Feeling it tonight

wishings
wishings Posts: 13
in Motivation and Support
Does anyone else have a hard time with fitness inspiration? My friend on FB loves posting pictures of women who are extremely fit. She has been my cheerleader since day 1 and I love her dearly, but I often have to hide the images. It doesn't help me at all. I know that I will never look like those women. My body just doesn't do that. There was a time I was really fit and even then I still didn't have a six or even two pack. My legs weren't well defined (still jiggly), my butt was still big, and my arms were arguably the best in shape, but they were never big to begin with so kind of a meh. I also lost a whole cup size though my breasts are large to begin with so I guess it didn't matter too much. My body seems to love to keep fat on me especially the bottom half. Now I'm coping with an injury (one in which I had to get surgery for) and during that time I've gained 5lbs. My progress is going to be slow because of my injury. It is so miserable and frustrating. I know for some those images are encouraging and uplifting, but for me...they aren't. If anything I feel discouragement because I will never look like that. Does anyone else feel this way? Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one.

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  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with this. Pictures of fit women don't bother me, because usually they have worked really hard for it, plus you can't know their whole story by seeing the picture. I may never look like that, but I know I will look better than I do now. Truthfully, I have a good life and being overweight has little impact on that. So maybe you won't look like them. Hopefully you can find a way to be happier with being who you are, and becoming who you become.
  • stormbornkraken
    stormbornkraken Posts: 302 Member
    Yes. Even if I was to be very fit after dedicating years to it I would still have stretchmarks and surgery scars. I have had three abdominal surgeries (2 c-sections and a lap coli) and after breastfeeding my poor poor boobs will never be the same. I also have really bad skin so I will never be fitspiration worthy. I could pay 15K and get it all fixed but I tell myself two things:

    1) I do this to be stronger physically & mentally
    2) Most everything is Photoshopped

    Be gentle with yourself. Learn to love yourself.

    Best of luck, chin up! :flowerforyou:
  • wishings
    wishings Posts: 13
    Yes. Even if I was to be very fit after dedicating years to it I would still have stretchmarks and surgery scars. I have had three abdominal surgeries (2 c-sections and a lap coli) and after breastfeeding my poor poor boobs will never be the same. I also have really bad skin so I will never be fitspiration worthy. I could pay 15K and get it all fixed but I tell myself two things:

    1) I do this to be stronger physically & mentally
    2) Most everything is Photoshopped

    Be gentle with yourself. Learn to love yourself.

    Best of luck, chin up! :flowerforyou:

    I know I have a lot of body image problems and I've been trying to work through it so I thank you for what you've said. It is so hard sometimes being gentle with myself. But your right I didn't really intend on losing weight as much as I want to be more fit and healthier.

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