Ever been asked if you are pregnant but you weren't ....?

I was never asked, but I was once told to put down my Guinness because of the baby. I told her I was fine and baby free. And then I smiled and asked her why she looked so uncomfortable...

A colleague once asked me that. I was a touch offended, but I was suffering with IBS at the time and was super bloated. It prompted my decision to cut out wheat products for a while!

Also, I discovered after the fact that she was undergoing IVF at the time so she had baby bumps on the brain, bless her. I couldn't feel bad once I knew that.

I was asked once. I could tell my co-workers were very uncomfortable. It made me realize I was carrying more weight in my stomach area than I thought. I'd thought it was pretty equally balanced.

The girl was so embarrassed and her pity and apologies weren't helpful, because then I had to continue the conversation and reassure her. I just wanted to move on.

I wasn't offended, but it wasn't my favorite moment ever.

No, but there are some women that I see around a lot that I wonder if they are, I would never ask though so I'll just keep on wondering.

I've never been asked, but the night my father died, my brother picked me up at my dorm room, and when we got to the hospital the nurse behind the admitting desk immediately directed us to the maternity ward. We had to tell her no, we were looking for our father in the intensive care unit. She was obviously embarrassed, and I'm guessing she was a little slower to make that assumption in the future. I was horrified by (1) her cheery, congratulatory attitude in the midst of my terror that my father was dying, (2) her assumption that my brother was my husband or SO (although to be fair we don't look much alike), and (3) her assumption that I was pregnant (I was barely overweight at the time, with a BMI of about 25.7, but I was wearing a heavy ski-type jacket), in that order, although I wouldn't swear that the pregnant thing was a distant third.

I wouldn't be offended if someone asked, but I would think they were terribly rude. That's just not the kind of thing you ask somebody, and not only or even primarily because they might be offended by being told they look like they could be. It's a terribly personal thing to ask someone. If she is pregnant, and she wants you to know, she'll tell you. Maybe she's not telling anyone until she reaches a certain stage in her pregnancy. If she doesn't want you to know, it's none of your business, unless you're her doctor or some other medical professional inquiring in an official capacity.

He didn't ask, but a guy gestured top my stomach and offered me his seat on a train yesterday. I was tired and the train was packed, so I thanked him and took it. Pregnant looking chubby belly for the win!

... and the added bonus, because I smiled, said thanks and took him up on it, he will continue to be polite and offer ladies his seat rather than being scared to, which he might have been if I'd taken offence at his kind gesture and rejected his offer.

GOLD! I've done the exact same thing, twice!!!
The first time my partner was worried that I would be offended but i was just like, oh, ok. Thats what I look like now. The second time was part of the reason I've decided to get my weight under control! I seem to mainly carry weight around my belly. Luckily it was also that first place lost the weight! No more seats on the train now

I have. Once by the school crossing guard. I had been steadily gaining weight and she was so embarrassed I couldn't be offended. Another time I was at a wine tasting event and a stranger asked. I would have just let it go except I didn't want her to think I was drinking while pregnant. I didn't get offended though. I know I am big.

I've never looked pregnant - when I gain weight it's an even distribution all over, not concentrated in the belly. If someone asked me if I was pregnant I wouldn't be offended, but I would definitely see it as a wake up call to get myself back in shape. :flowerforyou:

I was once asked that question and replied, "nope, I'm just fat." The person who asked looked mortified. I never wore the empire waist top that I had loved up to that point, again! And I'm thinking she probably never asked that question again. Rule of thumb...I wouldn't ask someone that, unless you (1) know them pretty well, or (2) are 99% sure they are. Just a thought. I wasn't offended, per se, but it was someone that I only knew in passing and I was a more than a little annoyed, and had some hurt feelings about it.

Those of us who are large, and particularly who carry it in the mid-section, are fully aware of it. No need to point it out!!

(On a slight side note to the main topic, I work with psychiatric patients, and had a psychotic woman keep trying to touch my stomach b/c she was convinced that I was pregnant...I just had to laugh at that. My coworkers who witnessed it were mortified on my behalf!! A fully functioning person touching my stomach - I would take major offense to that!!!)

Lol, yes once years ago by a door knocker trying to sell me something, I couldn't close the door on her quick enough!

I've been told I were pregnant. I was in a corner shop in Hastings, UK and I wanted a packet of cigarettes. He asked me for ID, by saying 'I know you're pregnant, but I still need to check your ID because anybody can be pregnant these days!'. Firstly, why on earth would I be buying cigarettes if I were? My mum jumped in straight away and said, 'she's not pregnant!'. I was speechless, I just spluttered a laugh. He did not apologise though. I'm not sure if this is a contributing factor as to why I lost weight!

Yes, I would be offended. If I was pregnant enough to be showing, and we know each other, you'd probably have heard about it already. It's not your business to know if you weren't told and you could just be flat out wrong. It's really rude to just march up to someone and ask that question.

I tend to agree with, yeh...all of this ^

A few months ago I was picking up a prescription at the pharmacy I've been going to for several years. As the cashier was ringing me up she asked me a question, and being that I was super sick it just didn't compute, so I responded by saying "Uh, sorry. What was that?" She replied, " Oh, don't worry about it. That's pregnancy brain for you!" I was mortified.

A couple of years ago I was working the drive-thru at a fast food restaurant during the dinner rush. I took this lady's order and she mentioned that she was pregnant with cravings. When she pulled up to the window I asked her if she was having a girl or a boy. To my horror, I had asked the wrong customer. The pregnant lady was actually in the car behind this now extremely offended lady.

I was once asked that question and replied, "nope, I'm just fat." The person who asked looked mortified. I never wore the empire waist top that I had loved up to that point, again! And I'm thinking she probably never asked that question again. Rule of thumb...I wouldn't ask someone that, unless you (1) know them pretty well, or (2) are 99% sure they are. Just a thought. I wasn't offended, per se, but it was someone that I only knew in passing and I was a more than a little annoyed, and had some hurt feelings about it.

Basically, the same experience I had. I wasn't massively offended, but I did mark the people down who commented as insensitive types for future reference. I would never dream of commenting if someone looked pregnant. It's right up there with comments on weight or ill health to be honest. If they want to tell me, then they can.