Can't lose weight eating healthy?

Its simple, well nothings simple when it comes to dieting, but there is a science to it... "if your dieting and still gaining weight then you are taking in more calories then you are burning" the answer is exactly what you dont want to hear you need to cut more calories. Id say start with carbs cut more then half the cabs you are eating out now and say no to soda or any sugar for that matter and you will be shocked by your weight lose by the end of two weeks, I promise it will work but you have to stick to it and dont give up when it gets hard.
PS if your not weight training START weight training will burn more calories then cardio good luck!

Just about everything above is wrong.

It *is* simple. Calories in < Calories out . What it isn't is *easy*.

Eating "healthy" isn't a guarantee of weight loss. You still need to find a way to eat fewer calories than you use, no matter what you're eating.

You don't need to cut carbs or fats or sugars or sodas or whatever. Every gram of carbohydrate that you cut out cuts 4 calories from your daily intake. Every gram of fat cuts 9 calories. There is a minimum amount of fat you do need per day, probably at least 50 grams at your size, for hormonal balance and all the other things your body needs fat for. Don't go cutting your protein, especially once you start lifting weights. Higher protein helps you retain muscle mass (i.e., your calorie-burning engine) while you are eating at a deficit.

If you cut carbs, you will lose about 10 pounds at first, but most of that will be water. For every gram of glycogen your body stores, it takes 3 grams of water along for the ride, so when you decrease your carbs below what you need, it'll dip into the "short-term" glycogen storage to make up the difference. After you reach maintenance, and go back to eating more carbs, guess what comes right back with a vengeance? All the glycogen your body wants to store, along with its watery pals. My body only shed 4 pounds when I did low carb, so it was a big ol' fail for me. Plus it sent my brain chemistry haywire, but in normal healthy people, it isn't unsafe, just unnecessary.

Weight training does not burn more calories than cardio. But you absolutely do need to do it, on that we agree. What it does is protect your bone density and help preserve your muscle mass. Don't buy into the hype about light weights-high reps for "toning" either. "Toning" doesn't actually mean anything; lowering your body fat % is what leads to more definition, which is usually what people mean when they say "toned" (incorrect though the usage may be).

Don't buy into the hype that lifting heavy will make you bulky either. You don't have enough testosterone as a woman to get bulky. Trust me when I say lots of us work really freakin' hard for a long time trying to get even a little bit "bulkier" and it is slow going and takes focus and dedicated effort. It never happens by accident.

Just lift weights that are heavy (for you) at 3-10 reps, and do enough cardio to maintain cardiovascular health. Then adjust your caloric intake downward slightly until you start losing weight. Then just be patient and results will come in time. It's not rocket science.

OMG, i have this SAME ISSUE!!
It seems like when I become obsessed with eating healthy and working out, I GAIN weight as opposed to when I am not worried about it and eating anything I want. It doesn't make ANY sense at all and is extremely frustrating. I want to do the best thing for my body and eat healthy and work out, but it doesn't pay off, because I just get fat!!! I feel your pain and not sure what to do about it either.

At the end of the day it's calories in vs calories out. If you aren't losing weight and after ruling out a medical condition you may or may not have, then you are doing something wrong. You're not a special snow flake, sorry. Re-evaluate how you are recording your food intake and the calories burnt from exercise.

Re-evaluate your food choices and make sure you are really measuring your portions to the best of your ability. Do you use measuring spoons or do you weigh your peanut butter? But you'd never guess that you should actually be weighing it!

Do you have frequent or regular cheat days? One cheat day can kill any calorie deficit that you achieve during the week if you eat enough calories.

Do you eat out at restaurants often? Just because a restaurant publishes nutritional information doesn't mean it'll come out that way when prepared. What's to stop a heavy handed cook from using more oils and butters than the recipe calls for? Nothing against eating out, but you are effectively estimating every time you eat out.

It's not enough to just eat "healthy" foods, and the definition of healthy largely depends on what your goals are. I could argue all day with someone who practices paleo's definition of healthy vs my definition (If it fits your macros). At the end of the day it's calories in calories out. Even seemly healthy foods can cause fat gain if you are eating above what you burn.

On a side note, I don't buy that you don't have regular access to a computer and who doesn't have a smart phone now adays? If you want to track everything on a note pad that's ok, but at the end of the day you need to make sure your entries are consistant and correct, otherwise what's the point.