dumb hubby remark brought out my prejudice

elisa123gal
elisa123gal Posts: 4,337 Member
in Motivation and Support
Last night I found myself, out of anger, being a diet snob. My husband who does Atkins so he can eat as much as he wants and still drink made an offensive comment to me as i was watching the newest show The Biggest Loser.

When a 300 pound woman was weighed…he said.."She is like you, most likely doesn't weigh herself and got that big." ( It is true that for now i'm not weighing myself because i don't want the scale to discourage me).

well.. something in me snapped. First.. I don't weigh 300 pounds.. I'm 5 9' and around 175 trying to get down to 150 0r 155.

But the gloves came off..andt. I told him excactly what I though

… that for almost 50 days straight i have gotten on my bike, rode to the gym, worked out hard for at least an hour and rode back home. I chop and cut and cook healthy varieties of food and count my calories to work at my health and fitnees. All you do is stuff your face with meat anch cheese and drink as much alcohol as you want. I have more discipline,committment and drive than you could hope to have.

….I jwas surpised by my counter attack. I don't want judgmental person and i want to support anyone in any weightloss effort. But what i told him is secretly what I think about his lazy way of trying to get fit. I am becoming a diet/fitness snob.

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  • WhatMeRunning
    WhatMeRunning Posts: 3,538 Member
    If I had said that to my wife, my nards would have been snipped off, both arms chopped off, and my heart cut out by a spatula.

    You sound pretty nice.
  • lokepa
    lokepa Posts: 204 Member
    Sometimes, for better or worse, we fight fire with fire... as you want to be supportive, you hope that he would be just as supportive. A comment such as that doesn't sound terribly supportive, and he pushed that button. Now you know where it is, and can temper your response (should you choose to). Apologies (again, should you choose to) go a long way... but my humble recommendation would be, the apology should be coupled with an honest explanation about your feelings as well, and how his comment cut just as deeply as you feel yours did. As 'they' say, two wrongs don't make a right, but sometimes they give us the opportunity to lay our real feelings out on the table and start all over again.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    How is Atkins getting him fit?
  • jchadden42
    jchadden42 Posts: 189
    If I had said that to my wife, my nards would have been snipped off, both arms chopped off, and my heart cut out by a spatula.

    You sound pretty nice.

    And rightfully so!! I have to admit, this really did make me Laugh.Out. Loud!:laugh:
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,337 Member
    It made me laugh too!
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    If I had said that to my wife, my nards would have been snipped off, both arms chopped off, and my heart cut out by a spatula.

    You sound pretty nice.
    :laugh:


    yeah OP that sounds pretty ballsy of your hubby to say. are you sure he wasnt saying it to try to get some angry sex out of it?
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    So what is the question?
  • Kate7294
    Kate7294 Posts: 783 Member
    Sounds like he got what was coming to him. Bravo! My husband used to love to give diet advice when I wasn't feeling very sexy or self conscious. As long as he was getting what he wanted he was happy .
  • bfergusonii
    bfergusonii Posts: 208 Member
    If I had made that comment there would not be enough left of me to identify.

    You are doing the right thing. Just keep it up.

    Looking good is the best revenge.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Curious about how that Atkinds is working out for him if he's really eating as much as he wants and stuffing his face with cheese and alcohol.

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