two peoples, two diets, is this healthy?
chrissythepoet
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Okay, so a friend of mine just recently started seeing the same nutritionist that I see. Just for the sake of this conversation I will call him buddy because, well he is my buddy.
So Buddy sees the same nutritionist as I do where she goes over correct serving sizes of different things. Like how much is in an actual cup. and how to estimate 6 ounces of meat just looking at your hand. Same with a tablespoon. It's very interesting. We also talk about different ways to cut calories.
A month ago, I found a guy buddy that lives in my dorm also sees the same nutritionist. One day I was getting biscuits and gravy which I had calculated into my calorie intake for the day. He said to me watch those carbs girl. Remember what the nutritionist said. Yes, the nutritionist did talk to me about trying to switch to whole grain.
I notice Buddy seems to eat a whole lot more than my calories allow for. So I of course confronted him. Like for example today, everything in the dorm is served cafeteria style. For breakfast he gets a stack of pancakes. It looks like he's eating from an IHOP commercial with 6 or seven pancakes. Then he gets clover honey and pours a whole lot of honey on his pancakes. When I ask him, he says oh honey is natural and better than syrup. (in my opinion you can't use all the honey in the world because of the sugar)
So tonight we have sausage links with potatoes mixed with veggies and mushrooms. I see him get two plates stacked high with potatoes and veggies. When I confront him (I confront him because he confronts me when I eat something i'm not supposed to)
He says Oh i didn't eat lunch today. Sometimes I only eat once or twice a day.
The reason this upsets me is because I'm on a diet and i'm smaller than he is yet I can't eat as much as he does. I also wanted to know if only eating one or two meals a day is healthy.
Should I confront him more? Should I say here try this sugar free syrup instead of honey?
Thanks for any advice. Sometimes I feel like I can't eat around him because he eats a whole ton and makes me feel like I'm depriving myself.
So Buddy sees the same nutritionist as I do where she goes over correct serving sizes of different things. Like how much is in an actual cup. and how to estimate 6 ounces of meat just looking at your hand. Same with a tablespoon. It's very interesting. We also talk about different ways to cut calories.
A month ago, I found a guy buddy that lives in my dorm also sees the same nutritionist. One day I was getting biscuits and gravy which I had calculated into my calorie intake for the day. He said to me watch those carbs girl. Remember what the nutritionist said. Yes, the nutritionist did talk to me about trying to switch to whole grain.
I notice Buddy seems to eat a whole lot more than my calories allow for. So I of course confronted him. Like for example today, everything in the dorm is served cafeteria style. For breakfast he gets a stack of pancakes. It looks like he's eating from an IHOP commercial with 6 or seven pancakes. Then he gets clover honey and pours a whole lot of honey on his pancakes. When I ask him, he says oh honey is natural and better than syrup. (in my opinion you can't use all the honey in the world because of the sugar)
So tonight we have sausage links with potatoes mixed with veggies and mushrooms. I see him get two plates stacked high with potatoes and veggies. When I confront him (I confront him because he confronts me when I eat something i'm not supposed to)
He says Oh i didn't eat lunch today. Sometimes I only eat once or twice a day.
The reason this upsets me is because I'm on a diet and i'm smaller than he is yet I can't eat as much as he does. I also wanted to know if only eating one or two meals a day is healthy.
Should I confront him more? Should I say here try this sugar free syrup instead of honey?
Thanks for any advice. Sometimes I feel like I can't eat around him because he eats a whole ton and makes me feel like I'm depriving myself.
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How about you worry about yourself and stop micromanaging what and how other people eat.0
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Hahaha what the hell. You sound like you need to calm down.0
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Yeah, don't play that game. Both of you mind your own business. Seems like the easiest solution to set that boundary.0
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Um. Worry about yourself????0
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Find a way to let it go. He is seeing a professional. Be his friend. He does not need you as his diet police.0
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#1 he is a guy. #2 like most have said, fight your own battle.0
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You do you. Let Buddy do Buddy.
Males have higher calorie needs than women, and the bigger you are, the more calories you need. If the nutritionist is doing her job your calorie goal and his ought to be very different.0 -
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He's a guy, and bigger than you, of course he can eat more. And more importantly, what do you care? Mind your own business, plenty there to keep you busy.
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You just said it, you're smaller than he is - so you require less calories. The diet you've been given is the diet calculated for you based on weight, height, gender, exercise levels, etc. Do you think there's one diet to suit every single person whether you're a 6 ft muscular bound weight lifter or a small, cardio athlete?0
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If you were the same size and activity level and you ate 6 meals a day and he ate 2 then yes his meals would obviously need to be higher calorie.
And no, only eating 2 meals a day is not an issue.0 -
I'm confused - how does Buddy's pancake consumption affect YOUR weight loss?0
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Half of the replies were not helpful. Do you want your friend to confront you about when he feels you are outside your limits and vice versa? For me, There's very few people I would want commenting on my diet. If he isn't one them, I would ask him to stop. Be polite about it and just tell him that you are within the regulations set out by your nutritionist and your food intake is of none of his concern. Does he want you commenting on his food intake? My advice is that the nutritionist is paid to develop these programs for each individual. As long as you abide by the restrictions set for you, I wouldnt concern myself with what your friend is eating. i think its stressing you out. Focus on what you're doing and meeting your goals and let buddy do what he needs to do. I think if you continue to monitor your friends food, you'll become jealous and give up on what youre trying to do. Hang in there. There's a reason your nutritionist laid out your pgroam. Stick to it and you'll be good.0
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lol, you confronted him. ha ha.0
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Men usually eat more calories than women. Don't worry yourself about his diet. If he's making you uncomfortable when he confronts you - tell him that. You should both just focus on yourselves. Its enough effort to concentrate on your own diet as it is.0
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A) men get more calories than women, they have a higher metabolism (generally)
heavier people get more calories than lighter people
C) meal timing and frequency are irrelevant, if he chooses to eat all his calories in one meal or six, doesn't matter
D) you do not know what the nutritionist has told him for his plan, your plan SHOULD be different from his
E) unless he has specifically asked you to police his intake, mind your own business, he is a grown up and can do what he wants0 -
The nutritionist will have personalised your diet plans based on your goals, height, weight, gender, activity levels, lifestyle, etc.etc. you focus on your goal and your plan and leave your buddy to do the same.
Trust that he knows what he's doing and is following the advice he's received.0 -
Gave up reading after the second paragraph. Way too complicated0
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Why do you care?0
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I'm truly confused why you care so much.
Males have higher caloric needs than females anyway.
Mind your business.
Seriously I cannot comprehend why you would care so much
EDIT: That was my 1000th post! ..w00!!
Edit #2: I'm not your buddy, guy
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I'm confused. He's male. He's bigger than you. OF COURSE he's gonna get to eat more! And especially if he's only eating two meals a day… they are going to be bigger meals. What is so difficult about this for you?
Not only that…because his goals or his health may be different from yours… the exact same nutritionist could have put him on an entirely different diet than you are on.
If you are truly friends, how about you communicate with each other about what kind of diet you are supposed to be following rather than assuming he should be eating the same as you? Then, rather than confronting each other… you support each other?0 -
Tell him to quit bugging you about your meals. This practice can go nowhere fun, as you've already noticed. If he's truly eating just the once or twice a day and can fit the pancakes, then the weight will come off. Else he's only affecting his own diet. Worry about yours for sure. Trust me, you'll have your hands way full if you don't already!0
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I'm confused. He's male. He's bigger than you. OF COURSE he's gonna get to eat more!
um... how do you know he's larger? It's not been stated in the OP - so there is no 'Of Course' ... you're guessing.0 -
just focus on yourself.. yes it's annoying men can eat more than you do, but there's nothing you can do about it and all these confrontations.. they will get annoying x)0
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I'm confused. He's male. He's bigger than you. OF COURSE he's gonna get to eat more!
um... how do you know he's larger? It's not been stated in the OP - so there is no 'Of Course' ... you're guessing.
It is stated in the OP:The reason this upsets me is because I'm on a diet and i'm smaller than he is yet I can't eat as much as he does. I also wanted to know if only eating one or two meals a day is healthy.0 -
Your 'Buddy" is an annoying little git isn't he?
some people just need to bug other people so they can stop feeling so miserable about themselves.
Let it go..... tell him to worry about his diet, not yours and you will do the same. Don't fall into his web of making you feel bad and doubt yourself.0 -
It is stated in the OP:The reason this upsets me is because I'm on a diet and i'm smaller than he is yet I can't eat as much as he does. I also wanted to know if only eating one or two meals a day is healthy.
Sorry I missed that .. need more coffee .. my mistake :blushing:0 -
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My husband can eat QUADRUPLE the number of calories I consume and still lose weight faster than me. He also has much, much more muscle mass and is MALE! His body is not designed to bear children and breastfeed, like ours are.
It goes back to caveman days. He needs mass quantities of food so that he can run out into the world and slay Sabertooth Tigers and drag their carcasses back to the cave. All the while, we lady-folk hang out at our cave-homes, barefoot (and probably pregnant), gathering berries, keeping track of our countless children and anxiously awaiting the arrival of our man with the dinner.
In all reality, you just gotta let it go. Just another reason why men officially suck!0 -
^^^^^^ This. You are trying to compare apples to oranges.How about you worry about yourself and stop micromanaging what and how other people eat.0
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