kinda wanna stop trying

honestly feels like I will never fit into clothes at these stores im just built big or something...

Don't accept that illusion of reality. That's just what people tell themselves as a reason for giving up. You're not built big. There's no such thing. If you decide to keep trying or give up the time will still pass either way. You can be saying the same thing in a couple years or you can keep working on it and perhaps by then you'll be wearing a medium dress or smaller. How bad do you want it?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsSC2vx7zFQ

It took me 3 years to lose the weight. I always thought I was built big (I sort of am because I'm tall), but clothes really do fit well when the fat is gone. I will always be in size Large (I was even at 16% body fat). There's no shame in the size. Keep taking it a day at a time. Your baby is only 6 months old. Keep working at it and you will lose the weight. Go to bed every night saying you will do it again tomorrow.

Make sure that you have your goals set up appropriately. It can be helpful in the long run.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

I see a couple things in your post. Discouragement and denial. I understand the discouragement. I lose slowly and stall often and 3 years after starting this program I have lost 161 pounds, but still have 65 to go to goal. I too get discouraged. It's not happening fast enough for us. But what really helps is focusing on what I have lost, that I've gone from a size 34 to an 18, I'm mobile again.

As for denial let me tell you, it's so easy to say I'm big boned, it's just water weight, etc. Truth is your body type may never fit into a an XS or a size zero, but you probably can get into a medium or large given enough time, the right plan and some consistent exercise. This should be more about being healthy than a specific size. I will never be model thin, but I'm OK with that. As long as I can shop in normal stores rather than fat people stores and I am healthy and mobile, then my weight loss has been a success.

One more thing. You have a 6 month old. What kind of an example do you want to be to your little one? Do you want to show that child what a healthy lifestyle is with good healthy food, healthy portions, and being active on a regular basis (exercising)? Or do you want your child to grow up with a fat mom who doesn't teach them how to be healthy. Let me tell you, I was the fat mom, I didn't teach my kids how to be a normal weight. And now my youngest daughter, who has my body type and my weight issues is doing the same thing with her kids. And why? Because I set a horrible example and I taught her how to be fat. You are at the beginning, make a better choice than I did.

Based on the other posts, I'm sure you can see that many of have been in the same boat you are right now. One thing to keep in mind is that you're only going to be 30. Keeping on with your efforts to lose weight now will definitely be easier than if you do like some of us (me) and wait until you're in your mid 40s to try and start losing. Its tougher as you get older because (1) Your metabolism is probably going to slow down and (2) the longer you wait, the longer it takes to "unlearn" the habits that we developed to gain the weight in the first place. I know you're frustrated at the moment, but keep on pushing. You'll be glad that you didn't give up on yourself.

my 30th bday is coming up and last night I went to walk around the mall with my 6month old while her dad worked out at the gym, I was just browsing some stores to see if I could possibly find a dress for my 30th bday...

I was sooo disappointed that I walked into three stores and the biggest size they carried was Large... Ive been working so hard and the weight has come off but Im at a point where im just over it!

Im over always obsessing about my weight.... maybe im just destined to be this way.

Im not saying im going to turn around and stuff my face with oreos or UNDO all my hard work but honestly feels like I will never fit into clothes at these stores im just built big or something...

ughh this is just a VENT

I know I will keep going but it was just discouraging is all

Instead of going to stores that you know you won't fit into, go to a store you know you will. That way you won't become depressed when nothing fits. There are many stores that sell plus-size clothing. Lane Bryant has a lot of nice clothes, especially dresses.

If you can't make it into a clothing size you want for your birthday, it might help to pick a different occasion to strive toward. Labor Day if you're American? Halloween? Winter Holidays? That might help you push on forward.

You can do this, and so many of us are here trying our bests to do it with you. I go through periods of doubting my ability to deal with the stress of trying to lose weight, and wanting to just give up too. Everybody does. It's what we do to get through those rough patches that matters. I once went from a size 20 to a size 14 when I was in college. I wanted to lose weight but I got lazy and gave up and convinced myself that I couldn't be smaller than a size 14 no matter how hard I tried. Then I got pregnant and ended up in a size 20 again. I got lazy and depressed after that and allowed myself to balloon up to a size 26, and barely squeezing into them. Since then I'm back down to a size 20/22 again, and while I definitely want to give up some days, I know it will be worth it in the long run to get myself back into those size 14 jeans and even smaller. Like someone else said, not everybody is meant to wear a size 0 or xs, especially those of use with larger chests, but there is no reason I can't wear a size large. Don't give up, and if you want, send a friend request and we'll get through this together and help each other get back into "normal sizes." We've got this!

If you can't make it into a clothing size you want for your birthday, it might help to pick a different occasion to strive toward. Labor Day if you're American? Halloween? Winter Holidays? That might help you push on forward.

Not Halloween... all the girl costumes are skanky

Hey nothing wrong with a day of skank every year! :bigsmile:

THank you... aghhh im in tears! not bad tears.. just tears I realizing how hard this is and the determination and discipline it requires

The irony is that the hard part is in the beginning.

The choices will become more natural and habitual.
The baby will get older.
You will start seeing successes.
It will get easier.

THank you... aghhh im in tears! not bad tears.. just tears I realizing how hard this is and the determination and discipline it requires

The irony is that the hard part is in the beginning.

The choices will become more natural and habitual.
The baby will get older.
You will start seeing successes.
It will get easier.

Wise words!!

The reality of the situation is, with continuing to try you have every chance of fitting in those clothes while doing nothing gives you 0% chance.

But I understand what you mean. It is a daunting task at times. think about it this way though...it took you years of indulgence to get to the point you are, it won't change in days, months, or maybe even years as well. It is a process that you do daily for the rest of your life, and the changes will come. You will have times you are MORE diligent than others, and times you might slip too much. What happens over that time is, as the old behaviors and thoughts processes are replaced with healthier, moderated, conscientious living you will have less slips and for shorter times. Eventually the new life and new habits will be the norm and digression the exception.

Just keep reminding yourself that one day or one weekend won't ruin a months worth of effort. Get back on track as soon as you can and always get up one more time than you fail.

Cheers.

How long did it take you to put on the weight? I bet a lot longer than it will take to get it off if you stick to it. Besides, you do not want to look back in the near future, being the same or heavier than you are now and think, Damn, if I just would have stuck with it, I would have already lost all the weight by now. Now I am starting from scratch. Screw that! Stick with it for your future self, do not screw her.