Peoples' Reactions To Your Weight Loss

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  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    So far, the only responses/notice I've gotten have been from my ex's parents, who have been complimentary.
    Well, and my doctors, but it's kinda their job to notice & be encouraging.

    I think I'd use some combination of these to deal with someone being critical (if it ever happens; I'm about 60 lb from my goal):

    "Thanks for your concern."
    "My doctor is happy with my progress so far, & where I plan to end up."
    "I'm planning to be near the top end of a healthy BMI range for my height, and I'm not quite there yet."
  • mandybear014
    mandybear014 Posts: 209 Member
    Hi! Congratulations on your weight loss! You have come quite a long way. Kudos to you on all the hard work. :drinker:
    For my weight loss experience so far, most of my friends and family have been supported. Most.

    Occassionally I will hear a remark from a family member or two about my eating habits that are negative.
    I'm 6'0 tall and weight 182. The majority of my family members are same height as me but weight well into the 300-400 pounds because they like to eat big. I love them (even when they are being a-holes) but they have significant health issues because of their eating habits. So maybe they are jealous or something that I decided I didn't want to be like that. I don't care what the "haters" will say, it's my body and its my life. :smile:

    Overall I had a lot of people tell me I look great and I agree. I feel great too. Just last week, I had a big event at work and had to really dress up and all the comments I got were "WOW" and "you look good". My final weight goal is 173 and then I am going to stop because I have already won the battle with the medical conditions I had when I was heavier (at 221 pounds, started MFP at 215).
  • Camo_xxx
    Camo_xxx Posts: 1,082 Member
    Congrats to all of you on your success !! Nicely done

    I find the comments very strange. I can't tell if it is jealousy, resentment , or they are just skeptical it will last. Maybe it's just a guy thing that we tend to bust each others chops over stuff. Either way i take compliments and say thanks and to the naysayers I just give a chuckle.

    When I do get questioned about either my current or goal weight I always respond with a BF%. That usually ends the questions as very few people have a clue. The ones who do I can have an engaged conversation about health, nutrition, fat loss or any aspect of the journey.
  • happyfeetrebel1
    happyfeetrebel1 Posts: 1,005 Member
    People are horrified when I tell them I want to lose 30 more lbs...and they LEGITIMATELY seem concerned that it's too thin for me. That isn't even the low end of normal; it's still 20 lbs from low, and I think they cannot get past how I 'used' to appear. I am not skinny now, I'm just 'skinnier'..and their eyes can't see that.

    Some people claim it's jealousy, I just think that in the US, people are used to people...well,,, FATTER!
  • BombshellPhoenix
    BombshellPhoenix Posts: 1,693 Member
    Congratz on your weight loss, first and foremost.

    It's tough. I started at 170 lbs. Had been about 150 lbs for about 6 years so people got used to that "me". When I got to around 130 lbs, the comments starting turning from "You look great." To "Okay. You can stop now." and my father went as far as to call me his anorexic little girl. It totally derailed me. As a priority, my health was number one. My strength gains in lifting came second. To hear people voice concern when I wasn't suffering and to treat me like I had no idea what I was doing was heartbreaking. I hit 115 lbs before I reversed calories to bulk. I ignored them. I am not, by any means, sickly or deprived. I eat 2400 calories of mostly nutrient dense whole foods, my strength gains are improving, I feel the best I ever have. I don't even have a goal weight, as my number one goal is measurements and strength gains.

    I think it comes from a place of genuine concern and love from individuals who know very little about health and fitness. They see you change so drastically and their mind is pulled back to the old you. Time will help. Everyone around me has since stopped. I get the occasional "Stop being so skinny. " from sister in laws and stuff but water off my back. You know, deep down, what your goals are and as long as those are healthy and attainable, don't let anyone stop you
  • RaggedyPond
    RaggedyPond Posts: 1,487 Member
    People are horrified when I tell them I want to lose 30 more lbs...and they LEGITIMATELY seem concerned that it's too thin for me. That isn't even the low end of normal; it's still 20 lbs from low, and I think they cannot get past how I 'used' to appear. I am not skinny now, I'm just 'skinnier'..and their eyes can't see that.

    Some people claim it's jealousy, I just think that in the US, people are used to people...well,,, FATTER!

    You don't tell them how much you plan to lose.
  • Jemellc
    Jemellc Posts: 308 Member
    When I lost my 70 lbs they noticed my face then NEW SMILE and body it was amazing.. I loved it lol still do.
  • alissaminten
    alissaminten Posts: 3 Member
    Not sure what to tell you regarding others, but can I just take a moment to say "WOW"?!?! Many, MANY congratulations to you! Keep doing what's right to keep yourself healthy. This is so great to hear. You just helped me NOT eat the lemon poppyseed cupcake I don't have any calories left over for today. Thanks for the inspiration!!
  • christygb
    christygb Posts: 84 Member
    Thanks so much everyone for writing your thoughts and suggestions. And also for the nice encouraging words. It has been a great thread and really helpful to hear how others are managing this part of weight loss. I really do think that it will just take time for people to adjust to the way I look. As soon as I learn more about BF% I love the idea of switching to that metric as opposed to just a weight goal.

    Congrats to everyone on your successful weight loss and willpower!

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