i need to lose over 100 pounds and i need help!

I've only lost 12 lbs so far, and it's taken me a year. The bulk of this has been just getting myself into the right head space, finding ways to keep myself motivated, working through my relationship with food, and working through the reasons why I constantly start and stop. It takes time and patience. It's not for everyone, but I went the therapy route, which has helped so much. I learned how to manage my stress and practiced combating negative thoughts that were at the root of my stalling. A year ago, I didn't think losing weight was ever going to be possible, now I know it is. I take it day by day, meal by meal. The small changes I started making have added up and now I'm seeing the results. I never thought they would.

I think back to all the times I started and stopped--how I felt when I had regained the weight I lost and how much further I could've been in my journey if I had just pushed myself that one extra step--and use it as motivation for the present.

In teaching, there's a concept called meeting students at their level of readiness, and I think the same is true for weight loss. Look at your patterns and determine what things hold you back from weight loss and make small changes to address them. I.e, instead of 2lbs a week, start with 1lb. If you don't like exercise, focus on the eating first and get that to a manageable place and then work in exercise later...the point is, don't feel like you have to do everything in the beginning. I often did this and felt overwhelmed...it was too much change at once and wasn't realistic for me.

Hello, welcome to MFP!! It's a great place to get support.

I had 130 lbs to lose at the beginning of this journey and now I'm down 30 lbs and have 100 to go.

Some advice I'd like to give you is not to deprive yourself of anything. You can still have sweets and delicious carbs, although some would disagree, but losing the weight is really a matter of portion control. If you burn more calories than you take in you will loose weight. Even if all of those calories are cookies, but I wouldn't recommend that haha.
For a first step get the calorie counting down ( I highly recommend a food scale for this they are wonderful and not too speedy ) You can still eat the foods you crave just less of them. Then, Once your able to stay with in your weight loss calories with those foods, start to try and get a hold on the nutrition part. Replace a fast food meal with a salad once or twice a week. Eventually it ll become routine and you ll probably stop craving the bad food as much. Going slowly and Taking baby steps helps the lifestyle change to not feel so overwhelming. You can remind yourself that this is not a race and you will have really successful days and some not so successful ones. That's ok, just keep going. Get in the mindset of this being a lifestyle change, not a diet, so you can prepare yourself to be in this for the long haul. Also don't underestimate your strength. When you crave to binge on something, remind yourself that your strong, and you can do this. You really can! The first many times will be difficult but it will get easier. Prepare for some difficult times like that, but know that you will over come them.

I wish you all the luck on your journey!!