Do the comments ever stop?

It stopped when I changed jobs!

1. Some people have no tact and will continue to make comments forever.
2.You should challenge your co-worker to an eating contest.
3.How many food trucks are there and why have you not tried them yet? Food trucks are awesome.

people in my office think i eat non-stop. because i get a lunch that is twice, or sometimes three times as large as theirs. they also know that i have lost 50-55 lbs.

so they comment on how much food i get. and that is almost daily. it gets a little annoying, but only when i'm already cranky.

then they get itty bitty lunches because they are trying to lose weight. somehow, it's not computing in their head that, again, i lost weight and am eating 3x what they are and they are not losing and eating very little.

i just smile and nod when they tell me about their "diet."

If you don't get fat shamed by thin people, you get thin shamed by fat people. Don't let it bother you too much. Or, you could just verbally retaliate.

We teach people how to treat ourselves... BY NOT saying something... you give permission to your co-worker to treat you in a way that finds you reaching out to strangers on the web for affirmation that it was wrong... is your relationship with this co-worker so bad that YOU are reluctant to say something? OR is this the way you allow everyone in your world to interact with you?

Whoops, lol then he is either gay or he is mad he can't have you.

I had this very same conversation with some friends of mine before. All I can say is that at the root of jokes is a kernel of truth. Meaning that there is a reason for the snide remarks and comments and it never has anything to do with the person to which it is directed. Those people are often jealous and insecure and when you took charge of your life and made the changes necessary it makes them take notice of how out of control their lives are. This coworker has rationalized your weight loss as being from a starvation diet and in their mind can content themselves with thinking, well I could be that small if I was willing to starve myself but Im not so I'm actually better off. It really is about the other person trying to feel better next to you. I find it ironic how many people make just as hurtful, mean spiteful comments to active smaller people and its accepted. If I were to say some of what has been saifd to me to obese people I would be written up, maybe fired etc. I would like to say the comments stop but they don't. I get the labeled and joked about often. I guess all I can say is to let it go. I know easier said than done. I will tell you though what I told my son and I follow it myself. If someone is bullying you or generally trying to bring you down, just remember you are the center of their universe and their own little obsession. He actually told someone that one day who kept trying to get him in trouble and cause trouble. The kid has since left him alone. I digress, and that is not to say that is what you face, but I have to remember that when people take issue with my fitness. And kudos to you on a healthy lifestyle.

I've lost 60 pounds. I'm 5'2", so I get that that was a big deal to the people around me. However, it's been a year since I stopped losing. So, WHY do people still feel the need to make comments???

This conversation just happened on the elevator:

Coworker: "Have you tried the new food trucks on Wednesdays?"
Me: "No, I haven't. Are they good."
Coworker: "Oh, that's right. You don't eat anymore."
Me: "Seriously? I eat a lot!"
Coworker: (laugh) "Sure you do..."

WHY IS THIS OK???? If I were overweight a coworker wouldn't feel comfortable making comments about what I eat. So why is it ok now that I'm not?

Ok, sorry, rant over.

Does this ever happen to you guys? Did it EVER stop???

Actually if you were overweight they'd try to give you tips on what to f-ing eat to lose weight. I just tell me to f* off and mind their own business...probably why I have so very few friends...like 3...including my husband :ohwell: lol.

Sounds like my kind of friend.

ditto

I'm genuinely curious: why does it bother you?