how many pounds do you guys think i should lose?

I finally had the courage to post my picture and I want honest answers. I am overweight and I eat too many carbs and drink too much soda. I have never had a girlfriend or had sex in my life either and I think my weight has a lot to do with it. so,give me a number??

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  • Wetcoaster
    Wetcoaster Posts: 1,788 Member
    Troll much?

    This is what you said before......

    "I'm a male and my waist size is 44. I am wondering if that is ok. I am 5'11 and I weigh 228 right now. I don't drink alcohol and I don't eat too much,i just have a poor metabolism"
  • What's your biggest challenge to making some healthy changes?
  • Google BMI calculator and put in your height. Play around with different numbers for your weight. The BMI calculator will help you a find healthy number for your weight.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    You've been posting for nearly a month so far... Have you actually done anything to lose weight yet?!
  • _Zardoz_
    _Zardoz_ Posts: 3,987 Member
    I finally had the courage to post my picture and I want honest answers. I am overweight and I eat too many carbs and drink too much soda. I have never had a girlfriend or had sex in my life either and I think my weight has a lot to do with it. so,give me a number??
    Maybe stop worrying about how much and do something about it. You have posted several times over the past month asking about everything from subway sandwiches making your ankles swell to is a 44 inch waist to big. Well I'll say this your waist is bigger than 44" so I think you're kidding yourself there.

    There is lots of great help on this site but you need to do the actual work yourself

    Have a look at the link if you seriously want to do something and good luck

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1175494-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?hl=guide+to+sexypants&page=1#posts-18361594
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    Try using the advice you got.

    There isn't much more to say that wasn't said on your other threads with this topic.

    Are you just posting silly topics as a joke?
  • you people are so insensitive. I am trying to get help. I am now up to 233 pounds. I am gaining and gaining. I also have prediabetes and I don't want to die an early death.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    you people are so insensitive. I am trying to get help. I am now up to 233 pounds. I am gaining and gaining. I also have prediabetes and I don't want to die an early death.

    So do the things people have told you...
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    you people are so insensitive. I am trying to get help. I am now up to 233 pounds. I am gaining and gaining. I also have prediabetes and I don't want to die an early death.

    OMG. Start with 10lbs then reevaluate.

    This is really not for anyone else to say. It is between you and your doctor.
  • pander101
    pander101 Posts: 677 Member
    I finally had the courage to post my picture and I want honest answers. I am overweight and I eat too many carbs and drink too much soda. I have never had a girlfriend or had sex in my life either and I think my weight has a lot to do with it. so,give me a number??
    Maybe stop worrying about how much and do something about it. You have posted several times over the past month asking about everything from subway sandwiches making your ankles swell to is a 44 inch waist to big. Well I'll say this your waist is bigger than 44" so I think you're kidding yourself there.

    There is lots of great help on this site but you need to do the actual work yourself

    Have a look at the link if you seriously want to do something and good luck

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1175494-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?hl=guide+to+sexypants&page=1#posts-18361594

    Yeah, this right here... Quit complaining and do something.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    you people are so insensitive. I am trying to get help. I am now up to 233 pounds. I am gaining and gaining. I also have prediabetes and I don't want to die an early death.

    Don't worry about a number...just get cracking....start doing. Put your stats in here...select a modest and sustainable rate of loss and start hitting your goals. Start working in a little exercise...just start doing....that's how you lose weight.

    Just go in 10 Lb increments and stop worry about how much you need to lose total...that will all become clear later on. Just start actually doing something and stop talking about it.
  • independant2406
    independant2406 Posts: 447 Member
    Google BMI calculator and put in your height. Play around with different numbers for your weight. The BMI calculator will help you a find healthy number for your weight.

    This is great advice. :) ^^^ The BMI calculation is a great way to determine what you should weigh and how much to lose.

    Ignore the haters and keep asking questions. Some of us don't mind :)
  • stevenlcopeland
    stevenlcopeland Posts: 57 Member
    Spend less time asking, more time exercising, and stop eating. Now just go do it.
  • LiminalAscendance
    LiminalAscendance Posts: 489 Member
    I have never had a girlfriend or had sex in my life either and I think my weight has a lot to do with it. so,give me a number??

    Wow, stinks like troll.

    Sadly, it's probably true, however.
  • caracrawford1
    caracrawford1 Posts: 657 Member
    Whatever your Dr and you agree is sustainable and necessary to reach a semblance of health.
  • Annie_01
    Annie_01 Posts: 3,096 Member
    I finally had the courage to post my picture and I want honest answers. I am overweight and I eat too many carbs and drink too much soda. I have never had a girlfriend or had sex in my life either and I think my weight has a lot to do with it. so,give me a number??

    Well...here is honest...

    Yes...from your picture you are over weight and most of it appears to be in your gut...one of the most dangerous places to carry extra weight.

    If you think you eat too many carbs...then cut back. I you think you drink too many sodas...cut back.

    As far as the sex problems go...can't help with that. However you might want to consider...is it because of your weight...or are there other reasons???

    Now on Subway sandwiches...yes you can make healthy choices at Subway. However the sodium content in teriyaki sauce is high and in any process lunch meats such as pastrami. Although the turkey and chicken will also be high it is a bit lower. Plus...leaving off the vegetable such as peppers...cucumbers...etc etc...lessens the nutritional value IMO.

    As far as how much weight you should lose...lose until YOU feel as if you have lost enough. Take the time to look at weight charts...talk to your doctor...etc etc.

    Honestly...I read some of your prior posts...I don't think that you are looking for honest answers...I think that you are looking for someone to tell you that you don't really have to lose weight.

    Now my honesty about your metabolism...maybe your metabolism is not as poor as your think...maybe you are just not moving enough to burn any calories besides those that it takes to keep you alive.

    You want to burn more...move more...that's my honest opinion.

    Honest...don't depend on other people to do the work for you...read...research...think...THEN DO IT.
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    you people are so insensitive. I am trying to get help. I am now up to 233 pounds. I am gaining and gaining. I also have prediabetes and I don't want to die an early death.

    Then stop ****ing eating so much!

    It's not rocket science and you don't need "advice" - what you need is a little self discipline.

    Now put down the internet and go for a jog, FFS.
  • Kevalicious99
    Kevalicious99 Posts: 1,131 Member
    Ok ... first of all, the whole setting of weight goals thing here is in my opinion stupid, at least in the position where you are. It sets many people up for failure. It did for me as I became obsessed with a number and lost my way.

    I would do it like this .. and this comes after my own journey and a bit of failure where I lost too much weight due to a misguided goal. I have been in maintenance for a while .. and in fact gained 1/3 of my loss back (on purpose .. so don't harass me on this one) as I was unhappy with my weight loss.

    The best goal .. is not a weight goal. I know many people here will not agree with this, but the best goal is how you feel, how your clothes fit and for many how you look and are perceived. You will hopefully know when you get there. And trust me .. that feeling is a wonderful thing.

    I would suggest that rather than making a "long term" goal of 180 lbs .. make a goal of 6-8 lbs this month which I think would be good for you at your present weight. For the next while .. just do that and see how it works. You can make a rough estimate based on a middle of the normal BMI scale for example and set that as a long term goal, and this is critical .. don't be afraid to adjust it as time goes on.

    I know I sure wish I would have stopped my weight loss several months earlier than I did.

    So time to get working on it .. eat at a deficit and get some exercise and get a move on. Sitting on the forums asking for an answer that is only really relevant 6 months away is right now pointless.
  • fushigi1988
    fushigi1988 Posts: 519 Member
    First check with your doctor that you don't have thyroid issues or something.
    Then start tracking every morsel that you eat and drink, figure out how much you need and start adjusting.
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    Sitting on the forums asking for an answer that is only really relevant 6 months away is right now pointless.

    It's just another form of procrastination....
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    When I was 300+ I did not feel I ate much. I DO have a medically confirmed condition that makes me prone to gaining weight, but a slow metabolism won't solely make you obese. It turned out I was consuming more than 3000 calories a day. Good news is: I used to have blood sugar values in the pre-diabetic range too but once I lost a considerable amount of weight my blood sugar is now normal.

    Here is what you could do, in that order:

    1. Go to the doctor and get your hormones checked to see if there is anything that needs treating or that may be causing you to gain weight. DON'T SELF-DIAGNOSE.

    2. Google BMI, and find your healthy range. Make your goal the highest end of the range, and once you reach that you tweak down from there, until you reach a body weight you are happy with.

    3. Get an idea of how much you are currently eating. For a week log your food without changing anything in your diet as accurately as you can, weighing every single thing including oils used for frying, condiments, sugar and cream in your coffee.. everything.

    4. Notice what foods are taking the biggest portion of your calories, and what foods not totally necessary or important for you to eat. Think of ways how you would decrease the portions/frequency of these foods or edit them in a way that would lower their calories.

    5. Set your calorie goal to something comfortable to you but would still be at a good deficit and only eat that many calories every day. Increase your activity level and you may be able to eat more too.

    6. Look into your social skills. Don't assume that once you lose the weight everything will be dandy and women would be flocking towards you in herds. If you keep that mindset you will be sorely disappointed. Extra weight is not the reason you've never had a date, it's the excuse we tend to use to handle rejection better. Even at 300+ I had plenty of dates and amazing boyfriends. Yes, I got rejected quite a few times, but that happens to everyone, even people with "perfect" bodies. Yes, it's harder to be noticed as an obese person, but that's not enough to make anyone a "hopeless case".
  • fushigi1988
    fushigi1988 Posts: 519 Member
    Super tips here ^^
  • psych101
    psych101 Posts: 1,842 Member
    Just go out there and do it.
  • Snip8241
    Snip8241 Posts: 767 Member
    If the people here were really insensitive they would not respond at all. They would leave you alone. The responses you are getting are solid advice.

    YOU have to do the work. Use the links supplied here. They are located in getting started. Read, learn and come up with a plan. Posting a picture and asking us how much you should lose is counter productive.

    You know you need to lose, how much depends on what your BMI is and where you want to be.

    Once you get a handle on your changes and they become your lifestyle I hope your personal relationships improve.

    Good luck to you.