessarily true. My MIL is my best friend. I even got to keep her after the divorce. :drinker:0 -
There's a saying: "What other people think of me is none of my business."
It's a little tough to get to this point in one's thought process, but believe me, once you're there, it's mighty freeing!!0 -
So my boyfriends mum
Stop wasting your energy. If you eventually get married to this young man, this woman will become your Mother In Law. Once that happens she will make your life miserable in ways you could have never imagined. You'll look back fondly on the day that she complimented you.0 -
Just take the compliment and try not to overthink it, sounds easy but I know that it's not..0
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The fretting part, looking good part or gaining the weight back part?
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One of the many, many reasons not to bring up someone's weight. Remember that as you go through life, lol. There are other good reasons, too. People who are losing weight could have cancer or who knows what. Don't bring up people's weight - ever.
Do not obsess about it. If she think bad things (which is unlikely), who cares? You should be happy with yourself. If you allowed other people's opinion to dictate what you think about you, you'll never have a clear grip on yourself, because other people's opinions will be all over the board.
If you're happy and your doctor is happy, to hell with everyone else. They really do not matter at all.
I've done this before. I was a bank teller and I had to look at the woman's id before she could make a withdrawal. She was at least 100 pounds heavier in the photo and I said something like "you've lost weight, how did you do it?" and she said "cancer." It shut me up quick. I haven't commented on someone's weight since.
I also stopped commenting on people's heights because someone said that a comment I made about them being "so tall" up set them. And I can understand that because I get sick of people commenting on my height (I'm 5'1).
However, most people don't mean anything by the comments. Try to take it at face value. She was being nice. Take it as such.0
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