Does anybody have advice for overcoming depression?

swertyqwerty
swertyqwerty Posts: 81 Member
I'm on medication, seeing a dr, and reading lots of self help books and even did therapy at one point but nothing cures it. I'm better and I can function well now but I'm still depressed. Does anybody have any tips that worked for you?
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  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    If you find something that works, let me know.
  • liftmeup1
    liftmeup1 Posts: 373
    God is about all that helps....not knowing where to draw your next breath from is pretty rough....I'm there myself friend.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Exercise... seriously. It's the one thing I didn't see you mention. Not that it's a cure or anything, but it can help.

    Perhaps another doctor too if you've given your current regimen at least 3 months and there's still no change.
  • V0lver
    V0lver Posts: 915 Member
    Try Cognitive behavioral therapy
  • liftmeup1
    liftmeup1 Posts: 373
    Yes, but you can only workout so much before you run into injuries from overtraining making it even more unbearable. 7 days a weeks for two hours a day can only go so long.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I know there is also groups for mental health and depression here (and obviously other websites) that you may want to look into.
  • liftmeup1
    liftmeup1 Posts: 373
    I'd also say it depends on the issue that is causing the depression.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    You might be too paralyzed to make yourself exercise.
  • Asaint63
    Asaint63 Posts: 4
    Give an anti- depressant a chance. If it doesn't work, you can always quit taking it!
  • swertyqwerty
    swertyqwerty Posts: 81 Member
    thanks all for your tips and for letting me know you're in the same boat.
    I feel so blah/bored and uncomfortable, all the time. I can't derive any enjoyment from anything or look forward to anything, for no special reason. The meds take the edge off a little, but the feelings are still there.
    If I had my way I would sleep 24/7 but I know I want a better career so I'm pushing myself to work hard these days.
  • Asaint63
    Asaint63 Posts: 4
    Give an anti- depressant a chance. If it doesn't work, you can always quit taking it!
  • Asaint63
    Asaint63 Posts: 4
    The meds take 6-8 weeks to become fully therapeutic.....
  • soidade
    soidade Posts: 116 Member
    Anti-depressants take 2-3 MONTHS. If it hasn't been that long, you're asking too soon. And if the medication doesn't work, another medication might. I went through 3 anti-depressants before I found one that reduced my symptoms. It's a wait, but that's how it works. In the meantime, please consider seeing a different therapist. Aside from the fact that your mileage may vary with any given therapist, there are many different types of therapy. Maybe the one you tried wasn't right for you.

    Here are the major four types: http://psychcentral.com/therapy.htm
  • swertyqwerty
    swertyqwerty Posts: 81 Member
    Actually I just realized I lied. I do look forward to 1 thing: and that is a delicious meal. Meal time and sleep are the happiest parts of my day. It's making it hard to lose weight because I'm losing one of the things that I look forward to every day.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    well my opinions might be a bit controversial, but i think it depends if it's situational or chemical and if you can tell the difference.

    if it's chemical then meds..

    if it's situational then maybe start brain storming ways you can improve what's going on.



    good luck
  • shapri278
    shapri278 Posts: 2 Member
    Talk to your doctor. You may benefit from taking a different or additional medication. I've been there too. Some meds work for some people
    and some don't. Please, don't give up, talk to your dr. who prescribed your meds.
  • Coltsforlife
    Coltsforlife Posts: 124
    find something that you can focus on , a hobby that makes you feel good , depression is hard to overcome ive been on meds many times, I don't believe in taking pills so I tried many things , music, gardening etc and exercise really has helped
  • soidade
    soidade Posts: 116 Member
    Appetite change/weight difficulties are very typical of depression.

    The other thing you need to understand is that there is no "cure." Even if your symptoms were completely treated, your depression would be in remission. Most cases of depression can be managed with medication, therapy, life/coping skills training, or a combination of the three, but it's not like curing a cold. You need to accept that this is something you may struggle with for a long time, because that'll change your perspective on the effectiveness of the treatment. Don't expect medication to fix everything; expect it to make it less horrible.
  • soidade
    soidade Posts: 116 Member
    find something that you can focus on , a hobby that makes you feel good , depression is hard to overcome ive been on meds many times, I don't believe in taking pills so I tried many things , music, gardening etc and exercise really has helped

    Just because meds don't work for you don't mean that they don't work for other people. In truly severe cases of depression, NO hobby is satisfying. There have been points in my life where nothing, including food!, gave me any satisfaction. I probably wouldn't be alive today if someone hadn't encouraged me to try anti-depressants.
  • Johnboii1
    Johnboii1 Posts: 2
    I suffered from Anxiety and Depression back in 2004. Was a horrible experience. At the time I was finishing university. I decided to move abroad and chill out on a beach for a few years. I could only do this because I had a job that allowed me to work online. But it cured me.
    Hope you find a way to overcome it.
  • soidade
    soidade Posts: 116 Member
    I suffered from Anxiety and Depression back in 2004. Was a horrible experience. At the time I was finishing university. I decided to move abroad and chill out on a beach for a few years. I could only do this because I had a job that allowed me to work online. But it cured me.
    Hope you find a way to overcome it.

    It doesn't cure you, it treated the symptoms... Please don't spread misinformation.
  • I_need_moar_musclez
    I_need_moar_musclez Posts: 499 Member
    If you find any answers, can you send them my way, please?
    The gym helps to stave mine off temporarily.
  • diamier
    diamier Posts: 66 Member
    Well, I've started to heal myself according to ayurveda, though I had a little bit different problems (acne, anxiety, stress) and it quite helped me to overcome these. I think you should also look for culprit in your food (that's what ayurveda says).
  • aedreana
    aedreana Posts: 979 Member
    Advice from someone in a very dark place: The one and only path that leads out of the darkness is to focus 100% on confronting the people and situations that are responsible for it, and delete them from your life or force a resolution of the issues you have with them.
  • Pathend2
    Pathend2 Posts: 142
    I've suffered depression through most of my life, and it's not a simple fix. I've been off antidepression meds for years (on account of me not having insurance for 11 years), and there have definitely been some low points in my life.

    What keeps me going is reminding myself that I do have friends and family who care a lot about me and want me to do well. I've gone from being a loser working a crappy pizza cook job to becoming an English teacher, and a lot of that has to do with that support.

    There are days though that I just want to turn off the world. No one knows my pain; no one knows what it's like being as along as I am. I do remind myself that there are people who do know these things, but beyond that, I just keep pushing for the future. If I change myself, maybe it'll cause people to be drawn to me, and I keep making strives to improving myself on a regular basis.

    Finally, I'll impart some wisdom that a mentor of mine passed onto me. He told me that he used to experience the same feelings I did. He said it was like getting into a really dark elevator, riding it downwards for miles, then opening it to a room that's entirely pitch black - no sign of light.

    He went on to tell me that the best way out is to take stock in what you enjoy. Take some time for yourself - love yourself. For me, I like to take a nice walk around a pond near my house; especially when the sun is setting. It's gorgeous and it just puts me in a better mood. Other times I'll just grab my guitar and just strum/sing my heart out. All you need to do is do something for yourself now and again. It won't alleviate the pain entirely, but maybe it will remind you what's so amazing in this life of yours.

    And if you don't have anything like that, go find something! Find what soothes your mind and embrace it.

    And yes, you are most definitely not alone. Don't let it consume you; you'll always find the support you need.
  • Johnboii1
    Johnboii1 Posts: 2
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    It doesn't cure you, it treated the symptoms... Please don't spread misinformation.
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    I'll spread whatever I like thanks.
    Pretty sure it cured me, though obviously it won't for everyone.
  • EmilyTwist1
    EmilyTwist1 Posts: 206 Member
    This is what worked for me:

    1: Getting off medication. (This is something you have to discuss with your doctor. Medication helps many people, I'm just not one of them)

    2: Getting on birth control to keep hormonal mood swings in check.

    3: Taking St. John's Wort. (DO NOT take this if you are taking an SSRI. They act similarly in the brain and can cause an overdose when taken together. If this option interests you, talk to your doctor about it.)

    4: Eating a nutrient-dense diet. (This is something I'm not very good at yet, but I'm improving. There's some research that depression may be linked to nutrient deficiencies, such as B12. Again, discuss with your doc.)

    5: Exercise. This doesn't have to be anything super intense. I know the "I don't want to get out of bed ever" feeling that often comes with depression. So, I started with just walking.

    6: Getting outside. Low vitamin D (produced by skin in response to sun exposure) has been seen to have some association with depression. Exposure to sunlight can also help regulate your circadian rhythms, leading to better sleep. There's also a lot of research about nature therapy going on. Exposure to nature seems to help people with a variety of mental health issues.

    7: Getting enough, quality sleep. For me, there's a pretty narrow range of sleep amount I can get with out screwing my mood. Less than 6 or more than 8 tends to leave me feeling lethargic, and if it goes on for a while, I start having depression symptoms. Quality also matters. Turn off the screens, relax before bed, sleep in a dark, quite room, etc.

    None of these are a magic cure. For any of these to help, it takes time and consistency. And, in my experience at least, they have to be done in combination.

    And, again, talk to your doctor about these things before making any changes. Whether you're on medication or not, lifestyle should be part of your plan to kick depression out on its behind. If your doc hasn't talked to you about this, bring it up.
  • liftmeup1
    liftmeup1 Posts: 373
    Sweet,I didn't know birth control worked.
  • I certainly can relate and empathise because I've been there three times. '93, 2001 and 2005. Each episode got worse. First time I just exercised more, Second time around I had to go on medication (quite mild). Third time around I needed stronger med, had counseling (which I was reluctant to do, but I found worked) and made a real effort to get my exercise levels up. It all worked. Took about 12-18 months to get myself right.

    Touch wood its 2014, and I haven't felt this good for 20 years. Having said that, I'm approaching 40 and have really upped the exercise and watching my calorie intake. Lost 15kgs and feel great.

    If you are reluctant to go on prescription medication (but there are some great SSRIs that really work), you could try a supplement regime which has helped me the past couple of years. Some will work for you, others not. Its quite a bit of trial n error (without any side effects in doing so). You could try to get your growth hormone levels up naturally through the use of colostrum, glutamine and GABA. Also you can improve your mood through Nootropics such as piracetam.

    Also as much sunshine and outside warmth as possible - I live in a temperate climate (cold grey winters, but long dry hot summers - so I'm outdoors whenever I can in summer, and there is irrefutable evidence that vitamin D and sunlight has a positive impact on seratonin levels. I certainly notice it!

    There is also a supplement called 5-HTP which is derived from a African herb that has positive impacts on seratonin and melatonin levels. Works for many - didn't for me, but worth a shot. (Dont take ifwhen on SSRIs though). Also Alpha-GPC (derived from soy) can also be beneficial.

    If you are having trouble sleeping, 3grams of GABA right before bed works wonders. GABA is a natural neurotransmitter in the brain and its great to improve the quality of your deep sleep. Good 'deep sleep' is crucial when working on depression as it helps the brain fix the balance chemically.

    As I said, Ive done some work around these (it helps having a background and qualifications in science), read medical papers and journals and as such feel great.

    So my three pronged 'attack' was to drop my calorie intake by about one-third (I don't ban any foods, just limit intake), doubled my exercise per week from 2 to 4 hours, and have formulated a great supplements regime that over time has helped as well.

    All the best - it takes work, courage, but you'll get through it.
  • swertyqwerty
    swertyqwerty Posts: 81 Member
    thank you for your tips all. I'm going to save this page on my computer.
    Some of you guys/girls are so gorgeous/fit I can't believe you're depressed (even though I know in my head it's something that can and does affect anybody).