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emmahomewood2013
emmahomewood2013 Posts: 3
in Motivation and Support
I went to the doctors because I have trouble with my periods and there may be a chance that i might have to be put to sleep. I do not want to do this while i am the weight i am otherwise i may not wake up.

My husband is great with the support but not at chosing substutes but this is what gets me I tell my mum this is it I need to lose weight so she sits there crunching on big huge chocolate bars and packs of crisps and then asks me if i want some. What do you do really. I love my family to pieces and have great respect but i dont feels it both ways.

What would you do when walking into that situation ??????

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  • atreides42
    atreides42 Posts: 51 Member
    Loving family will still eat crap in front of you. It's all about your decisions in the face of the temptations.
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    In all honesty (and this may be a little harsh) you are the one trying to lose weight, not your mom. You really can't expect people to change their eating habits to make things easier for you. You just need to keep saying no thanks when she offers.
  • Spreyton22K
    Spreyton22K Posts: 323 Member
    Hi there,

    Perhaps you could try thinking of it this way, having a supportive network particularly with your family is a BONUS not a necessity for you to be successful in your endeavours to lose weight.

    Somewhere deep inside those who make the decision to lose weight, stick at the often long and tedious process and claim success with being able to maintain their new weight, came to that point because they wanted all the benefits for THEMSELVES.

    They didn't do it depending on others for support, encouragement or even acknowledgement. In fact many like you did it despite others ie: You cannot expect your Mum to change her eating habits because of you.

    It must be very worrying the prospect of surgery and all the risks that are inherent with those procedures, do all you can to start a new life for you. Every lb lost before you need your operation is a step in the right direction and will help your Doctors give you the safest possible outcome.

    Best of Luck to you :flowerforyou:
  • RamonaFr
    RamonaFr Posts: 112
    Think of it as good practice. Every time your mother tempts you, you have a moment of decision. Every time you say, "no, thanks," you strengthen your self-control. It's like working out, challenging your muscles. This way you're challenging your mind, your self-control.
  • emmooney235
    emmooney235 Posts: 85 Member
    My Grandmom will go crazy with praise and congrats for losing what I have, and without even taking a breath will offer me 5 different freshly baked goodies. I just smile and say "Thank you, but no. Maybe I'll slice myself a small piece latter." This is my normal weekend ritual at the family lake place. I figure that if I can get out and do my 3 mile walk up there, a slice of cake won't hurt, but I cut it myself and only have the one piece.

    It hurts sometimes, but we can't expect our nearest and dearest to change even though we are. All we can do is make the best decisions we can, try to get in an extra walk (even up and down the stairs) if our SO's forget or don't follow a new plan, and not beat ourselves up for a little misstep here and there.

    As long as you can trend down, don't freak about a jiggle in the scale. It's all good! You got this!
  • ChrisM8971
    ChrisM8971 Posts: 1,067 Member
    In all honesty (and this may be a little harsh) you are the one trying to lose weight, not your mom. You really can't expect people to change their eating habits to make things easier for you. You just need to keep saying no thanks when she offers.

    This

    And at the end of the day when I gave up smoking I couldn't ban anyone from smoking near me so you have to learn to live the things that seem to be in your way and move on
  • gobraves47
    gobraves47 Posts: 213 Member
    Well, you can ask for their support, but ultimately you just have to want to get healthy more than you want that snack. It's so hard, but in the end the reward of good health is worth the sacrifice.

    I had to tell myself that it doesn't matter what food is around or what other people eat, I am responsible for what goes in my mouth. No one else. I can't blame my husband for bringing me fast food 3 times a day. I made the choice to eat it.

    Good Luck--you can do it!
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    It gets easier with time. For now, ask your husband to accommodate you buy not bringing home as much junk as he was. Leave your mom alone. I have noticed that parents are usually set in their ways.
  • emmahomewood2013
    emmahomewood2013 Posts: 3
    thanks

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