What if I am just meant to be fat?

Is this even possible??? Can your body just like where it is and that is why you don't lose? I am so sad that nothing changes despite my effort. I feel defeated. Depressed. Disgusting.

Short answer, NO, its not possible. Unless you have a major medical condition. And if that`s the case, your answer is at your Dr`s. office.

Lack of drive and a low level of "want" is what causes it. People say they want something constantly, but really don`t do what it takes to make it happen. Then look for excuses and seek the answers that they want to hear.

Now don`t take that as me beating up on you, because I`m not. That`s just my opinion why the majority doesn't reach their goals.

So my advise, find new friends who are doers, and hang with them. It will rub off if you don`t reject it.

Just never believe you are meant to be fat. That is what people who couldn't care less think, and you aren't one of those people, otherwise you wouldn't be doing MFP. I know people who don't like their weight, but won't do anything about it and expect it to just magically correct itself. Most people don't have the drive we do to make it happen rather than just sit about and hope.

I think like that allllllll the time. I swear my body is different from everyone elses and wants to stay this way. :-(
but it won't do us any good to think like this........IMO for people like us I feel in order to lose serious pounds I would most likely need a personal trainer, and I would need to be working out 6 days a week for more than an hour..I guess our bodies are stubborn! good luck with your journey though, don't give up.

This makes me sad No you don't need a personal trainer, believe me it took me a couple years to lose nearly 30lb and although I am thin now, I'm not at my ideal thin weight in my mind. It will take a long time, and like you my body is stubborn too. But you have to keep going. It is gradual, because it is a healthy way. At least you aren't a silly person who does Juiceplus which takes your money, gets you to shed waterweight fast, then when you eat you put it back on. You are going the right way so please never give up.

I have read some of the comments above but just want to give my tuppence worth, which I think is different to what others have said!

i have always been overweight, all my life! I also suffer from an auto-immune condition which means I am on quite a few meds. I too felt like you - I'm destined to be fat, I have PCOS, I have always been overweight, have tried every fad diet, had personal trainers, go to the gym and work like a beast, nothing...

Had a baby 9 weeks ago, was put on a high dose of steroids which I'm still trying to wean off, meaning another hurdle to climb! I was really depressed about not only being overweight, but now 20lbs on top of that because of baby!!

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, I went to my Dr and complained about it, can he refer me to (yet another)specialist.... His response was, PCOS + steroids = one of most difficult weight loss challenges, yet there is ALWAYS, for every single person, a calorie deficit that will allow them to lose weight. He said I should go down to 1,400, stay there for a month, if I don't lose, go down another 100 etc.

I went home, came straight back on MFP, and 14 days later have lost 6 lbs... I have never ever lost this much so quickly..... I write down every freaking thing I eat, I even weigh the bloody lettuce I eat, but its working! DOn't get me wrong, I have a long way to go, but it has definitely changed my attitude of "I'm destined to be fat"...

add me, I'm happy to support you along your journey

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Have you tried low carb dieting?

I stopped reading responses on page 3. You have mentioned being estrogen dominant, but you say it like "I'm brunette, so that shouldn't matter"... like it's just a matter of fact. I have done extensive research on this, because I have a lot of hormone issues, including Stage IV Endometriosis. Estrogen dominance means you have too much estrogen, not enough progesterone or the balance is way off. Either way, it is what it sounds like. Estrogen is running the show. You likely have many other symptoms of this, possibly including mood swings, raging periods... here's a quick copy and paste bit on some common symptoms:
Decreased sex drive
Irregular or otherwise abnormal menstrual periods
Bloating (water retention)
Breast swelling and tenderness
Fibrocystic breasts
Headaches (especially premenstrually)
Mood swings (most often irritability and depression)
Weight and/or fat gain (particularly around the abdomen and hips)
Cold hands and feet (a symptom of thyroid dysfunction)
Hair loss
Thyroid dysfunction
Sluggish metabolism
Foggy thinking, memory loss
Fatigue
Trouble sleeping/insomnia
PMS

Estrogen dominance has also been linked to allergies, autoimmune disorders, breast cancer, uterine cancer, infertility, ovarian cysts, and increased blood clotting, and is also associated with acceleration of the aging process.

People who have not experienced having their body hijacked by hormones may be tempted to say this is not your problem. But rapid weight gain is one of the first symptoms of a hormone imbalance for a lot of women. I don't have any advice for you, other than to find a doctor who will listen to you and really work with you. Bioidentical progesterone can have some pretty unpleasant long term side effects, so I would tread very carefully. I guess I just wanted to post because I don't want you to feel alone. There are some things you can do to naturally lower your estrogen levels, though I can't guarantee they'll make you lose the weight. You may be interested in intermittent fasting, as fasting lowers estrogen levels. Good luck.

When I was feeling this way (and I did through my preteen and many of my teenage years) it was because I simply was not committed to taking the required steps to actually losing weight. I wasn't committed to eating healthier or counting calories or exercising regularly. I just felt sad and hopeless. I hope this doesn't come across as too harsh. But you need to get real. You need to be committed to making big changes in your diet and lifestyle and being accountable to yourself in order to lose weight. Wishing you the best of luck.