Does anyone else get annoyed when someone.....

offers you food? I don't why but now I don't like it when people sometimes at work offers me food.I know they are just trying to be nice but I get annoyed especially now that I am trying to lose weight.It can be temptingbut sometimes they would offer a calorie dense treat and I am not sure if I can fit it into my calorie goal so I usually say "no thanks" but I feel so annoyed afterwards.anyone feels the same?
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  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    I hate when anyone gives me free stuff, irregardless of what it is.
  • madelonism
    madelonism Posts: 292 Member
    no problem if they offer. it IS a problem if they wave it in my face and beg me to try something
  • Veil5577
    Veil5577 Posts: 868 Member
    It never annoys me when people are trying to be nice, since that is so rare nowadays, and I can politely refuse and say "but thank you for offering!" so they don't get offended.
  • Behxo
    Behxo Posts: 1,190 Member
    Nope, I'll gladly accept any free food if I feel like I can fit it in :P It's just a nice gesture, no need to get offended by it unless they're pushing it on you.
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
    offers you food? I don't why but now I don't like it when people sometimes at work offers me food.I know they are just trying to be nice but I get annoyed especially now that I am trying to lose weight.It can be temptingbut sometimes they would offer a calorie dense treat and I am not sure if I can fit it into my calorie goal so I usually say "no thanks" but I feel so annoyed afterwards.anyone feels the same?

    The bolded phrasing indicates that at some time in the (probably not-too-distant) past, you DID like it when they occasionally offered you food. Meaning they are doing the same thing as always, offering something to someone who they thought would appreciate it, considering their history.

    It seems unfair to be annoyed at someone doing what they've always done, which is something they believe you would appreciate. You are the one who has changed.
  • TheStephil
    TheStephil Posts: 858 Member
    It annoys me when people don't offer me goodies because they think I'm on a "diet" and don't want to tempt me. I can totally fit cookies into my day... gimme gimme.
  • RinnyLush
    RinnyLush Posts: 389 Member
    If you don't want their free food, I'll have it... Send them my way!
  • JojoW8183
    JojoW8183 Posts: 540 Member
    No, most people don't realize that food has become a bonding thing. Think about how we bond with other people...dinner, drinks. During the holidays we gather around with friends and family and eat. At celebrations we eat. It's just something we do. However, if you've told this person you have specific dietary needs and don't eat certain things, having them offer you things you don't eat could get annoying.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Depends on the food. My ILs and that extended family think I only eat veggies. MIL offered me 5# of raw carrots. I like carrots, but there's not enough peanut butter or ranch dressing for me to eat 5# and keep at my calorie goal. I always get passed over on sweets and desserts.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    No. I don't have any issues with telling someone I don't want something they're offering, but if it's food, 9 times out of 10, I'm going to accept it.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    offers you food? I don't why but now I don't like it when people sometimes at work offers me food.I know they are just trying to be nice but I get annoyed especially now that I am trying to lose weight.It can be temptingbut sometimes they would offer a calorie dense treat and I am not sure if I can fit it into my calorie goal so I usually say "no thanks" but I feel so annoyed afterwards.anyone feels the same?




    Why on earth would you be annoyed by a well meant gesture?? If you don't want the food, just thank the giver for their generosity and graciously decline. Far better than having people say " Don't offer any to Alice, she's trying to lose weight", which would be annoying. Just sayin'.
  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
    Is seems that since losing weight it is either someone offering me food or commenting on what I am eating, usually with the question 'should you be eating that?' - annoying, that would be the nice way of putting it.

    I actually had one co-worker that all of a sudden kept offering me a cookie, almost every day . . . one day after her offering she says 'I know you are think Satan get behind me, with me offering you cookies' and as a matter of fact I did feel that her offering me cookies was in a sabotaging manner, so glad she clarified that for me. So yes I do get annoyed when people offer me food!
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    it depends
  • _BearNecessities_
    _BearNecessities_ Posts: 432 Member
    Next time, OP, just slap it out of their hands, yell "NO!!!!" at the top of your lungs and collapse in a hysterical, crying mess on to the floor, kicking and screaming like a two-year-old. I promise no one will ever offer you food again.
  • Shimmer_7
    Shimmer_7 Posts: 111 Member
    Next time, OP, just slap it out of their hands, yell "NO!!!!" at the top of your lungs and collapse in a hysterical, crying mess on to the floor, kicking and screaming like a two-year-old. I promise no one will ever offer you food again.

    ^^ this....definitely this. ;)
  • Paleohawk
    Paleohawk Posts: 9 Member
    Worst part of Christmas is the people bring in their sweet snacks to work. Few tried to offer and beg me to taste one. Generally, their snacks are good but I have to control my bad sweet tooth. Other time, I tried to tell them that I already ate my lunch when they offered me some tasty snacks later that afternoon. I do my best to be nice to everyone by telling them politely that I already ate my meals and watch my weight. Please no more pouts
  • When I first changed my eating habits I got really annoyed when people offered me food or asked me to go out. I was totally aware that I was being irrational, but I still felt that way. After a few weeks, I got more used to my new habits and now it doesn't bother me as much. I think that over time I'll probably get to the point where I don't even think about it. If the food is something I want, then I'll eat it. If not, thanks for the offer. (This is currently what I'm doing, actually.)

    Anyway, I don't think that you should feel bad about being annoyed as long as you don't lash out at people who are trying to be nice. You're being honest about how you feel, and that honesty will help you move past it. :wink:
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    This is not a real problem.
  • DeadliftAddict
    DeadliftAddict Posts: 746 Member
    Why do people get annoyed because someone is trying to be nice? Just say no thank you and move on. No point in being annoyed by it. I'd hate to see how you get when someone isn't being nice to you.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    when people who are fully aware that i am vegan offer me non vegan food it annoys me

    yes
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    No. I get annoyed by real problems.
  • PlanetVelma
    PlanetVelma Posts: 1,223 Member
    I don't get annoyed when my coworkers offer me food. What DOES annoy me is if I say "No thank you" and I get pestered about "whyyyyy". What difference does it matter? I had a coworker that would do that on the REGULAR, finally I told him "Why do you take it so personally when I decline your treats?"

    He retired so it doesn't happen anymore. LOL!
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    How dare they!
  • coolraul07
    coolraul07 Posts: 1,606 Member
    I don't get annoyed when my coworkers offer me food. What DOES annoy me is if I say "No thank you" and I get pestered about "whyyyyy".
    ...
    ^^^THIS, but rarely do I get asked "Why?" so it's a non-issue.
  • cheripugh1
    cheripugh1 Posts: 357 Member
    It never annoys me when people are trying to be nice, since that is so rare nowadays, and I can politely refuse and say "but thank you for offering!" so they don't get offended.

    ^^this^^ it's just so nice of them but I too say no thanks but thanks for offering, it looks yummy... or something like that. If they were hammering at me that I must then I get ticked although at that point I pull out the diabetes card :) stops them right away!
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    No I appreciate kind gestures from people who like me enough to think of me. I can easily politely decline if I don't have calories or don't like the food they are offering. I occasionally offer food to people and I'm not offended if they turn it down as long as they do it nicely.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    Depends on the food. My ILs and that extended family think I only eat veggies. MIL offered me 5# of raw carrots. I like carrots, but there's not enough peanut butter or ranch dressing for me to eat 5# and keep at my calorie goal. I always get passed over on sweets and desserts.

    Yeah I'd have to be having a talk with someone about that. Then again, if I'm being honest, I'm usually the one offering people desserts.
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    I brought donuts to work today. Did I annoy everyone??? I'm sorry! I thought people might like a treat on Friday. I didn't mean it! :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
  • Juliarosemary66
    Juliarosemary66 Posts: 64 Member
    You might be annoyed because you are feeling deprived that you can't have that sweet treat. Why not take a healthy treat to share- like a friut platter? When I embarked on my weight loss journey I gave up the treats at work, there are always cakes and buscuits being offered around; I take chilled grapes with me and find those satisfying as a sweet treat and then feel very vrituous! Just remind yourself of how well you are doing when you say no.
  • littlebutlean
    littlebutlean Posts: 2,159 Member
    No I don't get annoyed at all but when they persist or start going "Oh cause you're not eating right now yeah I forgot" .. that pisses me off.