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Have you ever refused to give someone a ride?

Tanie98
Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
I refused to give a co worker a ride home few days ago and today when she saw me she didn't say hi to me.There was definitely some tension between us .The reason why I refused to give her a lift home is she started expecting me to drive her every time we worked the same shift.

I would help someone if they are stuck or if it's emergency but I hate doing it regulary.I don't want to be responsible for someone else transportion.I also find it relaxing being alone in my car .

So have you ever refused to give someone a ride ? Did that person stopped taking to you?

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  • Chief_Rocka
    Chief_Rocka Posts: 4,710 Member
    Yeah, she had a humpback
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    If she paid you at least that would be better.

    I wouldn't bother feeling bad about it. It's her problem for not being a responsible adult and either finding proper transport or asking politely if you would be interested in a carpool.
  • KaterinaTerese
    KaterinaTerese Posts: 345 Member
    :wink:
  • BigLifter10
    BigLifter10 Posts: 1,153 Member
    I refused to give a co worker a ride home few days ago and today when she saw me she didn't say hi to me.There was definitely some tension between us .The reason why I refused to give her a lift home is she started expecting me to drive her every time we worked the same shift.

    I would help someone if they are stuck or if it's emergency but I hate doing it regulary.I don't want to be responsible for someone else transportion.I also find it relaxing being alone in my car .

    So have you ever refused to give someone a ride ? Did that person stopped taking to you?



    Is she like Sheldon? (Big Bang) I had a lady do that to me awhile back - did it twice, then she Velcro'd herself to someone else who became her taxi. I left before the taxi service woman quit - not sure who is doing it now..
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    If she paid you at least that would be better.

    I wouldn't bother feeling bad about it. It's her problem for not being a responsible adult and either finding proper transport or asking politely if you would be interested in a carpool.

    She takes public transportion so its not like she has no way of getting home. I used to a bus to for years before I had my car
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I refused to give a co worker a ride home few days ago and today when she saw me she didn't say hi to me.There was definitely some tension between us .The reason why I refused to give her a lift home is she started expecting me to drive her every time we worked the same shift.

    I would help someone if they are stuck or if it's emergency but I hate doing it regulary.I don't want to be responsible for someone else transportion.I also find it relaxing being alone in my car .

    So have you ever refused to give someone a ride ? Did that person stopped taking to you?

    Do you work with my Ex?
  • I feel like I've read this thread before.....
  • Tallawah_
    Tallawah_ Posts: 2,475 Member
    Oooooh tricky! I've had to be pretty evasive at times! LOL!

    What reason did you give her?
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Were you the same one who made the ride thread awhile back? like a month or so?
  • FrozenSongBird
    FrozenSongBird Posts: 3,892 Member
    I feel like I've read this thread before.....

    De ja vu 2
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I feel like I've read this thread before.....

    In the other thread I beleive she was claiming to not want to ever have to give anyone a ride. If this is the same person she has aparently gone ahead and given in and is now on the hook for either giving the ride or hate stares.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    I throw food at hitchhikers all the time
  • I feel like I've read this thread before.....

    In the other thread I beleive she was claiming to not want to ever have to give anyone a ride. If this is the same person she has aparently gone ahead and given in and is now on the hook for either giving the ride or hate stares.

    I knew it sounded familiar.
  • melissay28
    melissay28 Posts: 100 Member
    I had a co-worker ask me to give her a ride home because her taxi driver wasn't available. I was 19 at the time and me thinking taxi = $$$ to go far she wouldn't live far away from work. She told me "close to downtown". Downtown was only about 10 minutes drive past my house & I had no other plans so I said yes. Not only did I have to wait for her to finish her grocery shopping, we get in the car & she starts asking me do I know where xyz place is at. I start putting 2 & 2 together and realized that she lives on the OTHER side of downtown. Not only did I go the "long way" to her house but I was going probably another 15-20 minutes past where I was thinking I would be going! I finally dropped her off and headed home, in rush out traffic at this point. My normally 10-15 minute drive home took more like an hour and a half. She didn't offer gas money either! She asked me again a couple weeks later & I told her no, I had plans. She didn't ask anymore after that. I still don't know how she could afford to take a taxi back and forth to work everyday on walmart cashier salary! I'm sure it was a good 20 miles each way from her house to work!

    After that I always asked questions before agreeing to rides! I don't mind helping if someone needs it but I also don't like being taken advantage of either!
  • Ali_momof2
    Ali_momof2 Posts: 478 Member
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  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    I had a co-worker ask me to give her a ride home because her taxi driver wasn't available. I was 19 at the time and me thinking taxi = $$$ to go far she wouldn't live far away from work. She told me "close to downtown". Downtown was only about 10 minutes drive past my house & I had no other plans so I said yes. Not only did I have to wait for her to finish her grocery shopping, we get in the car & she starts asking me do I know where xyz place is at. I start putting 2 & 2 together and realized that she lives on the OTHER side of downtown. Not only did I go the "long way" to her house but I was going probably another 15-20 minutes past where I was thinking I would be going! I finally dropped her off and headed home, in rush out traffic at this point. My normally 10-15 minute drive home took more like an hour and a half. She didn't offer gas money either! She asked me again a couple weeks later & I told her no, I had plans. She didn't ask anymore after that. I still don't know how she could afford to take a taxi back and forth to work everyday on walmart cashier salary! I'm sure it was a good 20 miles each way from her house to work!

    After that I always asked questions before agreeing to rides! I don't mind helping if someone needs it but I also don't like being taken advantage of either!


    Its not good anymore once it becomes an expected gesture
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I personally wouldn't mind doing it if we worked the same hours and if it was on my way. But maybe that's just me.
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    Yes, but in a different way. I used to go out with a guy who expected me to drive every single time we went out so he could drink. That got old really fast.
  • shellma00
    shellma00 Posts: 1,684 Member
    I feel like I've read this thread before.....

    In the other thread I beleive she was claiming to not want to ever have to give anyone a ride. If this is the same person she has aparently gone ahead and given in and is now on the hook for either giving the ride or hate stares.

    I knew it sounded familiar.

    yep I was thinking the same thing
  • JazmineYoli
    JazmineYoli Posts: 547 Member
    Yes, but in a different way. I used to go out with a guy who expected me to drive every single time we went out so he could drink. That got old really fast.

    I dated some of those guys
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  • caracrawford1
    caracrawford1 Posts: 657 Member
    I haven't. But I did have a conversation with a coworker about her asking for rides from me on several occasions but never offering gas money. When I say several I mean more than 8 times. In fact she doesn't offer gas money to anyone.
    I let her know that I felt taken advantage of and that if she wants a ride, she will need to offer something other than her standard "oh I'm broke" response.
  • ParamoreAddict
    ParamoreAddict Posts: 839 Member
    Yeah but I don't drive because of my Epilepsy ;)
  • notworthstalking
    notworthstalking Posts: 531 Member
    Not anyone I know. I was dropping a lady off at a bus stop and a stranger tried to get in my car. Um no....

    I work afternoons, and finish at 10 pm. The last bus leaves about then and it's a 20 min walk to the stop. So pretty much, giving people rides is necessary. When I was without a car for a few weeks I always gave my ride petrol money. If I was giving someone a regular lift , I would expect help with petrol. I actually had to explain to someone when I was still a temp and they talked us out of hours that I needed. I mean I spend $50 to $ 70 a week getting to work.

    I do agree that some people abuse the situation.
  • stuart160
    stuart160 Posts: 1,628 Member
    No, unfortunately, it's difficult to say no even when you don't feel like it. In the end though, doing something so small doesn't cost a lot.