Peoples' Reactions To Your Weight Loss

Typically I get... "You've lost a lot of weight, what are you doing?"

People tend to be surprised when I state that I'm only counting calories and exercising a little, and not following any particular diet or program.

If possible, try to consider the source. Could be jealousy/envy talking - or a legitimate concern. (Though the concern may be unfounded.) For those who come from a negative place, just smile and tell them thanks for expressing an opinion. For family and such, who speak out of love/concern - give them assurance that your goals are based on your health & well-being.

My personal 'issue' right now is Hubby. He was all set to get back on track and got hurt. Has another 2 weeks or so of taking it easy. (Bruised ribs.) So when I take time to get on the treadmill or something it annoys him because he can't.

Well done on your loss.

I too get those comments, and I just say I'm just a few pounds away, I think as previous posters say, it's because they are used to us being bigger and it can take some a while to get used too. I get so many lovely comments every day, tonight at aerobics, a lady came up and told me she had been meaning to say for ages that I looked fabulous and that over the last few months, she's seen me shrink. At work today, a ex colleague said he couldn't believe how well I looked,I said thanks, and he said, I'm not just saying it, I can't believe how good you look. So I think the lovely outweigh the critical by miles.

This is me too. I've had some colleagues say lovely things, really heart-felt things that showed me how much they care (even though getting 50 people saying it within the first 40 mins of a business conference was OTT and made me pretty fed up with them).

The only "negative" comment has come from DH, who I suspect was just concerned about my lack of boobage now. There was one weird comment from a colleague asking, with a curled lip, if I was "vegan or one of those" (whatever "those" are..), which I actually found quite offensive, because I felt it made light of vegans and their beliefs.

It's up to me where I stop. I'm totally in control of my weight for the first time in my life. Target right now is 120-ish lbs, but may go below that to shift a bit more lard and then focus on getting a load of hot muscles.

Mind you, I'm the sort of person to ignores the physical part of people anyway (seriously, I don't even notice if people are pregnant or color their hair..), never makes personal comments and I'm always forgetting that I look completely different to everyone else. Oh, and I'm pigheaded and would ignore others' "helpful" advice anyway.

I am in about the same place. At a healthy weight but can (and will) lose more, mostly vanity weight (nothing wrong with that).

The reactions of "Are you on drugs" " Have you been starving yourself" and absurd and unfounded fears of developing an eating disorder have begun to roll in for me. I am at pretty average weight for my height: 133lb, 5'4. I have lost it the healthy way.

People's reactions have way more to do with themselves, typically. The common thread in all of the people who've reacted negatively to my loss is that they struggle with their weight themselves or don't like themselves.

I have always been a pretty average weight (apart from when I was overweight), like between 135lb-145lb most my life and right now I have the opportunity to go lower. I think partially it's weird for the people around me because they've never seen me lower than 135 and maybe they find that possibility threatening or whatever. I don't know. I feel pretty average right now, I don't really have a body people would be jealous over. I still have a lot of trouble areas. Maybe that provides an odd sense of comfort for the people around me, Idk. Like, "as long as she doesn't look super good..."

When people get down on me for losing more, I will just remind them that I am at a healthy weight for my height and otherwise try to ignore their comments. I can still drop about 20lb and still be considered healthy, so I will point that out.

My response:

I know, it's a big change already! But my doctor and I have decided that it's appropriate for me to aim for the high end of the healthy BMI range...so that's my goal."

I got this A LOT when I also had about 20 still left to lose. Now that I'm actually at my goal weight, no one has ever said I'm too skinny. Like you said, I think people just lose track of what a healthy weight is AND when you've already lost a lot, you look so startlingly different that they cannot imagine you being even smaller.

Hi! Congratulations on your weight loss! You have come quite a long way. Kudos to you on all the hard work. :drinker:
For my weight loss experience so far, most of my friends and family have been supported. Most.

Occassionally I will hear a remark from a family member or two about my eating habits that are negative.
I'm 6'0 tall and weight 182. The majority of my family members are same height as me but weight well into the 300-400 pounds because they like to eat big. I love them (even when they are being a-holes) but they have significant health issues because of their eating habits. So maybe they are jealous or something that I decided I didn't want to be like that. I don't care what the "haters" will say, it's my body and its my life.

Overall I had a lot of people tell me I look great and I agree. I feel great too. Just last week, I had a big event at work and had to really dress up and all the comments I got were "WOW" and "you look good". My final weight goal is 173 and then I am going to stop because I have already won the battle with the medical conditions I had when I was heavier (at 221 pounds, started MFP at 215).

People are horrified when I tell them I want to lose 30 more lbs...and they LEGITIMATELY seem concerned that it's too thin for me. That isn't even the low end of normal; it's still 20 lbs from low, and I think they cannot get past how I 'used' to appear. I am not skinny now, I'm just 'skinnier'..and their eyes can't see that.

Some people claim it's jealousy, I just think that in the US, people are used to people...well,,, FATTER!

People are horrified when I tell them I want to lose 30 more lbs...and they LEGITIMATELY seem concerned that it's too thin for me. That isn't even the low end of normal; it's still 20 lbs from low, and I think they cannot get past how I 'used' to appear. I am not skinny now, I'm just 'skinnier'..and their eyes can't see that.

Some people claim it's jealousy, I just think that in the US, people are used to people...well,,, FATTER!

You don't tell them how much you plan to lose.

Not sure what to tell you regarding others, but can I just take a moment to say "WOW"?!?! Many, MANY congratulations to you! Keep doing what's right to keep yourself healthy. This is so great to hear. You just helped me NOT eat the lemon poppyseed cupcake I don't have any calories left over for today. Thanks for the inspiration!!