My skinny friends

Im not sure what you look like but it could just be you look great the way you are.it seems like no one really sees themselves the way the outside world or loved ones see them.

I understand the frustration in feeling like they aren't supporting you. But it sounds like they ARE trying to be supportive, in a sense, but maybe aren't going about it the right way. And remember, the people who see us everyday, are more inclined to "not see" our weight issues very objectively, especially if we don't have much to lose.

But I have to say, I had to chuckle a little when I looked at your profile and saw your quote "Never measure yourself with someone else's yardstick."

Because it sounds like you might be ignoring that quote a bit, in two ways.
1. Don't measure yourself by what sizes your friends fit into. Go with what feels healthy and is a good size for YOU.
2. Don't go by what they say - go by how you feel physically. If you feel you'd be in better shape and healthier if you lost a few poinds and toned up, then by all means, work on it. But do it for yourself, no one else.

At any rate, don't let anyone discourage you, as long as you're making a healthy lifestyle change. Use MFP as your support if you don't feel it coming from others. And good luck!

Don't put so much emphasis on the sizes. Two of my good friends are sisters, one about a year older than the other. The older one is a size 8 but is noticeably thinner than the other, who wears a 6 (narrow hips, no butt).

As far as why they tell you that you don't need to lose as much weight as you think, it's a self-image thing. I'm the same way. I'm in a smaller size now than I have worn since junior high, but I still can't see myself as "skinny." I was shopping with my mom and sister-in-law over the weekend, and we walked past a mirror in the store, and I said "hey, I don't look fat in that mirror!" like it was some great revelation. My mom said "Um, that's because you're not fat." And believe me, if my mom thought I was fat, she'd tell me. We have a very honest relationship, especially with regard to weight because we've both struggled with it for a long time.

So it's not that they don't want you to be skinny. They probably think you already are, and to them, 15 to 17 lbs sounds like a lot.

I can only dream of being size 10. I'm a size 16 and have been that way for as long as I can remember. I know how you feel though about your friends not supporting you. My girlfriend is always telling me that i look beautiful the way I am now but I just want to be a skinny friend too. lol. Whatever you do though, you should do for you. It's not about making your skinny friends happy it's your body, and it's you who should be setting the standard for yourself.

Yet they tell me that I look good and that I certainly don't need to lose that much weight. I don't get it. They are skinny! Why don't they want me to be skinny????

Any suggestions?

No suggestion, but maybe this'll make you laugh...

I'm 345lbs and I get told that!

I think sometimes people think they're being supportive when they say that. Sometimes I want to tell people that I want to GAIN weight just to see the reaction. LOL!