Help! Hernia!

I really want to reach my weight loss goal but this stupid hernia has caused me to stop working out. I haven't worked out since mid-June. Here's my story: I had surgery for an umbilical hernia while overseas. The doctors concluded that I received the hernia from my last pregnancy. Before and during the first trimester of my pregnancy I had a personal trainer which I loved but then in the second trimester I took a turn for that worst and was in so much pain I could barely walk at times. After surgery and the recovery period I was cleared to go back to normal activities including working out. I started with mild exercising and started Insanity. After the second month something didn't seem right. I made repeated trips to the doctor that I had a hernia and they would continuously say no you're fine, you're just whining and you need to work through the pain. I kept telling them it was bulging out when I do certain activities and it starting popping out randomly(while driving, sneezing, coughing, putting on lotion, standing after sitting, sitting after standing,etc.) I told them the defect was in my upper right abdomen under my breast. Doing sit-ups and crunches were out. There was no way I could and I became very depressed because I love to work out and keep in shape. Upon returning to the US a year later with the problem I visited a doctor who referred me to a surgeon. The surgeon said he couldn't feel anything but would schedule surgery to take a look. He said he believed I was telling the truth that something was wrong. Well I had surgery again and the doctor informed me that he thinks he fixed what was wrong. My stomach muscles were separated about 6 inches apart and the defect was protruding through there. So his solution was to pull the stomach muscles as right as he could and stitch them back which I really appreciate. He also used mesh to cover the area so now I have 2 pieces of mesh in my body....1 from the 1st surgery and 1 from the 2nd surgery. I love my children but I'm done....no more after what my body has gone through and I'm still going through. The last surgery put me down for about 6 months due to the fact I needed to give the stomach muscles time to heal completely.

Well, while still recovering 2 months after surgery I was driving my children to school and the hernia pops out. All I could do was cry. I thought things were really going to get better. It's the same hernia in my upper right abdomen. I'm guessing the doctor saw the defect with the stomach muscles and assumed that was the issue. He did enter my abdomen from the left side so he could see the right side but he stumbled across the stomach muscles before he could get to the right. It has been almost a year since surgery and I am hesitant about another surgery. This hernia popping out is becoming more frequent and I feel like crap because I can't work out like I want to. I get going good then I'm down a month because the area where the hernia pops out at gets so irritated and sensitive after it pops out. Has anyone had multiple hernia repairs? Is it worth letting them operate again? Has again just lost weight and it helped your hernia without you having to have surgery? Will a strict diet to lose weight help a hernia? Any suggestions? I eat healthy every day except for my cheat day every week in which I may eat my favorite candy, eat out, etc. This is all so frustrating. I feel like I'm on a roller coaster ride. I was doing so good before this last hernia episode. My doctor asked what I was doing because she saw that I had lost weight when I went in for a check up. I just want to feel comfortable in my skin. Thanks for all input given.