Do the comments ever stop?
PocketPunky
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I've lost 60 pounds. I'm 5'2", so I get that that was a big deal to the people around me. However, it's been a year since I stopped losing. So, WHY do people still feel the need to make comments???
This conversation just happened on the elevator:
Coworker: "Have you tried the new food trucks on Wednesdays?"
Me: "No, I haven't. Are they good."
Coworker: "Oh, that's right. You don't eat anymore."
Me: "Seriously? I eat a lot!"
Coworker: (laugh) "Sure you do..."
WHY IS THIS OK???? If I were overweight a coworker wouldn't feel comfortable making comments about what I eat. So why is it ok now that I'm not?
Ok, sorry, rant over.
Does this ever happen to you guys? Did it EVER stop???
This conversation just happened on the elevator:
Coworker: "Have you tried the new food trucks on Wednesdays?"
Me: "No, I haven't. Are they good."
Coworker: "Oh, that's right. You don't eat anymore."
Me: "Seriously? I eat a lot!"
Coworker: (laugh) "Sure you do..."
WHY IS THIS OK???? If I were overweight a coworker wouldn't feel comfortable making comments about what I eat. So why is it ok now that I'm not?
Ok, sorry, rant over.
Does this ever happen to you guys? Did it EVER stop???
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It stopped when I changed jobs!0
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Eventually, but I've been into health and fitness now for almost 6 years. I guess it helps that I moved 2,700 miles away, too. :P0
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1. Some people have no tact and will continue to make comments forever.
2.You should challenge your co-worker to an eating contest.
3.How many food trucks are there and why have you not tried them yet? Food trucks are awesome.0 -
Because people feel bad about themselves and what they know are their own bad choices so they lash out in various ways at people who are doing what they KNOW they should be doing, but don't.
Usually it's just teasing - but there's a kernel of truth buried there.
It only stops if they 1. Make peace with themselves, or 2. Get off their lazy butts and do something about whatever it is that makes them unhappy.
Either way, it's not your problem. It's theirs.0 -
people in my office think i eat non-stop. because i get a lunch that is twice, or sometimes three times as large as theirs. they also know that i have lost 50-55 lbs.
so they comment on how much food i get. and that is almost daily. it gets a little annoying, but only when i'm already cranky.
then they get itty bitty lunches because they are trying to lose weight. somehow, it's not computing in their head that, again, i lost weight and am eating 3x what they are and they are not losing and eating very little.
i just smile and nod when they tell me about their "diet."0 -
Embrace it, sounds like something another woman would say. Shes jealous of your progress. It just means you are doing something right. Probably won't stop because she is jealous of you so she will try to say things to make herself feel better.
Take it from me though you look damn gorgeous. Congrats on the weight loss. Proud of you.0 -
If you don't get fat shamed by thin people, you get thin shamed by fat people. Don't let it bother you too much. Or, you could just verbally retaliate.0
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I've lost 60 pounds. I'm 5'2", so I get that that was a big deal to the people around me. However, it's been a year since I stopped losing. So, WHY do people still feel the need to make comments???
This conversation just happened on the elevator:
Coworker: "Have you tried the new food trucks on Wednesdays?"
Me: "No, I haven't. Are they good."
Coworker: "Oh, that's right. You don't eat anymore."
Me: "Seriously? I eat a lot!"
Coworker: (laugh) "Sure you do..."
WHY IS THIS OK???? If I were overweight a coworker wouldn't feel comfortable making comments about what I eat. So why is it ok now that I'm not?
Ok, sorry, rant over.
Does this ever happen to you guys? Did it EVER stop???
Actually if you were overweight they'd try to give you tips on what to f-ing eat to lose weight. I just tell me to f* off and mind their own business...probably why I have so very few friends...like 3...including my husband :ohwell: lol.0 -
We teach people how to treat ourselves... BY NOT saying something... you give permission to your co-worker to treat you in a way that finds you reaching out to strangers on the web for affirmation that it was wrong... is your relationship with this co-worker so bad that YOU are reluctant to say something? OR is this the way you allow everyone in your world to interact with you?0
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No, I think no matter what you're eating (or not eating) people will comment on it. Years ago I used to always eat frozen dinners, ramen noodles, or Chef Boyardee, so people would comment then because it was all packaged food.
Now I cook food and bring leftovers, and people still feel the need to comment on my lunches.
Some days it can still bug me, but most of the time I just ignore them. Or at least try to hide my eye rolling.0 -
Whoops, lol then he is either gay or he is mad he can't have you.0
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I've lost 60 pounds. I'm 5'2", so I get that that was a big deal to the people around me. However, it's been a year since I stopped losing. So, WHY do people still feel the need to make comments???
This conversation just happened on the elevator:
Coworker: "Have you tried the new food trucks on Wednesdays?"
Me: "No, I haven't. Are they good."
Coworker: "Oh, that's right. You don't eat anymore."
Me: "Seriously? I eat a lot!"
Coworker: (laugh) "Sure you do..."
WHY IS THIS OK???? If I were overweight a coworker wouldn't feel comfortable making comments about what I eat. So why is it ok now that I'm not?
Ok, sorry, rant over.
Does this ever happen to you guys? Did it EVER stop???
Actually if you were overweight they'd try to give you tips on what to f-ing eat to lose weight. I just tell me to f* off and mind their own business...probably why I have so very few friends...like 3...including my husband :ohwell: lol.
Sounds like my kind of friend.0 -
I had this very same conversation with some friends of mine before. All I can say is that at the root of jokes is a kernel of truth. Meaning that there is a reason for the snide remarks and comments and it never has anything to do with the person to which it is directed. Those people are often jealous and insecure and when you took charge of your life and made the changes necessary it makes them take notice of how out of control their lives are. This coworker has rationalized your weight loss as being from a starvation diet and in their mind can content themselves with thinking, well I could be that small if I was willing to starve myself but Im not so I'm actually better off. It really is about the other person trying to feel better next to you. I find it ironic how many people make just as hurtful, mean spiteful comments to active smaller people and its accepted. If I were to say some of what has been saifd to me to obese people I would be written up, maybe fired etc. I would like to say the comments stop but they don't. I get the labeled and joked about often. I guess all I can say is to let it go. I know easier said than done. I will tell you though what I told my son and I follow it myself. If someone is bullying you or generally trying to bring you down, just remember you are the center of their universe and their own little obsession. He actually told someone that one day who kept trying to get him in trouble and cause trouble. The kid has since left him alone. I digress, and that is not to say that is what you face, but I have to remember that when people take issue with my fitness. And kudos to you on a healthy lifestyle.0
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Nope, they never stop. It's been 9 years since my big weight loss and the comments still come is almost all family outings.0
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I've lost 60 pounds. I'm 5'2", so I get that that was a big deal to the people around me. However, it's been a year since I stopped losing. So, WHY do people still feel the need to make comments???
This conversation just happened on the elevator:
Coworker: "Have you tried the new food trucks on Wednesdays?"
Me: "No, I haven't. Are they good."
Coworker: "Oh, that's right. You don't eat anymore."
Me: "Seriously? I eat a lot!"
Coworker: (laugh) "Sure you do..."
WHY IS THIS OK???? If I were overweight a coworker wouldn't feel comfortable making comments about what I eat. So why is it ok now that I'm not?
Ok, sorry, rant over.
Does this ever happen to you guys? Did it EVER stop???
Actually if you were overweight they'd try to give you tips on what to f-ing eat to lose weight. I just tell me to f* off and mind their own business...probably why I have so very few friends...like 3...including my husband :ohwell: lol.
Sounds like my kind of friend.
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Here's what happened...you got defensive. If you let it bother you...more specifically, if you let it show that it bothered you, the comments will keep coming.
Coworker: "Did you try any of the food trucks?"
You: "No."
Coworker: "Oh that's right you don't eat."
You: "Yeah, I'm skinny. I look amazing, don't I?"
***End of conversation
ETA: This is why I have 3 friends, including my husband0 -
I'm genuinely curious: why does it bother you?0
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The comments of your co-worker seemed rather snarky and insinuated a few things about you. The comments usually do not stop, it depends a lot on the person and the environment.0
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I'm genuinely curious: why does it bother you?
A) Because I'm in a really bad mood today so it rubbed me wrong. That's just me being honest.
Because it really does bother me sometimes that people seem to think that my body is ok to comment on now, when they never would have dared do so when I was overweight.
So tell them it pisses you off. What are they going to say back to someone standing up for themselves?0 -
I don't get them as often but I still get them.0
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Jealousy .. :flowerforyou:0
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eat tons . gain weight. show them how much you eat!0
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[/quote] Because it really does bother me sometimes that people seem to think that my body is ok to comment on now, when they never would have dared do so when I was overweight.
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You're lucky they didn't have anything to say when you were over-wieght. I've had my own family tell me to stop eating (entirely) because I am fat. My grandma said she didn't like me because I am fat. My college served hot meals, and the server told me that she is giving me less to "help me out." When I was trying on wedding dresses, I left David's Bridal after one of the associates told me that the style I picked out didn't look good because of my size, even though I liked it.
Yes, I let these things bother me once, and I even let them fuel my attempts at skipping meals. Now I don't let it bother me because my husband thinks I'm sexy and my baby girl smiles at me no matter what! You shouldn't let the haters get you down either!0 -
This is def. frustrating.. some people are clueless... I gave up a while back trying to defend being healthy. I just laugh it off and say whatever. But never once when I was overweight people commented about my eating habits. Def a big double standard. But the people saying stuff I found to be just jealous and not worth my time or energy getting upset about. I now take it as a compliment. The more I get talked about.. the better I must look :drinker:0
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I have a coworker who is always like "Becca have you eaten!?" "Becca, it's so good to see you eating!!"
I straight up asked her a few weeks ago if she thought I had an eating disorder. She said yes, I'm so skinny and I need to eat.
It aggravates me because I have never had an ED. I've been the same weight now for 3 years, and I haven't changed much in the past year (which is when I've been working with her). IF anything I've gained a bit because I'm slacking.
The comments stop at some point... it's those people who knew you when you were fat and got skinny that love to comment.
(But seriously... go try the food trucks. I have so many in my city and I love them all
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I still get them, but I get the "Oh so you kept it off for a while now" Which is funny because I was in shape for the majority of my life and Fat for only about 5 years. We had a going away lunch at a chinese buffett today and some lady I work with said "HOW do you keep it off when you eat a a buffett!?" Well, first I DON'T eat at Buffett's everyday for every meal and I had a KICK *kitten*! workout this morning and I will have another tomorrow morning, plus if she had actually looked at my plate she would have seen the veggies and baked (terriyaki) chicken, OK so I had banana pudding too but hey I earned it
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