is 5'11 220 lbs. overweight?

hi guys,i am a middle aged male and I am 5'11 and I weigh 220. I have no real muscle mass. I want to ask,do you guys consider me overweight? and are women interested in someone built like me? I am middle aged but I am still a virgin and I feel like maybe my weight has a lot to do with it.

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  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    i can honestly say a guy's capacity to give me a lady boner is more related to his personality, confidence and swagger than his weight
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    I like this website, which should answer your question:

    http://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm
  • riirii93_
    riirii93_ Posts: 475 Member
    yes it is.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    Overweight? Yes. Reason for not getting any? No. Personality and confidence goes a long way. Oh, and alcohol usually helps :laugh:
  • sculli123
    sculli123 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Yes it is. I used to bulk up to 220 lbs and compete in powerlifting at that weight and i'm the same height. I had a lot of muscle mass but still felt 'overweight' compared to now over 20 lbs lighter. I will bulk again this fall and compete in that same class but I won't let myself get heavier than about 212 - 215. My ex used to like me at that weight but it's irrelevent now. lol
  • shadow2soul
    shadow2soul Posts: 7,692 Member
    Overweight...yep
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    Reason for not getting attention from women....nope. As other posters have said personality and confidence make a difference.
  • x311Tifa
    x311Tifa Posts: 357 Member
    I didn't know 36 was middle-aged, but eh.

    And no. It's not all about weight. But I think there is something deeper that is holding you back from a physical relationship with the ladies.
  • sculli123
    sculli123 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I didn't know 36 was middle-aged, but eh.

    And no. It's not all about weight. But I think there is something deeper that is holding you back from a physical relationship with the ladies.
    lol yeah really I'm 41 and feel young still.

    It's definitely more about confidence and personality than anything else. I had a friend in college that was way overweight but everyone loved his personality and he was just a fun guy. He used to get tons of girls.
  • aliakynes
    aliakynes Posts: 352 Member
    You'd need to lose weight to be overweight. You're in the obese range (just barely but there).

    It might also be contributing to you feeling as if you are "middle aged".
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  • sculli123
    sculli123 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Well Mike tyson was 5 ft 10/11 and 220 in his prime. He had issues with the ladies?
    OP said he has no muscle mass though. Big difference.
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  • Jetta_C
    Jetta_C Posts: 58
    I'll bet you are a nice guy and could find a nice girl...maybe getting in better shape would give you the confidence you need to meet more girls. Different women go for different body types - maybe you are "teddy bear" type? That can be quite cute :) But being fit might give your self-esteem a boost and ladies do notice that. Plus...a guy just coming in from a run, all hot and sweaty, is pretty hot :)
  • dedflwrs
    dedflwrs Posts: 251 Member
    This totally looks like a legit post. Not a troll. No siree.
  • sculli123
    sculli123 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Well Mike tyson was 5 ft 10/11 and 220 in his prime. He had issues with the ladies?
    OP said he has no muscle mass though. Big difference.


    Well he should put on some muscle and get in shape, that actually could help him with the ladies.

    Why? Because of confidence. He has no confidence right now and working out will help his life.
    Yeah I think the confidence thing has been addressed already.
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    Well Mike tyson was 5 ft 10/11 and 220 in his prime. He had issues with the ladies?
    OP said he has no muscle mass though. Big difference.


    Well he should put on some muscle and get in shape, that actually could help him with the ladies.

    Why? Because of confidence. He has no confidence right now and working out will help his life.

    You are my new best friend.

    Thank you for being honest.
  • juggernaut1974
    juggernaut1974 Posts: 6,212 Member
    This totally looks like a legit post. Not a troll. No siree.

    IKR?! Between this and the guy asking about the 44" waist, it's like someone opened the floodgates.

    How do people honestly not recognize this?
  • This totally looks like a legit post. Not a troll. No siree.
    This was my thoughts^^^
  • reddz12
    reddz12 Posts: 350 Member
    i can honestly say a guy's capacity to give me a lady boner is more related to his personality, confidence and swagger than his weight

    completely concur
  • marywalsh3718
    marywalsh3718 Posts: 18 Member
    I've been looking for a virgin...not to "spoil" it -- but because I want to wait until marriage -- after having had my fair share of partners. I think it's cool. Your weight is fine but bulk up if you want -- friend me :)
  • caracrawford1
    caracrawford1 Posts: 657 Member
    hi guys,i am a middle aged male and I am 5'11 and I weigh 220. I have no real muscle mass. I want to ask,do you guys consider me overweight? and are women interested in someone built like me? I am middle aged but I am still a virgin and I feel like maybe my weight has a lot to do with it.
    A guy has to have more than muscles and what have you to makee think of sleeping with him. Of utmost importance is his interest in ME, not sleeping with me.
  • SomeNights246
    SomeNights246 Posts: 807 Member
    I once spent 30 minutes flirting with an overweight guy at Hot Topic. He flirted with me first, and his confidence was attractive. He himself was pretty attractive, as well.

    Moral of the story? A) Everyone (regardless of gender) has their own preference for whatever gender they are attracted to, and B) Confidence is attractive.
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    You don't need muscles babe. Even if your over weight all you need is to be kind, smart, funny and good in bed. Also you need to like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain :drinker:
  • BramageOMG
    BramageOMG Posts: 319 Member
    swagger


    In terms of weight: Your target is 165 - 175 In reality, 180 would put you in pretty good shape. I'm 6' 0" and started at 143 My original goal was 200, then 190. I plan to change my goal to 180 as soon as I hit goal #2. MFP does wonders if you use it


    Same holds true with your boner: Get out there and use it before it falls off !!
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    OP, show up in a corner bar every night at 9:00 and before the week is over, your problem will be solved.

    Personally, I like my guys with a little beer belly (not that I'm applying for the job you're looking to fill!) and I'm not the only one.
  • TexasDarling09
    TexasDarling09 Posts: 210 Member
    i can honestly say a guy's capacity to give me a lady boner is more related to his personality, confidence and swagger than his weight

    lady boner...:heart::laugh:
  • skittle316
    skittle316 Posts: 128 Member
    130lbs of lean mass +90lbs of fat- yes
    180lbs of lean mass + 40lbs of fat -no
  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    This totally looks like a legit post. Not a troll. No siree.

    MTE