Confused

You are on MFP so why not try that?

Dianne gave you the info you need to get started.

when i need motivation i look at skinny girls or before and after pictures

We've all been there. The thing is to make small changes, and move around more. I tried weight watchers, Jenny Craig, and some fast diets........always gained the weight back. Now I try and make better choices......small steps. No sugar in coffee or tea (you get use to it after awhile). Frozen yogurt instead of ice cream, salad or veggies with most meals, bread only once a day (instead of lunch and dinner), and keep moving. Clean the house, work in the yard, cut the grass, walk in the mall (even if it's slow walking it's moving). MFP has helped me tons. Logging really keeps me close to my daily goal. Yes we all go over and have bad days.....but then something amazing happens and the good days out number the bad ones. Keep trying.......that's the key.

This!^

Make small changes that you can live with. I eat more veggies, I move more, I snack less. Your list may look different.....that's fine. Do what is sustainable.

Logging meals/snacks in MFP is super helpful in helping you find out what your changes will be. Some foods will not be "worth it".... others will be. It's all your choosing really.

Read the threads .....really helpful.

Here are a few tips that I found to work for me:
1. Make MFP your home page
2. Log in EVERYDAY, read the message boards post.. Keep your mind actively thinking about it.
3. Don't try to change too much at once, Implement 1 change every week or so. Little tweeks over time seem to work best or at least better than butt load of change all at once
4. Always be honest. We all fall on our way to the top, be honest, no one is judging you here... we all support eachother
5. Keep trying new things until you find what works for you (It took me a while to find my plan and it works great for me but I wouldn't push it on anyone else)
6. It's easier to lift weights than the burdens of carrying weight.
7. Take it one day at a time.
8. Have a cheat day or meal, where you eat what you want
9. Try to talk to yourself as if you are talking to your child or loved one. Often times the thing we need most is to be a better friend to ourselves.
10. Smile

None of those. Try adding in things to your daily diet instead of restriciting yourself. Watch hungry for change for inspiration. Check out weight loss documentaries on youtube. Just start yourself a food diary and write down everything you eat, do as activity and are feeling for each day. Weigh and measure your foods. Pay attention to serving sizes. Stay basic when it comes to eating. Eat whole foods instead of lab made foods. Look at the ingredients when buying foods. Example: if it is the choice between bleached flour or whole wheat flour pick whole wheat. If its lean meat or fatty meat, pick lean meats. You don't have to pay for any meal plans to lose weight. I love the basics of what weight watchers teaches but you can do this on your own for sure. Add in daily exercise. Eat (and burn off) less than your maintenance cals and you will lose weight. Track everything you eat every day. I keep a written journal along with mfp. I make myself lots of small goals to achieve too. You can do this. A big tip: if you make sure you exercise then its okay to eat more and you will still lose. So definitely exercise but focus on the calories and portion sizes you take in.