Weight loss jealousy

it sickens me that when you try to do something good with your life, people try to bring you down. You both look incredible and I am soo proud that you both have continued with your weight loss journey. Ignore what people say about you guys being too thin. I know if I was healthy bmi I would look thin as well but I want to lose weight until I find myself attractive.

Everyone's always an expert when they're talking to/about someone else. I used to deal with that where I worked before now (40 women in my department.......) :noway:


Congratulations on reaching your goal!! You did it for you and you know what is best for you! :flowerforyou:

Great job on your success!! Yes, unfortunately getting those types of comments (unsolicited) is going to happen. Some people can be very positive, like "wow, you look great!" or, "dang, you are getting skinny!". I usually just say thanks and move on.

I don't know how to react to the ones that say things like, "girl you might need to eat a cheeseburger!" I wish I had the balls to tell them, "girl, you DON"T need to eat one! You are chunky!" but I would never want to hurt anyone. Somehow they think when they comment it isn't hurting you.

Just hang in there and be sure to stand up for yourself and let them know you are healthy and doing things the right way!!

Unfortunately, it's pretty common. When you lose weight, other people have to confront the possibility that they could lose it, too. Many of them will lash out over it.

When/If this happens to me when I reach goal, if it's co-workers I'm simply going to tell them "If I want your advice, I'll ask for it, thanks."

Family may worry if I get too thin but I'll handle that differently by telling them, "I'm being careful and I know what I'm doing, but thanks for your concern."

Yeah this is very much my whole family. Apparently I have an eating disorder for weighing all my food and am bordering on anorexia with a BMI of 25. Lol :laugh:

Unfortunately, it's pretty common. When you lose weight, other people have to confront the possibility that they could lose it, too. Many of them will lash out over it.

This is the perfect way to word it! I have to admit I fell into that camp long before I started my own journey. I will fully admit to thinking not-so-nice things about people I knew who had lost considerable amounts of weight, and would even throw out a snide comment or two. Now that I'm older and wiser, I realize that that was all my own insecurity talking. I couldn't believe that someone I once viewed as grossly overweight was now thinner than I, and therefore I resorted to petty insults and backhanded compliments.

The most important thing is to remember the reasons why you did it, and revel in the fact that you look fabulous and feel great! Congratulations on reaching your goal!

I'd love to get comments about how skinny I was. My response would be:

Yes, my BMI is finally in the Normal Weight category, and I feel great! Thank you for noticing!

:blushing: :drinker:

Yup... I've had a friend (thank the forces that be that she recently moved away) who was so jealous that I was losing weight that she used to try to sabotage me. Even went so far as to try to feed me junk food. Once, I was cuddling with our friend's dog and she put a potato chip on my chest and got annoyed when I let the dog (a skinny bones greyhound, he can use the calories haha) eat it instead of doing so myself.

I think a lot of people feel convicted, so instead of looking at their actions and realising that they need to change, they feel guilty for not doing anything about it and try to make you stop so they don't have to be confronted with their own poor habits.


On the other hand, if you live in the US, it IS true that "normal" here is overweight, so seeing someone at a healthy (according to the BMI scale) weight would look skinny. There is a small chance that a small portion of these people aren't used to seeing people at healthy weights and to them you might look too skinny.

I've had a few people say I was "wasting away" but I think that people just get surprised when they see us with less weight on our bodies. I am always like, 135 pounds at 5'-2" tall is not wasting away.

Family may worry if I get too thin but I'll handle that differently by telling them, "I'm being careful and I know what I'm doing, but thanks for your concern."

Great answer! Thanks for the verbiage.

& to the OP, congrats on your hard work and success. You're an inspiration - as are many other posters on this site.

Trying to find the jealousy in this scenario...

I usually just give them something a little more to be jealous about. I usually come back with comments like "shopping for clothes is so fun now, so many more sexy styles I can fit in and my sex life is so great now! My boyfriend/husband can't keep his hands off me! Great sex is definitely better than cheesecake. ...just sayin! ....no offense. "

That usually shuts them up, if they wanna be jealous I'll give them something to be jealous about. They're the one with the weight issue not you.

Yep. I had a close friend drunkenly ask me to stop dieting before I got smaller than her. :drinker:

I think some of it's jealousy, but I also think that some people are just so used to you at a certain size that they lose perspective when you lose weight and think you're smaller than you really are. Kind of like seeing you in a fun house mirror.

In my experience, it took about a year before people got used to the "new" me and stopped thinking that I was going to waste away.

I've been told I need to "eat a cracker". I just laugh and say thanks. My whole family is fat, and they are worried that I'll have a heart attack or something from running. I just tell them I'm worried about their heart attacks from obesity. Usually shuts them up.