Cant lose weight....I need help

Not everyone is the same as to the sugar consumption. Try weighing everything! What if that red velvet cake has way more calories than you thought? I do know that one can sabotage all the hard work one had done during the week on the weekend. I used to have an MFP friend that could gain 3 - 6 lb on the weekend alone, even when he busted his but all week. He would sabotage himself constantly on the weekend. See if you can control your intakes on the weekend and you'll probably see the difference. Best of luck!

You've lost 10lbs, that's about 2lbs per week over 30 days. That's something to celebrate. I am up to 21lbs and just now beginning to feel a difference in clothes and my husband has said he's starting to see it in my face. I have heard many people say that it's around the 20lb mark that they begin to notice some changes in their bodies. Looks like you're on the right track. keep going.

Not everyone is the same as to the sugar consumption. Try weighing everything! What if that red velvet cake has way more calories than you thought? I do know that one can sabotage all the hard work one had done during the week on the weekend. I used to have an MFP friend that could gain 3 - 6 lb on the weekend alone, even when he busted his but all week. He would sabotage himself constantly on the weekend. See if you can control your intakes on the weekend and you'll probably see the difference. Best of luck!

I agree with weighing your food. Your body can actually fluctuate +/- 5 lbs a day. Those 3-6# were probably just water, not really sabotage. He'd have to eat 10,500-21,000 calories over maintenance to actually gain 3-6 over the weekend.

Read these:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1346163-change-your-mindset

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1217573-so-you-want-to-start-running

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

TL:DR the link right above this one then ->http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/975025-in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet

Excuses??? http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2014/06/02/the-no-excuses-play-like-a-champion-challenge/

If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

Underestimating calories eaten
overestimating calories burned
common problem.

Possible Plateau situation. I've plateau'd before due to my low constant daily calorie intake. What I try and do is eat more than my normal daily calories for a few days then back to my normal daily calories. It's called calorie cycling. People suggest this to I guess the term is "boost" your metabolism back into gear.

I'm not an expert by any means, but since I'm in kind of the same boat I'll tell you what I've been told.

Measure your belly - not waist, belly - it's below your natural waist. See if that is going down, even slightly. If it is going down in measurement but your weight number isn't, that's OK because it means you are losing actual fat, not just water.
If you calculated your BMR (resting metabolism, the smallest amount of calories your body needs to survive) using one of those online calculators it could be wrong. There is a test your doctor can do, it's a blowing test, and it will calculate your real BMR. I thought mine was 1576, it was really 800. Eight. Hundred.
So, my choices were eat only 800 calories or .... eat at most 1200 and exercise off at least 400 each day -- and - this important - DON'T eat them back. You just worked your butt off doing exercise, reward yourself by fully burning those extra calories, not with cake. You can have cake to celebrate your reaching your goal weight.
You must actually weigh and measure your food. And then don't use the lowest calorie count MFP comes up with for that food -- we all do it - if it says 140 on one and 150 on another, go with the 150. Then walk more steps. Even standing in place. Up and down in front of the TV. It all counts. And chances are very good your are underestimating your food. We all do it. Sadly it adds up ... 10 here, 20 there, 70 there ... boom that's an extra 100 calories and those add up day to day.
So, number one, go to a clinic that does the breath metabolism test and find out for real your base number of calories.
2. Don't eat back those bonus calories you just worked off. You deserve their full value - take it!
3. Food scales, measuring cups, and measuring spoons are your friends. Don't hate on 'em.
4. That Fitbit is your friend, too. I've named mine Jillian. As in Jillian Michaels. Who is brave enough to say "No, I won't do anymore" to Jillian? I know I'm not!
Good luck. Don't get discouraged. It will get better.

I looked at your personal info and your diary. My guess is you are just eating too much, too many days a week. It could be that your body does not burn as many calories as you are eating. When you set a calorie goal of 1350, then go over that by 600 calories several days a week and 300 on other days, you likely won't lose.

I'm older than you, much shorter than you and about 10 pounds heavier right now, but I have been losing at a steady pace.

Do you manage to achieve your Fitbit mileage goal most days? That is one of the things to aim for, IMO, much more than the step goal.

Try eating exactly at your MFP calorie goal every single day for a few weeks along with moving a bit more and I'll bet you will lose.