117.something kilos

NetflixAndChocolate
NetflixAndChocolate Posts: 57 Member
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Being 19 and having so much excess fat is really getting to me. My biggest problem is the feeling of being 'laffed at' a phrase that started as a joke but I cant seem to shift it. It stops me from excising anywhere but the gym.
I want new friends, who get what I'm going through. Regardless of age, or gender. :happy: Just need to feel part of something! Its funny that 22% of Irish women are overweight and I feel so alone.

^^^^ now that I've had my downer probably should mention that I intend on taking this goal lightly. I was happy before i felt 'laffed at' and I damm well know I can be again.

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  • NatJ522
    NatJ522 Posts: 16 Member
    I'm sorry :( Life is tough sometimes. Just try to focus and stay positive. I'm sure you'll do great. You could always work out at home too. I walk in place at home sometimes. Still exercise!! :) I'm here if you ever need to talk or vent! Good luck!
  • fwhittaker
    fwhittaker Posts: 104 Member
    Hi Chickie :-)

    I know you know me a bit already, but I'm not sure if I told you that I grew up being very overweight, and at your age was withing 2kgs of your weight now. I went on a big journey for a few years and actually managed to reach my goal weight. Almost 20 years later, I do have to lose some again, but I did manage to keep it all off for a very long time.

    My point is, do you know what the first step for me was? It was making a big decision that I loved myself, and my body, no matter how big I was. I also decided to not give a damn what anyone else thought, or what I looked like at the gym or out on the pavement I was starting to pound.

    It was hard at first, but after a while I realised I was being harder on myself than anyone else could be. That the few remarks I got from time to time were from morons, and most people didn't think twice about me being overweight. I decided to just enjoy the feeling of making some changes in my life, taking control, and being healthier. If some weight came off as well, then that was just secondary.

    I know everyone has their own story, their own experience, but I just wanted to say that it's so hard to achieve 'the goal' while you feel like you're being 'laffed at' and are too ashamed to exercise wherever you want. Bugg3r them all! You're better than any of them. Often, the most attractive thing about someone is their confidence.

    About feeling alone... well, I wondered if your gym had any walking groups or other social groups? The one I went to was really fabulous and I met some awesome people who were going through the same thing as me.

    Anyhoo, just thought I'd share that with you and perhaps you can take something from it. I think you're amazing.
  • lindainprogress
    lindainprogress Posts: 129 Member
    until just recently I felt the same way, no way was I working out in public. then I stopped and thought about what I think when I see heavy people working out at the park or wherever. I think, damn, I wish I could be like them, out there getting it done and taking care of myself. It finally hit me that it could be me. and now I choose to assume every thin person out there used to be like me and are giving me silent high fives! Not long after, I was struggling to get up a big a** hill on my bike, a very fit, very hot (bonus-very shirtless) man who was running towards me gave me 2 thumbs up and said "you got this girl." and I did. A little shift in my thinking, that is all it took. and believe me, the first few times out there joggingish, I felt self conscience, now I feel empowered.
  • silentKayak
    silentKayak Posts: 658 Member
    Feel free to add me.

    Mostly when people see heavy people working out, they're impressed with the fact that they're trying to make a change. A few people are jerks or say jerky things, but they're the exception, not the rule.

    Also remember that the key to weight loss is largely in diet (more than exercise). You mentioned that your parents don't know you're doing this. Would they be supportive? If they're buying food and making/serving meals that are clearly too big and too rich for you, I wonder if there's something else going on. If you're living at home, you may need to take control of your own meals, snacks, and portion sizes in order to make a change.

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