Cheating is Wrong--Unless You Won't Get Caught

TheRoadDog
TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
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When it comes to cheating, it seems there's a huge double standard. Eighty-two percent of people polled said they have zero tolerance for cheating in their relationships; yet almost the exact same percentage--81 percent--also said they would cheat if there were zero consequences. Really?
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  • Cudleigh
    Cudleigh Posts: 188 Member
    Because I can do whatever I want!

    He can't.




    >.>
  • Onderwoman
    Onderwoman Posts: 130
    And 76.8% of statistics are made up on the spot.
  • oxers
    oxers Posts: 259 Member
    Monogomy isn't really a natural state for our species. It's difficult to handle from a biological perspective.

    That said, Maslow would have a word or two about putting animal instincts above being a decent person. I honestly don't think there's an excuse for it. Relationships deteriorate, it happens. If you're not happy anymore, talk to your partner. Be honest with them. Maybe an open arrangement is the answer, maybe you shouldn't be together, maybe you need to work through it, whatever - but there's never, ever a reason for deception.
  • cyborg_mantisshrimp
    cyborg_mantisshrimp Posts: 11
    This Is Why The Best Relationship Is With Yourself You Can't Cheat On Yourself Ya Dingus Think About Itttttt


    Well Maybe If You Were Possessed By A Demon...
  • MikeCrazy
    MikeCrazy Posts: 2,716 Member
    Because I can do whatever I want!

    He can't.




    >.>

    That seems to be the common consensus, and as statistics say women are getting as bad or worse than men: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1211104/Think-men-unfaithful-sex-A-study-shows-WOMEN-biggest-cheats--theyre-just-better-lying-it.html
  • AdieEve
    AdieEve Posts: 87 Member
    This Is Why The Best Relationship Is With Yourself You Can't Cheat On Yourself Ya Dingus Think About Itttttt


    Well Maybe If You Were Possessed By A Demon...

    I love that Dr. Steve Brule uses MFP!
  • jstavix
    jstavix Posts: 407 Member
    I wouldn't tolerate cheating and wouldn't expect him to either. We may not naturally be monogamous, but, I prefer to be. Can't say the same for my sisters. Both of them are with mates for approx. 8-10 years and then cheat on them. They are both on marriage # 4 and I am not feeling they will last either.

    I have never been given the opportunity to cheat, I suppose men don't see me in that way, who knows? I would be flattered, can't lie about that, but, I wouldn't do it. My relationship means too much to me.
  • LosingExtraKristy
    LosingExtraKristy Posts: 164 Member
    Monogomy isn't really a natural state for our species. It's difficult to handle from a biological perspective.

    That said, Maslow would have a word or two about putting animal instincts above being a decent person. I honestly don't think there's an excuse for it. Relationships deteriorate, it happens. If you're not happy anymore, talk to your partner. Be honest with them. Maybe an open arrangement is the answer, maybe you shouldn't be together, maybe you need to work through it, whatever - but there's never, ever a reason for deception.

    I totally agree with the 2nd part...but as for the first part...even some animals mate for life. I (personally) don't feel it's so difficult to pull off. Besides...some people do, right? (now whether or not that is with or without fidelity, I don't know :wink: )
  • accelerashawn
    accelerashawn Posts: 470 Member
    Women can only get pregnant once a year.

    Men can impregnate multiple women per day.

    Women feel the urge to hang on to that dude who impregnated her while the dude wants to impregnate everyone...its natural.
  • oxers
    oxers Posts: 259 Member
    I totally agree with the 2nd part...but as for the first part...even some animals mate for life. I (personally) don't feel it's so difficult to pull off. Besides...some people do, right? (now whether or not that is with or without fidelity, I don't know :wink: )

    Some animals do! It's interesting to see the rate of promiscuity among great apes as compared to among some types of birds, fish, and even lower primates. Great apes in general don't mate for life, but they do form intensely emotional and symbiotic pair bonds with multiple individuals. It's really fascinating stuff.
  • stephe1987
    stephe1987 Posts: 406 Member
    Some people are so gross. Learn to control yourselves; it's really not that difficult. Good grief!
  • focusedonfitness2015
    focusedonfitness2015 Posts: 240 Member
    When it comes to cheating, it seems there's a huge double standard. Eighty-two percent of people polled said they have zero tolerance for cheating in their relationships; yet almost the exact same percentage--81 percent--also said they would cheat if there were zero consequences. Really?

    You do a lot of "research" on cheating. This is the second or third post I've seen from you on this subject and I've only been on MFP for about a month. Don't get me wrong..To each their own..Just an observation. I have no comment regarding the subject either way
  • blukitten
    blukitten Posts: 922 Member
    IMO, its not necessarily the cheating that is the issue ( I know not everyone thinks this way) but more the deception that tends to come with it. I would rather my partner/husband and I have a confident relationship where we can talk about this kind of thing, than be lied to and snuck around on.

    Before I get yelled at--- no I would not want my husband to just go around sleeping with whomever he wants, nor would I do this to him.. but I would like him to be able to (and he is and does) tell me or talk with me in reference to people he finds attractive or would sleep with (not that he is going to) and vice versa. I dont consider this disrespectful (i know not everyone will share this opinion) , but both my husband and I are confident in our relationship that we will not cheat on eachother, nor do we feel the need to hide our feelings or lie to one another. We both recognize that we are going to be attracted to other people as well as eachother... and I think our relationship is stronger becaus of it.

    Disclaimer: My relationship and feelings are my own and I dont expect anyone to agree with them. To each his own.....
  • gym_king_carlie
    gym_king_carlie Posts: 528 Member
    Loyalty isn't going off having sex with someone else

    I value loyalty, I think if I met someone with the opinion ''as long as I don't get caught'' would be put in the 'do not go there' pile.

    ps we are evolved, I don't think we can compare to the rest of the Animal Kindom.
  • Lovdiamnd
    Lovdiamnd Posts: 624 Member
    And 76.8% of statistics are made up on the spot.

    this
  • somethingbrighter83
    somethingbrighter83 Posts: 2 Member
    When it comes to cheating, it seems there's a huge double standard. Eighty-two percent of people polled said they have zero tolerance for cheating in their relationships; yet almost the exact same percentage--81 percent--also said they would cheat if there were zero consequences. Really?

    I don't want to get involved in the biological / evolutionary psychological comments that have been put forward above about monogamy, as mainly I'm not sure what I think yet on this (more reading required). We are still a young species in evolutionary terms, but also we have stepped a bit beyond other animals...?

    Anyway - my interest is in the way the questions were asked, especially the language used, and the psychological effect that has... i.e., according to the OP they were asked "Would you tolerate cheating in your relationship?" and "Would you cheat if there were zero consequences?"

    What if they were asked "Would you tolerate cheating in your relationship if there were zero consequences?" (i.e. they didn't leave you, your relationship remained as strong, etc.) and "Would you cheat?" (with the latter implying that there may be consequences)

    Would the percentages stay the same?

    It matters in research what you ask, and how any questionnaire allows participants to answer.
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    When it comes to cheating, it seems there's a huge double standard. Eighty-two percent of people polled said they have zero tolerance for cheating in their relationships; yet almost the exact same percentage--81 percent--also said they would cheat if there were zero consequences. Really?

    A cheating topic from this OP...
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  • redromad275
    redromad275 Posts: 884 Member
    Cheating is cheating. If you make a commitment to someone it has to be defined. If you venture outside that definition, it's cheating. It's wrong because you are lying to your mate as you agreed to stay within a certain set of boundaries.
    I was single for a long time before I married my beautiful bride. My bachelorhood died a loud and violent death as I had a hard time letting go of the single life (before we were married). But I love my wife and realized that having her was all I needed and she and I have three awesome kids and a great life together. In regards to getting away with cheating, I couldn't do it because I couldn't live with myself let alone what she and my children would think. What kind of example would I be setting for them? Not a very good one.
    So as to not get off on to crazy a tangent, the statistics named in the OP first post is the reason I feel we need to get back to our roots and embrace morality.

    Off my soapbox
  • kbeckley11
    kbeckley11 Posts: 203 Member
    This Is Why The Best Relationship Is With Yourself You Can't Cheat On Yourself Ya Dingus Think About Itttttt


    Well Maybe If You Were Possessed By A Demon...

    So glad I work I in the front and no one could see me laughing at that. Gotta love Steve Brule!
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    Barbellarella_ Posts: 454 Member
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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    By zero consequences they mean that no one would be hurt. But, that's not how reality works. There is a difference between fantasy and reality. That is the distinction. Not a double standard.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,748 Member
    We may have fancy toys and pretty clothes, but we're not near as evolved as we like to pat ourselves on the back for.

    Turn off the electricity for 4 days, watch as evolved, peace loving, educated people turn on each other like anything you'd find in the animal kingdom.

    Society is a thin veneer covering our baser instincts.
    ^^^^Spot on^^^^
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    Cheating is Wrong--Unless You Won't Get Caught

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  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    :yawn:

    You off today OP?
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    Statistics say that men who refer to themselves as dog or dogs or dawg are 137% more likely to do google searches on cheating than everyone else on the planet.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    I totally agree with the 2nd part...but as for the first part...even some animals mate for life. I (personally) don't feel it's so difficult to pull off. Besides...some people do, right? (now whether or not that is with or without fidelity, I don't know :wink: )

    Some animals do! It's interesting to see the rate of promiscuity among great apes as compared to among some types of birds, fish, and even lower primates. Great apes in general don't mate for life, but they do form intensely emotional and symbiotic pair bonds with multiple individuals. It's really fascinating stuff.

    Just because animals mate for life, doesn't mean that they never get some on the side. DNA testing of the offspring has sometimes revealed surprising truths.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    Statistics say that men who refer to themselves as dog or dogs or dawg are 137% more likely to do google searches on cheating than everyone else on the planet.

    A piece of very good advice I got in a public assistance building was never to date anybody with a dog name:
    - Pluto
    - Butch
    - Anything-Dawg

    They NEVER turn out to be good news. I don't have any peer-reviewed research, but my gut says that's accurate.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    2edgy4me

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  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Statistics say that men who refer to themselves as dog or dogs or dawg are 137% more likely to do google searches on cheating than everyone else on the planet.

    155% more likely to post about breasts.

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