advice or websites for kids who need to lose some lbs

Enroll him in a sports team. If he refuses without good reason, take away the tablet/games. Have no crap food in the house, kids are impulsive and can struggle with moderation. Give him a "treat' once or twice a week.

Go out with him - go for family walks/hikes. Get him a dog if hes a loner.

If you take away his electronics make sure your fusebox is locked up tight. My parents tried that on me when I was small and I took out our homes power for a week out of spite :laugh:

I have a 10 yo and we go through similar battles... My daughter is limited to 2 hrs of electronics a WEEK. this includes internet access, DS, Wii, etc. (Not iPod because that is just for music.) I require a certain amount of outdoor time before electronics can be used (the amount of time depends on how much daylight we have left. Usually 20-45 minutes minimum.)
At first it was torture. Every two minutes she would ask: "How much longer." That is, until I enacted the "add 5 minutes" rule. Every time she bugged me I would add 5 minutes to her outdoor time. She now has a few staple activities including dribbling a soccer ball, riding her bike on the driveway, playing with chalk (less active, but outdoors), playing ball with the dog, or making up dances (I bought a $10 speaker she is allowed to take outside to listen to her music.) Stick to your guns and you can help him form some healthier habits as you do.
Oh, and don't discuss his being "overweight"... I have terrible memories of those conversations. We use terms like Healthy lifestyle, good portioning, balanced meals, more good stuff than bad stuff, etc. I try to never use judgmental terms (which was a very conscious effort!!!) My daughter packs her own lunch and I have strict requirements about how much of certain things must be included.
Overall, I don't want her on a diet or to be 'losing weight' I want her developing healthy habits so she can make smart decisions later in life. I also want to model those good choices. I don't want her to struggle to learn about it in her late 20s and 30s, like I did.

I'm sure you find something that works for you! Keep being a good, caring Mom!!!

If he is hungry all the time , He maybe lacking in vitamins and minerals. Try adding food that is high in those items and that should help the waiting to eat all the time. Also you can try to have pre-made snack ready for him to eat, that are healthy like veg. - try carrots, cucumber , apple slices, etc.

You can also try make things a game for him. Points system .... that he get rewarded with good treats in moderation. For example , for every half hour he plays outside he gets a 1 point , and at 10 points he get a small icecream or soda.

I have a 9 year old that got a little thick this last year while I was pregnant and on bed rest....I enrolled him in soccer and to get him prepped we began doing laps together every morning, then he does his toe taps on his soccer ball. Kids this age need 1800+ calories, so he IS hungry all day, so is mine. But, fast food is out, cookies are out, etc. I stock healthy snacks for him, he'll eat them if he's hungry, I make good meals and since I'm the mom I limit his screen time instead of letting him favor it over the backyard or bike. You don't have to nag him you just have to direct him. He's 9 he doesn't have much of a choice,you buy the food and you set the permissions for activities!

I think I would put him in some activities or just get him interested in outdoor things like fishing, etc. Also, for me portion control was a big problem. Instead of buying prepackaged food I buy Ziploc bags and do it myself. That has really helped me a ton! Especially when it comes to chips and junk food. Hope this helps!!

If he is hungry all the time , He maybe lacking in vitamins and minerals. Try adding food that is high in those items and that should help the waiting to eat all the time. Also you can try to have pre-made snack ready for him to eat, that are healthy like veg. - try carrots, cucumber , apple slices, etc.

You can also try make things a game for him. Points system .... that he get rewarded with good treats in moderation. For example , for every half hour he plays outside he gets a 1 point , and at 10 points he get a small icecream or soda.

These are all great ideas, except for the food rewards. Once you start rewarding kids with food, they equate food with happiness. It's a binge eating disorder waiting to happen.

oh also your doctor/pediatrician can give you info about growth spurts and appetite. For my daughter we always did a lot of after school snacks ready for consumption - celery and pb, popcorn, etc. she also learned to bake at an early age so she'd say what she wanted and I'd buy her healthy stuff to make, You could also involve him in meal planning and helping him prepare a meal, I did this with the kiddo and it helped her become more independent which they need.

I think I would put him in some activities or just get him interested in outdoor things like fishing, etc. Also, for me portion control was a big problem. Instead of buying prepackaged food I buy Ziploc bags and do it myself. That has really helped me a ton! Especially when it comes to chips and junk food. Hope this helps!!

Fishing can be a great way for them to eat different foods. A good friend had a VERY picky eater but he would eat fish if he went fishing with his dad.

At his young age, he is not going to care what he looks like, nor will he care about the health consequences of being overweight,

So it's completely up to you as his mother, to take away the snacks, force him into a healthier diet, limit the electronics and get him into some sports programs. He going to give you some grief and tantrums, and he won't thank you until he is an adult.

But you have to do it, because you're the only one who can. Tough love, means you care more about him, than what he temporarily will think about you.