Opinions needed, low self esteem (pics)

You look amazing, be proud of what you've achieved! Not many guys look as good as you do already so know you've been doing well.

We can shower you with a hundred thousand kind words, but your self esteem comes entirely from you.

And from the front you look like a sad Zach Braff.

Kind Regards,
A Fat Audrey Hepburn.

You are correct that this is probably shallow, etc. but the fact is that you are, indeed, an attractive man. There's still no amount of us telling you so that will convince you. Speaking as an "ugly duckling" who grew into my face, I can tell you that it takes a lot of time and a lot of reinforcement from people you love and respect, and a lot of reinforcement from total strangers hitting on you or flirting with you, plus a lot of soul searching, to find that confidence. You'll get there if you really want to...just don't be a *kitten* when you do.

omg you remind me of me! I constanly wonder whether I look good and in good shape ALL the time my social anxiety stems from this too. like somedays I will just go home cause of it. its crazy right xx hugs!
p.s yes your a handsome man xoxo and I know me saying this will not be good enough long term u will need to be reassured soon I hope it gets better for u xx

Plus a bit of insecurity in a guy is also hot. Don't change. LOL

I think you look lovely

Many people talk about the idea that it can take a while for your brain to catch up with your body, when you look in the mirror you still see the old you and not how you actually currently look

I seriously just typed up and edited a good few paragraphs about what I have learned during my own journey towards self acceptance, in hopes that it might help you somehow, just for my laptop to shut down and begin installing updates right as I am about to click the 'post' button. So here goes my second, less well worded, attempt!



In my opinion, you are indeed very hot. But that is just my opinion. The key to dealing with these sort of insecurities is to realize that self esteem and self acceptance ultimately does come from you. Not the world around you, or the opinions of others, even though it may seem as though it does.

The thing about humans, is that we are our own worst critics/enemies. Therefore, more often than not, the opinions/comments of other people will not always help us feel better about ourselves, because we are actually battling against our own personal opinions of ourselves. Not those of other people. So in order to actually face and get rid of the insecurities, we have to take steps towards making peace with ourselves and learning self acceptance. For some, this includes taking steps towards changing what they do not like (and therefore fear others also do not like) about themselves. For some, this means accepting themselves the way they are without change. It's difference for everyone, but everyone faces it. It's a long and constant struggle, but if you can at least decide that you want to work on improving the way you feel about yourself, you're already a few steps towards breathing easier.


That being said, everyone enjoys compliments. They can brighten your day and give you a boost of much needed confidence. And that is not shallow. It's a natural instinct to want to fit in and be accepted, and receiving compliments can make us feel like we are.Just make sure that you don't forget that your opinion of yourself is more important that anyone else's opinion of you. It's okay to get a confidence boost from compliments, but don't let yourself start to rely on it.

You are definitely a very attractive man from my point of view, and I don't see anything for you to feel insecure about. I'm sure many others will agree with me. And perhaps that will help you feel better for a bit, but ultimately we all see flaws in ourselves that are invisible to the rest of the world. So my advice is to work on what you think you need to work on, in order to make yourself feel confident. As long as you go about it in a safe and healthy manner, that is, =]. From the information you provided, it sounds like you've already started to make healthy improvements on things that you were/are insecure about, and that's half the battle. You sort of just have to find your stride, and see what works for you. And on bad days, there are plenty of people on this forum to chat with for support!



And FYI, I definitely love the glasses on you. Very Clark Kent. =]


Edit: I also realize that you may be seeking actual exercise/fitness advice on how to further your progression as opposed to therapeutic advice regarding dealing with self acceptance, but since it was in the motivation/support section and not the fitness section, I typed a giant emotional novel and assumed you were seeking the latter.

If you were not, ignore this, and best of luck regardless!!

I have some issues myself. Dont know how it started but starting to feel very low about how i look even though the numbers say I'm at a healthy weight. Husband thinks I look great etc. But I don't feel it.

You look great. You have a handsome face and a very toned body. Your hard work is paying you in dividends x Its not selfish to ask. Not all people of confident and it does help when people say something nice to others

you look bigger than 175 @6'1. I'm 180 @5'11 and you look bulkier. I'd put your BF at around 15% ish

You look amazing and healthy.