Overwhelmed by it all

Take it one step at a time. Instead of extreme workouts, try walking. Instead of having a "clean" diet, try eating a good breafast, and add more vegetables to your diet. You'll find that the changes are easier to stick to if you don't pile them all on at once. It may not make for super fast weight loss, but at least you'll stop gaing weight, feel more in control, and have a place of strength from which to make the big push.

This isn't a race. So what if you have 100 pounds to lose or even more than that? It's one day at a time. A year will pass whether you're counting calories or not. It's up to you how you pass that time. Next August, you can be the same weight (or bigger) if you do nothing or you can be at a healthier weight because you've taken control of your eating habits.

Once you make the decision to get healthy, you do the best you can every day by counting calories and moving more (even if that only means taking the stairs instead of the elevator or parking at the other end of the grocery store parking lot). On the days that you go over your calories, you do better the next day. One "bad" day or even a few doesn't make you a failure, and it doesn't ruin what you will have already accomplished. There is never a reason to "give up" because this is not a diet. You are learning how to live a healthier life. It isn't all or nothing, either.

And, you don't have just one goal: lose all this weight. You have several smaller goals. Lose ten pounds, fit into a smaller size, walk a mile without getting winded, see your feet while standing straight up (that was a cool one for me). Do this slow and steady and you'll be amazed at the changes you'll see. Good luck!

That's really tough to sit through those types of comments. What do you think you could say in response to stand up for yourself?

By the way, it is "lose" weight not "loose" weight.

Aloha!

For your family meal tomorrow night say you feel a bit unwell so you're only going to have something plain with some water. If they're not going to support you then they don't deserve to share in the joy of your journey. They get to kiss your skinny *kitten* at the end of it.

xx

I think it helps if you feel like you have control over things. Personally I tend to have cycles of eating healthy and working out, and then.. not (lol).

For me, figuring out how many calories I should eat to lose vs how many calories are my maintenance helped. That way I know the range I need to be in, and some day's you'll just be hungry so I'll aim to just be under maintenance those days. Some weeks I'll be off track so I'll still just aim for that maintenance calorie goal, helps to know you're not getting fatter at the minimum sometimes. Plus I think it's good mentally to take a break from trying to lose weight once in a while.

I use this tool to figure out how many calories to aim for: http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/

Also helps to pre-log the day a bit. I do this in the morning when I'm at work. Kind of scope out where I'll be calorie wise vaguely so I just kind of do what I wrote and don't have to think much. Less likely to go off track.