Total loss of self-confidence...

Don't let what some dumb probably intoxicated fool said get to you! I'm sure you are beautiful, and were rocking the outfit! Guys are just scummy, and really as long as you are happy with what you've got that's all that matters. Let's be honest your 18 year olds would totally tell you if you looked like a drag queen! 18 year old girls are brutally honest!

Who are they to judge you? !!
I agree ...this is the devestating influence of the media.
No one absolutely no one has the right to tell you how you should look.
Next time you meet sb like that, you have to stand up to them.
I am sure you are very beautiful thw way you are.

I've had worse things said to me, and I'm still here. Keep rolling along!

I am sorry this happened to you. You would think that as adults they would have better behaviour. Where I live there is actually a man in drag and I cant imagine people being that rude to him.
Just remember your family and friends love you for you.

what a bunch of morons. Usually the types of scumbags that would do that kind of thing aren't much to look at themselves. I know it must have been humiliating but you just keep on moving and shake it off! :-)

He was intimidated because you're model-tall and gorgeous, and he knows that he'd never be able to score with you. Drunk morons do that when they are too cowardly to man up and admit that you're out of their league.

For that matter, every time anyone is out jogging or riding their bike and some idiot yells an insult out their window at them, what the idiot is really demonstrating is envy. They can't go out there and be courageous about getting healthy, so they put down those people who are doing it.

You're so much better then that. *hugs*

Man, you should have turned around and said "I'm more of a man than you'll ever be. I'm more of a woman than you'll ever get" and then walked off.

What a bunch of douches. Just shake it off, know that you are a hot mama and that they probably have a tiny.....um...personality.

I hate drunks. I never go to bars, because drunks are there.

So sorry to hear this happened to you. Jerks, they were probably intimidated, little guys, and I don't just mean their height.:laugh:
You continue to stand tall and proud,

All of the 6 ft and taller drag queens and transwomen I know are GORGEOUS. Just sayin'

Seriously. That's what I'm screaming! It's rare that I EVER see a drag queen or transwoman that's ugly. These women KNOW how to put it together!

This post caught my attention; much the same thing happened to me last week.

The old saying, 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. Hmmmmmm........I wish that were true. My father was a drinker and loved to taunt me about my weight as a child. 'Fatty fatty two by four'. Ha, ha, hilarious.

I'm 5'9", 56 years old and currently 197 pounds down from 242, so I can relate. I've always been shy and acutely aware of being overweight. A few weeks ago I actually allowed myself to kind of sort of like the image in the mirror and be proud of how far I've come. I have a long way to go, but there is progress. Feeling cautiously optimistic is new territory for me since I'm great at putting myself down before someone else gets the chance. I've been trying to change that aspect of my personality along with my diet and exercise, too, since it wasn't helping me any.

So ok, newly minted improved self-esteem in place, I sallied forth with renewed confidence. I can do this thing.

Well, fast forward to last week Monday: My husband and I have a large flower garden and many people stop by for tours. A lady called and asked if I was at home so she could tour the garden. I told her I was at the gym but I would be home shortly.

When I arrived home at the time agreed upon, an elderly lady emerged from my backyard and said she'd come early and had already walked through the garden. Then she went into a critique of our landscaping; the lawn was weedy, didn't I care to hire a service to spray it? Do I really think those color combinations work? Why do you plant so many annuals? Sigh.

But what really floored me was when she said, "You just came from the gym?" as she surveyed me from head to toe. "Do you really think it's doing you any good?"

I don't know why I even felt obligated to grace her with a reply, but she caught me off-guard and I said, "Yes, I've lost over forty pounds so far."

"Really?! You're still pretty fat even now, how were you able to garden when you weighed forty pounds more?? Could you even bend over?" she cackled. "That must have been a sight to see."

At that moment another car load of people pulled in to tour the garden so I had no chance to reply as she scurried off to her vehicle and drove off.

Um.....yeah. Thanks, lady. I know that some older folks have a tendency to 'lose their filters' as they age, just as drunks have a tendency to say mean, hurtful things when intoxicated. It is a fact of life we have to deal with, unfortunately. Doesn't make it any easier, though.

For a few minutes after the Garden/Obesity Critic left my yard, I found myself in a familiar place. Mortified, ashamed and embarrassed. I didn't want to face the new people standing in my driveway who were ready to see the flowers, I felt exposed and vulnerable. Pride always goes before the fall I'd been taught.

But though it hurt, I recovered quickly, much more quickly than ever before. I considered the source of my criticism, an old, wrinkled, overweight woman who was clearly not happy with her life and felt the need to take me down a peg or two. Sad to think she lives in that dark state of mind day in and day out. And the same goes for the stupid drunks who yelled out their insults at you OP, they have to bury their true emotions in booze to function. Sad, sad little men.

Always try to remember the source, and hold your head high. Be proud of your accomplishments, you've earned them!

This post caught my attention; much the same thing happened to me last week.

The old saying, 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. Hmmmmmm........I wish that were true. My father was a drinker and loved to taunt me about my weight as a child. 'Fatty fatty two by four'. Ha, ha, hilarious.

I'm 5'9", 56 years old and currently 197 pounds down from 242, so I can relate. I've always been shy and acutely aware of being overweight. A few weeks ago I actually allowed myself to kind of sort of like the image in the mirror and be proud of how far I've come. I have a long way to go, but there is progress. Feeling cautiously optimistic is new territory for me since I'm great at putting myself down before someone else gets the chance. I've been trying to change that aspect of my personality along with my diet and exercise, too, since it wasn't helping me any.

So ok, newly minted improved self-esteem in place, I sallied forth with renewed confidence. I can do this thing.

Well, fast forward to last week Monday: My husband and I have a large flower garden and many people stop by for tours. A lady called and asked if I was at home so she could tour the garden. I told her I was at the gym but I would be home shortly.

When I arrived home at the time agreed upon, an elderly lady emerged from my backyard and said she'd come early and had already walked through the garden. Then she went into a critique of our landscaping; the lawn was weedy, didn't I care to hire a service to spray it? Do I really think those color combinations work? Why do you plant so many annuals? Sigh.

But what really floored me was when she said, "You just came from the gym?" as she surveyed me from head to toe. "Do you really think it's doing you any good?"

I don't know why I even felt obligated to grace her with a reply, but she caught me off-guard and I said, "Yes, I've lost over forty pounds so far."

"Really?! You're still pretty fat even now, how were you able to garden when you weighed forty pounds more?? Could you even bend over?" she cackled. "That must have been a sight to see."

At that moment another car load of people pulled in to tour the garden so I had no chance to reply as she scurried off to her vehicle and drove off.

Um.....yeah. Thanks, lady. I know that some older folks have a tendency to 'lose their filters' as they age, just as drunks have a tendency to say mean, hurtful things when intoxicated. It is a fact of life we have to deal with, unfortunately. Doesn't make it any easier, though.

For a few minutes after the Garden/Obesity Critic left my yard, I found myself in a familiar place. Mortified, ashamed and embarrassed. I didn't want to face the new people standing in my driveway who were ready to see the flowers, I felt exposed and vulnerable. Pride always goes before the fall I'd been taught.

But though it hurt, I recovered quickly, much more quickly than ever before. I considered the source of my criticism, an old, wrinkled, overweight woman who was clearly not happy with her life and felt the need to take me down a peg or two. Sad to think she lives in that dark state of mind day in and day out. And the same goes for the stupid drunks who yelled out their insults at you OP, they have to bury their true emotions in booze to function. Sad, sad little men.

Always try to remember the source, and hold your head high. Be proud of your accomplishments, you've earned them!

You hit the nail on the head! Good for you! VERY proud of you for having this mindset, and realizing that it really IS about what's going on inside of this woman's mind, and that deep down inside, she's just an unhappy person. Just like the guys the OP were talking about, were probably unhappy/immature drunk men in a bar. Sorry this happened to you, nonetheless, but very proud of the confidence you have in yourself, and realizing that you're the one making great progress and doing great things- that the words of a grumpy, unhappy old woman don't mean anything! Kudos to you!

All of the 6 ft and taller drag queens and transwomen I know are GORGEOUS. Just sayin'

THIS. Times a million!

All of the 6 ft and taller drag queens and transwomen I know are GORGEOUS. Just sayin'

^^Exactly. I'd love to be 5'11" and curvy!! Instead, I'm 5'4" and curvy ;0