Imminent cake - help!

atomiclauren
atomiclauren Posts: 689 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
It's a coworkers birthday today and of course someone bought a cake - looks typical with loads of white frosting. I don't have too much of a problem resisting temptation, but how can I say NO without coming off as not so nice? This is the first time this has come up since I've joined MFP (and in the past I have always "participated" in birthday treats)..

TIA!

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  • Kwilliams75
    Kwilliams75 Posts: 231 Member
    I usually still go and do the sociallizing and just dont partake in the desserts. But my whole office knows that i am trying to lose weight so they just tell me how well I am doing and that they wish they could stay away from the cake!!
  • Fgillies
    Fgillies Posts: 194
    I would just politely decline, and if they keep budging, say you already filled your sweet tooth with an orange earlier and there's no room left! Something along those lines, that way if someone was to get offended ( which would be rediculous) but if they DID then you were passing judgement on THEM eating it!!! Socialize and have fun :)
  • elainegsd
    elainegsd Posts: 459 Member
    If they know you are watching what you eat, a simple "No thank you!" with a bright smile should be enough.

    If they don't know, then say "No thank you, not today!"

    In either case, immediately turn around and wish effusive birthday greetings on the lucky person. Be strong, don't express regret that you "cannot" partake, or you will have well-meaning people sitting on your chest shoving cake down your throat. If they continue offering, continue repeating the same phrase, with a smile. They will get tired after about the third time.
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
    It's a coworkers birthday today and of course someone bought a cake - looks typical with loads of white frosting. I don't have too much of a problem resisting temptation, but how can I say NO without coming off as not so nice? This is the first time this has come up since I've joined MFP (and in the past I have always "participated" in birthday treats)..

    TIA!
    How important is your health to you? If someone gets offended because someone turns down cake ..that's not your issue, it's there. Simply find a word that works for you.... 'I'm off sugar', 'I have food allergies' or however you want to word it... those are not lies because you do have food allergies, sugar & white flour is some powerful stuff and it is hard to get off of. If you want to stick to this you'll want/need to turn down birthday cake at times.

    You can have cake and eat it too, but not every time it's cake time if you want to lose weight, feel healthier and keep the sugar blues, sugar cravings at bay.

    In the end it's truly up to you if you eat sugar/cake/cookies/junk or not, but to have a plan seems to work better than flying without one in those type of situations.:wink:
  • jmgeist
    jmgeist Posts: 6
    For me, it's not about avoiding a certain food, but rather smaller portions and cutting down on how often I eat junk food. I'm a meat and potatoes kinda guy, and I gotta have some snacks and desserts occassionally. You can do this successfully, by counting you calories and eating snack foods in moderation. It works for some people.

    However, getting back to you question, if you would rather pass it up just do as someone else mentioned and attend the festivities, but don't eat the cake. They shouldn't be offended since you're trying to be healthy. If they get upset, then they weren't a good friend anyway.
  • atomiclauren
    atomiclauren Posts: 689 Member
    Whew...I'm back. Thanks for the responses so far.

    There were only a few of us (maybe 6 or 7) and luckily it was a serve yourself type of situation, so it all worked out (I think I have a little social phobia that makes me a little more nervous than necessary, too!)
  • HeatherShrinking
    HeatherShrinking Posts: 776 Member
    If all else fails, lie. :huh: Tell them you are feeling a bit queasy and you don't want to tempt cake on an upset tummy.
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