Anxiety about fitted clothes

gotanda · September 2014

I know it must be something totally stupid, but... I would like to know if anyone experienced that before and how to overcome it. I know it's all in my head. So I lost a little over 60 lbs within 6 months and now in size 4. So, I had to buy many clothes and many of them are fitted ( not tight and not showing skin). I feel that people stare at me and I am not very happy about that superficial attention. So I want to wear my big clothes to get back to invisible state, but not sure if this is a solution and how to deal with that? Where to get the bloody confidence? Should I just suck it up and admit that this is human nature to look closely at other people?

VelveteenArabian · September 2014

It's human nature to look and to judge, yes. If you're getting a lot of commentary, you might be wearing something that's flat out inappropriate. If you're just wearing regular stuff and not like spandex pants, then the issue lies totally with you. You might need to see a therapist about it. You might just need to get over yourself and stop thinking everyone is gawking at you. I don't know you so I can't say which is more appropriate.

If you'd rather wear the baggy clothes, then wear them. People will still look at you though and if the clothes are big enough they might wonder if you've got issues.

Linnaea27 · September 2014

Congrats on your successful weight loss!

I lost a lot less than you, but still went from a size 10 to a size 2 or 4. . . and it's been weird getting used to being able to wear fitted clothes (especially dresses that show off my figure). I despised my belly for so long I still feel like it's unattractive, even when I actually look great in fitted clothes that show me off.

The people staring at you is partially your imagination and anxiety altering your perception of other people, and probably partially the people looking at you and envying your newly slim self. I have noticed that since getting to my present small size, people look at me more often-- men and women. It is uncomfortable but so what, be proud of yourself.

Act confident and it will probably help your worries to go away. Also, really ENJOY the new clothes.

I've found that larger women seem to give me more sour looks for no good reason now that I am thin. I don't know if this is my imagination or not. . . it feels kind of rude to even mention that I suspect this. . . but I don't let it get to me! Don't worry so much about other people. . . or at least, tell yourself you are not as worried!

gotanda · September 2014

Yes, I should stop worring about other people. My problem that I am very sensitive person and just need to get over about who thinks what. Thank you for the nice and insitive comments. I was thinking that I would find the support here. And sorry if I erked anyone, as this should be the least to discuss. My clothes are very professional ( I am taking about office type situations).

xX_PhoenixRising_Xx · September 2014

What other people think of you is none of your business... whether or not you feel judged by other people, wear clothes that you feel comfortable in. They may be looking, they may not be, but either way it doesn't really effect you. So be comfortable and go about your day

cincysweetheart · September 2014

Chances are… people are not looking as much as you think they are (they usually aren't). Yes, there will be some that look and judge… but typically most people are too busy thinking about themselves to pay that much attention to others. That's human nature! But if you really are getting looks and/or commentary… it's probably because you look so great and they simply want to give you a compliment.

I think it's natural after weight loss. We are so used to wearing clothes that hide our body (especially since that's what most plus size clothing does!), that once we start wearing clothes that are more fitted, we naturally feel self-conscious. I don't know how recent this is for you… but I'm guessing that with time you'll gradually relax and get used to your new clothing. Give it a little time.

If you feel more comfortable wearing less fitted clothing… that's certainly an option and your choice. But I'm guessing it won't do much for your self-confidence.

gotanda · September 2014

Thank you very much! I like the point that it's not my business what people think about me! I will keep it in my head starting from today!!! My transformation is fairly recent, I went from size 14 to size 4 from February till now, but became really self conscious when I got to size 6.

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