Vent your problems

laineems
laineems Posts: 37 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
My parents act like *kitten* to me. I have three brothers, who i love and am close with, but my dad like wishes i was a guy too and expects me to be as good as them in everything. I'm really never good enough for them. Whenever I branch out and try to be my own person, follow my own dreams, they shoot them down and say I'm a failure and a good for nothing. My dad went to an ivy school and became a doctor so now that college is right around the corner for me, and i'm not applying to any ivy's (my grades are good enough and all that but not good enough for the scholarships i'd need) or going into medicine. So my dad's saga is such: you want to be successful? You go to Penn. You want to be successful? You become a doctor. None of this ohhh i wanna be a writer garbage ( i mentioned journalism). Today there were some vegetables that went bad in the fridge (kinda hard to eat them all before they go bad when you're the only one in the house who takes care of their body) and my dad FREAKED out. Told me to get the hell out. That he's sick of me being here. That i should get early entry to college. I told him I couldn't wait to get out and I'd be out as soon as i could and when I left I wasn't coming back. To which of course he said Good i don't want you back. Love you too dad. Vent whatever's eating at you.

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  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
    Well, what's eating at me now is the toxic environment that you're living in. I know these are just words, and I'm sure you've heard it all before, but I hope that deep down, you know that you deserve better than that, and that he is the problem, not you.
  • Suzy12
    Suzy12 Posts: 284 Member
    Aww sweetie - I'm so sorry! Sounds like dad has some issues and you're the lightening rod. Try not to let it get to you. Remember he can't make you feel anything - YOU have control over that. You're too young to be going through this kind of crap. Do something special for yourself and let the tension and bad feelings just roll off you. Water off a duck's back!!!

    {{{Hugs to you}}}
  • resptech97
    resptech97 Posts: 147 Member
    Your dad sounds like a real jerk! But maybe he was just having a stressful day. I work in a hospital and I know how stressful it can be. But I dont think I could ever tell my kids to get out and not come back! My parents did tell me at one time that if I didnt have a job or wasnt going to school that I would have to move out. That was a main motivator for me to get a job AND get into school. Maybe thats just your dads way (wrong way) of pushing you out of the nest and let you fly!
  • fitnesspirateninja
    fitnesspirateninja Posts: 667 Member
    I'm sorry that you're dad's so tough on you. I'm a writer, and I (GASP!) studied poetry for both my undergraduate and graduate degrees. My dad said stuff like, "You're not at a real school" (I went to an art school), and I always felt like a huge disappointment to him. Now that I'm adult, and I have my own freelance writing business, that stuff doesn't matter to me. Yeah, I'll always feel a little sad that my dad doesn't "get" me, but I'm so glad that I followed my dream and lived my own life. I think my dad was a little jealous of me - he was never able to pursue his dream, or rebel against his family. Maybe your dad has the same reaction to you.

    Anyway, I don't have anything to vent about right now, but I hope things calm down in your life. Also, don't stress about being a writer (if that's actually what you want to do)! You won't be rich like a doctor, but you get to meet interesting people and it's mostly fun.
  • laineems
    laineems Posts: 37 Member
    I have a job to pay for whatever is left after my scholarships so come august I won't have to deal with this anymore. And since I'm paying for it, i can go for the life that makes me happy. Success for me isn't being rich in money :) Lol most the time i just laugh or make a joke out of everything, thats how I deal with life. But sometimes it just really gets to me. LIke tonight. Thanks for being there, you have no idea :)
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