OBSESSED WITH LOSING WEIGHT!

I've been where you are before. When I was in college I was eating around 800 calories a day and working out on average 2.5 hours a day. Yes I lost weight... I also became obsessed with weight and I was never happy with myself, even when I hit my goal. There was always this need to lose more. Eventually it was too much for me. I was always tired and never had energy to pay attention in class. If it wasn't for my roommate I probably would have continued, but luckily she helped me realize that I wasn't being healthy. In the end I gained all the weight back, and I've been struggling for some time to figure things out. Thanks to many mistakes and people on MFP I've finally found a healthy way to live my life. I know healthy food can be expensive, but I find my grocery store often has packaged produce on sale when it's close to being old. I'll take it home and cook it right away and then have it ready for me during the week. As far as work goes I know it's hard to find time to work out. I work as a restaurant manager and have to exercise before I go in because afterwards I'm exhausted. I also eat at the restaurant 5 times a week and that has made losing weight more challenging. It all goes back to making a healthy lifestyle change. My goals are small and I know baby steps will take me farther in the end. I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life, but I just wanted to share some of my mistakes that I've made along the way. People on this website really do care about your success. That's what makes it such a great place to find support. Good luck with your journey.

Its not that I cant afford to eat more calories, its that all healthy food is expensive, and the food I buy now is all healthy, I just cant buy a ton of it... and I refuse to buy the stuff I was eating,and I dont cook much which is a problem.. everything these days cost money to lose weight, either seeing a doctor, or trainer, or even advise.

Healthy food is NOT more expensive. Eat regular food (at WAY more than 600-900 cal/day please). Frozen veggies are cheap, dried beans and rice are cheap, eggs are cheap, even chicken breasts or thighs (like $2 a pound in bulk packs)...I feed my entire family (husband plus three boys--we eat all the same foods) for around $20 a person per week. Aldi, Walmart, and ethnic food stores (for bulk commodities) are your friend.

I agree. I've fed a family of 4 for years just as the above poster described. It can be done & without much trouble at all.

So many red flags.

I now am obsessed with losing weight! ... It is all I can think about. I weigh myself multiple times a day
... I have 60 pounds to lose (lie - ticker says 80)
... I will do anything to get it off as quick as I can
... I only eat between 600-900 cals. a day, I feel if I do then I wont [sic] lose weight.
... I do not believe in the starvation mode, or people telling me I wont [sic] lose weight eating so few calories.

Unhealthy thought patters (obsession, not in touch with reality),
not in control of impulses, not able to be patient & do this the healthy way,
not eating enough...
Hon, you need to talk with your doctor & therapist.

Sure, you'll lose weight eating that little, but it will include muscle, which you don't want to lose,
and it will be too fast so your body can't adjust & will "panic" & want you to eat lots more.

"Starvation mode" is largely a myth, but you might be getting close to it because you're eating so little.
Unless you're very short, aiming to be 60 - 90 lb is not healthy.
That's what you're doing with your 600 - 900 cal per day.

Use BMI to find a healthy goal weight for your height.
Multiply that times 10 to get your goal calories to eat to arrive at that healthy weight.
Don't go below 1200 unless you're very short or under the care of a doctor (who knows that you're eating a VLCD).

healthy food is more expensive that [sic] junk foods

No it's not.
You don't need organic or "health" foods.
If you eat lower on the food chain, as well as foods which are not processed or minimally processed, you will save money & improve your health.

Get a bag of brown rice, a bag of dried beans, a bag of onions, a bag of carrots.
That's maybe $5-7 and will give you several healthy meals (depending on the weight of the bags) - plenty of fiber & protein, low in fat & sodium.

Chicken can be found under $2/lb.
Get whole grains, fresh or canned or frozen veggies & fruits.

a slow cooker is a relatively inexpensive purchase and will help you a lot because you can make food well in advance of when you want to eat (say, before you go to work in the morning) and have enough for leftovers for a couple of days

Slow cookers are wonderful!
Here's a place to find lots of tasty recipes. http://www.tasteofhome.com/
They have a section for what they call healthy recipes, as well as slow cooker.

I do not get breaks at work, well to use the restroom or fix my food, but that's it

That's illegal.
Check with the department of labor in your state: http://labor.alabama.gov/

im pretty clueless in what macros and what I need for nutrition

This will tell you your BMI, as well as how many calories to eat AND how many servings of various food groups you should have.
https://www.bcm.edu/research/centers/childrens-nutrition-research-center/healthyeatingcalculator/eatingCal.html

Here are some tools that might help:
http://www.nutrition.gov/weight-management/interactive-tools

http://win.niddk.nih.gov/

http://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/?s_cid=cdc_homepage_topmenu_002

Also, the first post in my blog has lots of resources: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/MKEgal
All my posts have links to resources, or the places I find information (usually PubMed for studies, other solid scientific sites for general info).

no sense talking to her, she's decided what she's doing and won't listen to reason. The binges will start soon, and the heartbreaking WHAT WENT WRONG posts....If she was expecting lots of sympathy here instead of hard headed realism...she came to the wrong place. Ive been here long enough to have seen it a few dozen times.

1200 is the minimum, your showing signs of an eating disorder, seek help