Feeling Inadequate

caimay175
caimay175 Posts: 42 Member
edited February 26 in Motivation and Support
I really feel like I need to talk about this.

Sometimes, I feel that because I'm a 'big' girl, that I'm just not as good as girls with an amazing body. No matter any of my achievements, it's like they don't mean anything because at the end of the day, I'm fat and that cancels everything out.

The reasons I want to lose weight are so that I can be a better dancer, and be more confident and have a body I can be proud of. But there is an element of desperation - I want to be seen as worthy enough to date the best guys, etc. Even in dance - an artform I've achieved so much in - I feel like I'll never really be considered top of my game because I'm carrying too much weight.

It's so frustrating that I judge myself on my weight. It's always been that way, it's a precedent set by mother. I think my self-esteem is fractured and I don't know how to repair it - or if losing weight will even solve everything.

I don't know. Does anyone else - particularly women in their 20s - feel just so unbelievably cr@p for being fat?

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  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    Ever since my teens. And yeah, people do treat you better when you look better. Nature of the human beast. But there is a bright side: if you get down to your healthiest weight with great exercise like dance along with a very healthy diet of appropriate calories, you're going to be way ahead of the game, because the human bias toward slimness is part and parcel of the bias toward good health.
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.

    I have a dream today.

    I have a dream that one day down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of interposition and nullification -- one day right there in Alabama little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.

    I have a dream today.

    The way you look, the colour of your skin, how fat you are says nothing about your worth as a person. Not a damn thing. If anyone makes you fell that way tell them to jog the hell on. If you want to lose weight to achieve some goals which rely on physical attributes that is cool but remember it is not your wordly achievements which truly define your worth but the content of your character.

    If that person that make you feel bad is you say this to yourself every minute of the day until you start believing it "I am good enough. I will always be good enough".

    Hold your head high and live in beauty.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    You are as good.

    You're as good as anyone.

    If you want to lose weight, do that. But so not, for a second, believe you are your fat because you're so much more.
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