GUILT... Overeating

oksanatkachuk
oksanatkachuk Posts: 149 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Hi all

I m on MFP like a week but been eating properly longer. I started with 64 kg in May.

Today I feel like *kitten* for sabotaging my hard work.. Nobody in RL will appreciate these winning, so hoping to find some support with you all here..
I got bad sunburn (which is already disappointing as a goal was to look good for a holiday) . Instead I m home, red, peeling and pigged out over 700 cal.. Needless to say missed few workouts..

I guess I need somebody to tell me it's ok to collapse and not to beat myself up. So hard to forgive myself for all the things I did wrong with my life and body particularly ..

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  • chilly1470
    chilly1470 Posts: 178 Member
    It's okay to collapse and don't beat yourself up! Now, move on, live long and prosper. Fall, get back up. Slip, try again. Eat too much, exercise.
  • HeidiCooksSupper
    HeidiCooksSupper Posts: 3,832 Member
    Wait, did I write that post? Oops. I guess not. Perhaps more important than 700 calories is the need to work on replacing our feelings of guilt with a sense of purpose. I'm only truly learning this in my 60s. Get a head start now.

    You'll find lots of inspiration in some of the MFP member blogs. This one is now in my bookmark bar so I read it over and over and get the idea in my head. Note -- she does not mention guilt once. That is why it's an inspiration.
  • tiffanylux
    tiffanylux Posts: 1
    hi,
    i just started using myfitnesspal today, after i managed to pig out and eat like a cow.
    i felt horrible but instead of pitying myself i thought about it and decided that i should just get up and exercise :)
    i may not have burned it all off but i am still proud of myself for working out rather then feeling miserable.
    everyone has their bad days but thats no reason to give up :D
    move on just remember how you felt after this next time before you ever feel like pigging out again :p
    this is just one bad day out of all the good days to come!
    dont give up, we are in this together :)
  • oksanatkachuk
    oksanatkachuk Posts: 149 Member
    Wait, did I write that post? Oops. I guess not. Perhaps more important than 700 calories is the need to work on replacing our feelings of guilt with a sense of purpose. I'm only truly learning this in my 60s. Get a head start now.

    You'll find lots of inspiration in some of the MFP member blogs. This one is now in my bookmark bar so I read it over and over and get the idea in my head. Note -- she does not mention guilt once. That is why it's an inspiration.



    Which one? I d love to keep it in my bookmarks too.. Having a feeling it's not a last time I ll fail :(
  • oksanatkachuk
    oksanatkachuk Posts: 149 Member
    Thank u for taking time to support me, it's a magic pill!
  • HeidiCooksSupper
    HeidiCooksSupper Posts: 3,832 Member
    Wait, did I write that post? Oops. I guess not. Perhaps more important than 700 calories is the need to work on replacing our feelings of guilt with a sense of purpose. I'm only truly learning this in my 60s. Get a head start now.

    You'll find lots of inspiration in some of the MFP member blogs. This one is now in my bookmark bar so I read it over and over and get the idea in my head. Note -- she does not mention guilt once. That is why it's an inspiration.



    Which one? I d love to keep it in my bookmarks too.. Having a feeling it's not a last time I ll fail :(

    DRAT!!! Here I even opened it up in a new window but forgot to copy and past the link!! Silly me. Here 'tis:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/_gypsyrunner_/view/the-beauty-of-800-days-676582
  • Cerakoala
    Cerakoala Posts: 2,547 Member
    We all fall it's okay :) You are here posting so you have some accountability which means you want to get back up and move forward. DO IT! :) Start at your next meal. You are worth this journey and what is has to offer :) We have all been where you are jsut get up and keep going :)
  • juliemouse83
    juliemouse83 Posts: 6,663 Member
    I think it happens to many of us at one point or another. I went whole hog and had a major binge shortly after restarting here in the early part of 2013. I felt so guilty, but everything I read said to pull up my big girl panties, get over it and keep going. Tough love, but that is exactly what I did. It happened. Move on. You get another chance with each new day. :flowerforyou:

    You've got this!
  • Samstan101
    Samstan101 Posts: 699 Member
    You don't have to be perfect every day. There will be days, sometimes planned other times not where you go over. The key thing is to get back on track the next day. I was around 600 cals over maintenance yesterday because my OH took me out for a meal and a few drinks. I could have skipped dessert and had less to drink (the way I felt running this am the latter may have been wise!) but I decided '**** it!' and had a great night. Technically I undid yesterday's gym session work and all my efforts today to get back an average of maintenance over the 2 days, but over the last 7 days I'm still in deficit of around 4700 cals.

    My point is you can't beat yourself up for a slip up. If you're developing healthy eating habits for life then there are days where you'll want treats and special events where you decide to splurge. As long as those are the exception and not the normal then you'll get to goal and keep the weight off IMO.
  • ereck44
    ereck44 Posts: 1,170 Member
    Wait, did I write that post? Oops. I guess not. Perhaps more important than 700 calories is the need to work on replacing our feelings of guilt with a sense of purpose. I'm only truly learning this in my 60s. Get a head start now.

    You'll find lots of inspiration in some of the MFP member blogs. This one is now in my bookmark bar so I read it over and over and get the idea in my head. Note -- she does not mention guilt once. That is why it's an inspiration.



    Which one? I d love to keep it in my bookmarks too.. Having a feeling it's not a last time I ll f

    DRAT!!! Here I even opened it up in a new window but forgot to copy and past the link!! Silly me. Here 'tis:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/_gypsyrunner_/view/the-beauty-of-800-days-676582

    Love this! Going to bookmark this as well!
  • kaseyr1505
    kaseyr1505 Posts: 624 Member
    It's okay to make mistakes, you're human. Tomorrow is a brand new day.

    What made you pig out? Were you feeling negative, or bored? When I go over my calories, I like to look at how I was feeling, or things that surrounded the overage, so I can work to fix those issues. Sometimes, an overage is just an overage, but others it's nice to look at the things that might contribute.
  • Mykaelous
    Mykaelous Posts: 231 Member
    The first step is to acknowledge that you made a bad mistake, one that you do not wish to repeat. The next step is to move forward by making the right choice to be healthy now.

    Don't cry over split milk, but don't excuse it. Simply acknowledge it as a mistake and take steps not to repeat the same mistake in the future.
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    Hi all

    I m on MFP like a week but been eating properly longer. I started with 64 kg in May.

    Today I feel like *kitten* for sabotaging my hard work.. Nobody in RL will appreciate these winning, so hoping to find some support with you all here..
    I got bad sunburn (which is already disappointing as a goal was to look good for a holiday) . Instead I m home, red, peeling and pigged out over 700 cal.. Needless to say missed few workouts..

    I guess I need somebody to tell me it's ok to collapse and not to beat myself up. So hard to forgive myself for all the things I did wrong with my life and body particularly ..

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    a couple of "bad" days means very little in the grand scheme of things.
  • utchristie
    utchristie Posts: 4 Member
    I actually received a great blurb on my Jawbone UP app today about this very thing: "That ice cream scoop won't necessarily make you fat. The hormones that regulate appetite, leptin and ghrelin, aren't affected by small cheats. You gain weight when overeating becomes a habit."

    Don't beat yourself up :) Each day is new and I find that I sometimes have to take it hour by hour. Stick with it and don't sweat the small stuff.
  • Barbellarella_
    Barbellarella_ Posts: 454 Member
    Just look at it like a maintenance day, no worries. The guilt cycle will make you continue to mess up, so DON'T beat yourself up!!

    Oh and extra advice: DO NOT weigh yourself for a few days after a sunburn. Oh my goodness the scale goes up like crazy because of the burn! Water retention for days. Don't look if your sensitive to what the scale says!

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