Struggling to adjust to new body

I bought smaller clothes. That helped a good deal.

I've lost 78 so far and have another 72+ to go. I understand what you mean. I haven't been this small since I was a kid and if I get to my overall goal then I have no idea how I will feel.

A little anxiety here too.

I keep buying clothes the size I used to be and then *****ing all my clothes are too big. I can't seem to convince my mind I'm not that big anymore.

I don't feel small yet, even though I went from being 3 lbs shy of obese to normal weight by BMI standards. I feel like my height is even more pronounced now that I don't have pudge to hide behind. I'm 5'11 and I feel like I stick out more. Overall, 99% of people have been very positive and supportive. One woman has made backhanded comments. It only reveals her own weight insecurity, which is sad because even if she loses weight and gets her dream body, she'll still be nasty on the inside.

I'm still hiding behind most of my old wardrobe since I don't want to buy new clothes for another 20 lbs. When that day comes I am probably going to be all, "Look at me! Look at me! Oh gahhd they're all looking at me ahh"

I'm dealing with this issue too. I feel that I've become more hyper focused on my flaws versus seeing myself as an all around problem area. It takes time to adjust. It's been improving for me in the last few weeks. What I've done is note when I feel healthy/strong/thinner and take a moment to appreciate how I've gotten here and recognize I'm further and closer than before. Yes, there's been unpleasant reactions to the new me, but there is much more positive and it's so worth it. I wouldn't ever want to go back. You've improved the quality of your life exponentially. Love yourself more for making that effort!

Three things are hard to adjust to (not done after 6 months):

1) face - as previously discussed above
2)bumping or NOT bumping into stuff when un/intended
3)cold, fragility - I never felt so fragile before, it used to be me hurling people to the ground, immobilising them, left standing after a crash with someone during a game, not any more :grumble:

Three things easy to adjust to:

1) new-found agility - never run 8K before, hiking never felt so great
2) people noticing / not recognizing you
3) maintenance calories once weight loss is done :drinker:

How long di it take for people to stop commenting about your weight loss? I want everyone to get used to me and just say hello without comments...

I know how you feel, it's weird isn't it!
whilst i've never been very big, i don't feel small in my head yet. I caught sight of myself in the mirror during a class and nearly fell over- i couldn't believe that the reflection staring back at me was mine ( i was balancing on one leg at the time)
I hold up these clothes i can now fit in and i can't quite believe i can actually wear them, it's a little overwhelming at times.
having a lot more male attention and women asking me how i lost so much weight, most of the time i just don't see it then i have one of those moments and it just hits me.

OMG YES!!! in the last 7 years I've lost 125 lbs.. went from a 24 to a 6!

I'm STILL adjusting to the new (apparently) 'hot' me as I keep getting called.... past boyfriends drool harder now than when they did when we were together..... I've lost few friends cause I'm not 'fat' anymore and they can't handle the new healthier me. Mainly I don't go binge eating with them anymore, don't want to be see as the 'fat' friend :-/... which sucks for me as my personality hasn't changed and I don't feel different. And I thought we had great friendships but guess not.. I don't know... but it sucks....and for awhile my anxiety was so bad I was a hermit, barely got out to see my friends, due to the judgement I was constantly feeling..
I am getting better, a few of the good friends got me to come out and pictures surfaced on line. Ie. Facebook and being tagged in them helped me to start to accept the image I see in the mirror. Cause they match..! They don't tell you when you start this journey that your going to feel like an alien in your own body! lol
After this last vacation we just went on, we came home and I switched out all the pictures frames to the 'new' me.. save one. So when i look at memories that I know I did, I see the "forever me" and know that I did do this and that hot chick in the mirror is me lol...
Give it time and maybe start displaying some pics of you around the house. Just know you did it and that's the new you! The new healthier you!...

3 years on it still catches me out. I have a pair of jeans that I regularly get out of the cupboard and think "whose are they - way to small for me". I can never find myself in pics from behind as I'm looking for big hips, and I regularly think the reflection in the mirror at the gym must be a picture or someone else (in fairness I don't wear my glasses while working out so cant see much).

People can be mean and jealous, and yes I still have some hang ups about my body, but I know it looks so much better and I am so much fitter and healthier than I was.

It took me a while to adjust to clothes. I booked a session with a personal shopper for advice on styles etc and she suggested some things I would never have tried thinking they were for thin people! I have changed my wardrobe over time, using sales and charity shops mainly, and weeded out my larger clothes though I have kept a couple just to remind myself of why I must never go back.

Yes it is weird I still feel like my old fat self most days. When I look at pictures of me now I'm like wow I ain't a fatass anymore


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Part of it is just time. It took me about 6 months to adjust. But buying new clothes that fit did help. I didn't do that until someone flat out told me that my clothes didn't fit anymore-- I honestly didn't realize I was swimming in them.

I am in the same situation. I lost 62 lbs and went from size 14 to size 4, ie from 189 lbs to 127. Women are vicious and I had many not very nice comments. So, I developed some sort of anxiety... I had to buy a brand new wardrobe. Women are vicious at work. I am thinking to change my job because I am uncomfortable.

Have you confronted them and told them they're making you uncomfortable?

I was told by someone at work who uses a walker that I look like s#!t. I rarely have people who are thinner than me tell me I'm too thin, if ever.

Twice I got to goal with weight watchers and lost about 55 pounds each time. I was told I got too thin (I was 142 and 5'5"-so not too thin), I should stop losing weight, and asked if I was sick, etc. I looked great and felt great. These comments did not help. I used to be a WW leader. It takes time to adjust to a new body mentally, especially if you lost it rather quickly. It could take months or more than a year for your mind to adjust to your new body. I now have the reserve syndrome where I look in a mirror and see a head and shoulders view of me and think I am about 3 sizes less than I really am!

I used to pick out big clothes after hitting goal and was surprised after going back and forth to the dressing room that I fit into size 6 jeans and medium tops. I was so used to buying big clothes for so many years, by mind thought I should try on bigger clothes.

One thing I also noticed is that when I lost weight, I used to trip. I would dance awkwardly and trip over me feet. I finally realized that I didn't realize how light I was and how my body just moved differently.

It takes time, but you will adjust-and congrats!