Break up: no contact?

Is cutting off all contact with your ex the best way to get over a painful break up?

Much less painful than cutting off other things.

i think depends on who you are and how you deal with things.

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Unless there are kids involved, sever all ties.

Yep.

I always cut off all communication until they are ready to approach me and be friends again. I don't want to push it too soon because it takes time to heal.

That's if they are ever ready at all?

No contact. All it would do is make you feel worse and prolong the agony.

No contact. . .

Yes best to not see the ex, don't stock facebook or obsess over them. Focus on YOU and you will end up with so much better off.

http://www.psychalive.org/what-is-your-attachment-style/

Loser leaves town....................I've moved a lot.

Usually best to sever all contact, which hurts, but makes things much more simple.

After a few months pass and you both decide to try to be friends, it is doable.

It's only stalking if you cross state lines.

I'm a firm believer in no contact for at least 6 months to a year, until feelings have run their course and any bitterness has subsided. I am friends with a couple exes, but only after we went through a no contact phase. Every other ex that we tried to stay friends with right off the bat was a disaster.

Outside of a situation with children, I agree.
I've tried to stay friends and I've seen my friends go through it. Very often it doesn't work. There is usually one who has feelings and the whole friends thing is basically just leading on the hope of getting back together or it doesn't allow that party to move on. I've been on both sides of that, so my rule is no contact for awhile.

I think an important part of breaking up is learning to be without the other party, even if you were the one to break it off. I've been in that spot where you can't imagine your life without them, until you actually do and realize you don't really need them like you thought you did.

It depends....I have exes that I have never really had any contact with since breaking up and never will...I have exes that we have kept in touch to some extent but it's not like I'm best buddies with them or see them everyday or anything.

Even the ones I keep in some touch with, there was a period of time where there was no deliberate contact...we generally became reacquainted with each other somewhere down the line on a different level. I think that there generally has to be some time apart...I don't really know anyone who can just go from being together in a committed relationship to being friends overnight.

Of course, where children are involved, you have to put personal feeling aside and do what's best for the kids which means that usually you're going to have to see each other and be cordial for the sake of the children. They shouldn't have to suffer or miss spending time with their mom or dad just because two adults are being *kitten* and can't get along. Of course, there are exceptions here as well...

Is cutting off all contact with your ex the best way to get over a painful break up? Can people stay in contact and truly move on? Thoughts and experiences?

The two only ways I can see staying in contact to be a good thing are for the possibility of trying again or both people agree the breakup is for the best and being friends is better (but in the latter instance one might assume both parties would be happy and not feeling pain from that kind of split).

How recent was the breakup? Why is it so painful? Because you still love that person? If you still love them and stay in contact with them, who's to say you wont get back together? The Universe is always conspiring.

If you sever all ties permanently and force yourself to never have contact despite your feelings, then the possibility of having a more intimate relationship with someone you love is significantly reduced (i am still saying its possible).

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